As a woman, if you want to become a professional elite like Gu Qingyu in "Home of the Heart", you have to give up and make trade-offs. Because giving up itself hides an advantage.
Why? Because having children is routine, there is a high probability that it will fall into mediocrity. During the critical rise of their careers, most women unknowingly give up opportunities to men.
The so-called "setback" is a kind of "abandon before taking", and the chess anchor "Brother Hat" often performs "abandon before taking". There are various routines such as the thirteen tricks of abandoning horses, and the same is true in the workplace. And because doing so itself is anti-banal.
Gu Qingyu became an executive of a foreign company with an annual salary of several million early. His personal life is stuck in the fantasy of adolescence. She was shocked when she found out that the primary school bully Shi Yuan, who often helped her in her studies, had been reduced to a small tour guide with only a vocational high school diploma.
Gu Qingyu's downfall towards her first love was quickly ignored by the flowing piano performance. Previously, only the nouveau riche Zhanxiang had been relentlessly pursuing her. But in front of talented women, Zhanxiang has never been able to get Gu Qingyu's real respect, having money can increase the ability to fulfill the other party, and the marriage that has been true love can be "kept fresh", but to get true love, it is based on the premise of getting some kind of "admiration". This is something that Gu Qingyu can't get from Zhanxiang, so Zhanxiang will always be a spare tire. Even if you get a certificate, it's just a formality.
But Shi Yuan has changed greatly, what has not changed is the pride in the subconscious. At this time, under the strong contrast, Shi Yuan was humble to the extreme.
The relationship between men and women is somewhat different because the evolutionary process has left different components in the genes of men and women, women value men's social attributes more, and men value women's biological attributes more. Men are used to being strong, and eating soft rice is even more difficult for men to accept. In particular, the former role has been reversed.
It must be said that the men's workplace setbacks are those like Bill Gates's dropping out of school and starting a business. is not "being started", but seeing the real outlet, and he himself has the talent and good luck in this area.
Shi Yuan was passively "frustrated" by his mother's misoperation. The marriage with Gu Qingyu is a good opportunity for him to win back a game. Although they divorced, he got out of the predicament.
However, it does not apply to people who have been nobles (and then declined). Dignity has memory, and that's where early education comes in. Changing the landscape requires not only opportunities, but also indispensable. Shi Yuan and Feng Xiaoqin's kung fu on the piano keyboard is not only a skill, but also a taste.
Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan both had a setback in the workplace, one took the initiative to do it, and the other was forced to bear it. Mediocrity doesn't have to be the worst, and setbacks don't guarantee success. A woman's setback is a career first and then a family, and a man's setback is a business first and then fate.
Gains and losses are unpredictable, and losing first and then taking is a kind of overall view of the whole situation, with risks and opportunities. I remember that Musk's mother had a famous quote that was very useful, which roughly said: ".Plan for the known and prepare for the unknown
The TV series "Home of the Heart" is adapted from the Lu Xun Literature Award winner Teng Xiaolan's "Home of the Heart" of the same name, the original work focuses on the complicated daily life, and shows the unremitting struggle of ordinary people to change the status quo of their lives. The TV series tells the story of Shanghai residents and intruders who are trying to take root in Shanghai and integrate themselves into Shanghai through the micro social and ecological perspective of the little people "buying houses" and "selling houses".
This book constitutes the common anxiety of modern urbanites. Because, the changes in economic life in the past ten years have profoundly demonstrated that the house is still a place of urban adventure. ** Zhanxiang, who talks about it in a mocking tone from time to time, is actually an adventurer in New Shanghai. With no diploma, no background, and no social experience, he took the fast train of housing prices with unmatched courage alone, owned more than a dozen properties, and quickly accumulated huge wealth. However, even the "beneficiaries" of the house do not necessarily have a better life. In **, Zhanxiang had nothing to do all day except for the pursuit of Gu Qingyu, and had no other pursuits, nor did he show a more outstanding quality in spirit.
There are a lot of these descriptions throughout the **, and it's worth going back to learn from them many times.
Teng Xiaolan said, "The focus of "Home of the Heart" is not 'home', but 'heart', and most people in the book are constantly working hard for what they want in their hearts, living and struggling tenaciously, and finally finding their own spiritual home. I hope that after reading "Home of the Heart", readers can cherish the present and the people in front of them more while feeling that 'life is not easy', and always have hope for life even in adversity, which is my original intention to create this **.
Generally speaking, the TV series has been filmed very well, but compared with the original work of "Home of the Heart", there are still many deletions, and many details are described more thoroughly in the original book.
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