Mr. Lu Xun has a famous saying:
"When I'm silent, I feel fulfilled; When I opened my mouth to speak, I felt empty. ”
A person who likes to chatter often tries to fill the lack of heart through words.
As everyone knows, people who are full in heart or truly mature people can remain silent.
As Jiang Xun said:
"The silence of adults is a cocoon born of years. ”
Of course, people do not know silence at the beginning, but after years of precipitation, they can gradually feel the power of silence.
In this way, you can be in silence, in silence, so as to achieve the best state of life.
Fight back in silence
There is such a saying on the Internet:
Silence is not because there is no emotion, but because there is no point in saying more. ”
If you think about it, silence is a kind of silent **, and when it comes to resolving conflicts, it is often more effective than saying meaningless words.
After all, if you only complain about right and wrong, you can only quarrel and not explain the best solution.
Because "the pure person is self-purifying", if he is innocent, then the words of others will not come true;
If you meet someone who is messing around, your painstaking explanation will only confirm the slander of others, as the other party wishes.
In other words, those things that don't make sense to others, blindly talking to oneself, will only consume one's own energy.
Therefore, only by learning to shut up and let the rumors disappear is the best way to save energy for yourself and fight back against the other party.
Just like Li Ao said:
"Sometimes explanations are unnecessary: enemies don't believe your explanations, friends don't need your explanations. ”
You know, if anger is useful, you don't have to explain it too much; But if the explanation is useless, no matter how much you say, it will be nonsense.
Rather than a weak debate and useless rebuttal, it is better to remain silent, save time to yourself, and do something more meaningful.
When you take the initiative to block the gossip of the outside world, what you will leave in your heart will be the calmness and satisfaction left in the quiet.
Crossing yourself in silence
There is such a sentence in "Dear Andrey":
"No one will always be with anyone, we are all lonely kings in our own world. Some things can only be faced by oneself, some roads can only be walked by oneself, and some passes can only be crossed by oneself. ”
I think so. Many people can only walk with you for a while; There are many roads that can only be walked by oneself.
When we are not satisfied, we can only better cope with various challenges by quietly improving ourselves and cultivating ourselves.
If you are willing to fall and let your life go bad, then your life will only go downhill.
Silence is not about doing nothing, but about temporarily breaking away from the complicated world and devoting yourself to your own small world.
Yishu once said:"People have to be hurt to be silent and focused, whether it is a mental or physical wound, it is good for growth. ”
Maybe we are all the same, we can't really grow without hitting the south wall and not looking back, and we can't really grow without experiencing setbacks.
So, even if we trip over difficult stones and fall a few times along the way.
These are the lessons we must learn as we mature.
I like the sentence of the writer Sanmao very much:
"People and things in the world have their time to come and go, we just need to cultivate ourselves to be the best and wait quietly. ”
Learn to be silent, in order to suddenly understand some truths one day, to let go of past regrets, and to make a slight adjustment after the collapse.
In this way, you will be able to save your soul in the self-transcendence, let your heart have a support, and meet a better self in silence.
Silence is the best state of life
Someone on Zhihu asked, "What is the reason why you are becoming more and more silent?" ”
One of them replied:
Sometimes, you are misunderstood, but you don't want to argue;
Sometimes, you are found to be wrong, but you don't bother to fight back;
Sometimes, it's not that you don't know, you just don't want to say it, so you choose to be silent. ”
Many times, your silence is not a compromise, but after seeing through someone else's lie, you choose not to expose it;
When misunderstood by others, your generosity makes you choose to face it calmly and laugh it off.
After going through a lot of things in the world, you look down on it because you see it clearly, and you look down on it because you see it through.
In other words, silence is letting others go, and it's also letting go of oneself.
When you learn to be silent, you can understand the value of silence; When you know how to be silent, you can know that silence is the best state of life.