As the saying goes: tongue and teeth will bump from time to time.
In a relationship, even if the relationship is intimate, there will be times of disagreement and disputes.
Measuring whether the relationship is good or not is not about not arguing, but about the attitude after the quarrel.
If after a quarrel, a man can put down his son and coax you, then he must love you very much.
1. People who truly love you will compromise for you.
On the way to work, I received a text message from my husband, saying that he would take me to dinner on the weekend and had already booked a newly opened Internet celebrity restaurant. My colleague said, you have been married for so many years, how can you still be so affectionate.
Actually, when the two of us first got together, we didn't get along well, and we often quarreled over some trivial matters, but every time he would take the initiative to coax me, in fact, many times it was me who was unreasonable, and my husband would still let me.
I felt happy in this marriage. In my daily life, my husband showed his love and care for me, which gave me the confidence to be happy.
A man who is willing to compromise and tolerate for love, he really loves you from the bottom of his heart.
The degree of love for a person is not how much he does for you when he is romantic; It's how much he lets you when you quarrel.
Who's to say it isn't?
A man who truly loves you is willing to be weak for love and give up being strong, and it doesn't matter if it's right or wrong, whether you win or lose.
Because he knows that making the woman he loves happy is the most important thing.
2. People who truly love you don't fight to win or lose.
My colleague Kobayashi complained to his colleagues in the office, saying that he had quarreled with his girlfriend and had been in a cold war for two weeks. Other colleagues suggested that he quickly apologize and admit his mistakes, coaxing each other, and the cold war would wear down the feelings between them.
Xiao Lin said that he was right, why should he bow his head and admit defeat first? I suddenly thought, can feelings be measured by right and wrong, winning or losing?
In fact, it is not, there is only love and no love.
When you love someone enough, you will give up all your worries in front of her and be willing to admit defeat.
Just like my best friend said not long ago: In marriage, she can't experience her husband's love, every time she has a dispute with her husband, her husband can always make her speechless, and he will not admit that it is his own problem.
Even if he is at his own expense, he will secretly change his concept and blame her for the mistake.
In short, her husband will always be the victor in front of her.
Gradually, the girlfriend chose to keep her mouth shut, and her married life became a pantomime.
Love or not love is obvious, those who love you are willing to lose, and those who don't love you have to fight with you to win or lose, even if it makes you sad.
A man's willingness to bow his head first and admit defeat does not mean that he must have done something wrong, but he doesn't want to let the quarrel destroy each other's feelings, he only cares about your feelings.
3. People who really love you are willing to coax you.
There is a scene in "Little Farewell": Huang Lei, in order to make a living, put down his son and hide from his wife to get a job in his ex-girlfriend's company, Haiqing was angry and sad when he found out.
Huang Lei immediately relented, knelt on the ground and explained, in order to coax back to Haiqing, Huang Lei made a grimace and begged for forgiveness.
In fact, a man who loves you is not quarreling with you, but is willing to compromise and coax you back after a quarrel.
It's like that sentence: A good man is a big man outside, and he becomes a small man in seconds when he gets home.
Yes, because the people who care about you are reluctant to make you angry, and they can't bear to let you immerse yourself in sad emotions.
In fact, many times he doesn't know what he did wrong and doesn't understand why you are angry, but he is willing to find ways to make you happy and please you.
When a man is willing to put down his son and coax you to be happy, he must love you deeply, and his company in marriage is often happy.
Roland said: In marriage, everyone has to pay the price, and at the same time have to take something back, which is the law of supply and demand of love.
Affection is a matter of two people, love is mutual, when a man coaxes you, you also have to give each other steps down, in order to maintain the dynamic balance of the relationship.
Marriage is a long road, and you need to be tolerant and understanding with each other in order to go comfortably and smoothly, and the days will be more and more enjoyable.