After the start of construction, the network is a piece of energy: lack of vitality.
When everyone thinks of going to work, they lose their energy in an instant, as if their souls have been drained of their seven orifices.
Why? First, I hate interpersonal relationships at work;
Second, it feels like "the pay is not proportional to the return".
These two phenomena can be summed up in a psychological phenomenon: the fear-avoidant personality wants too much.
As a result, your mental internal friction leads to internal friction, the more anxious you are, the more anxious you are, the more you don't want to deal with people and things, and you are afraid to return to work.
Therefore, the best way to solve internal friction is to stop yourself from escaping and face yourself.
Solve the most desperate mentality of internal friction
Four words: I don't want it
The biggest internal friction of people is that they want too much.
I want to handle my relationship with others, I want to get good positive comments from others, and I want to get the attention and love of others.
Think a lot, but it's all about others.
All your emotions are led by others, and you never think about "dealing with yourself and your relationship first".
I have never served my own emotions, everything is about the feelings and opinions of others, and I maintain my relationship with others.
The more you care, the more sensitive your heart becomes; If you are emotionally restrained by others, and you care too much about others and rely on others, then you are prone to gain and lose.
Without a sense of security, it is easy to be anxious about internal friction.
Therefore, if you want to get rid of anxiety, then you have to face yourself and start everything from yourself - manage the relationship with yourself.
A very desperate mentality: I don't want it.
You might as well take these "four words" as a mentality for dealing with things in the future.
1) For "Relationship".
A relationship, whether it is family, friendship or love, first make a worst-case scenario: I don't want it.
So what is the result?
No matter what kind of relationship you don't have, it won't affect your health, ability to make money, or personal quality of life.
You will even have a lot of extra time and energy, and finally you don't have to deal with complicated interpersonal relationships, you don't have to accommodate and look at others, and you can live like crazy for yourself.
The worst thing is this result, no one cares, and it doesn't affect anyone.
It will only make you travel lightly and become light and open.
2) For work
If the work is painful for you, you work hard, but the result is not good; You pay, or stand still.
Then say to yourself: I don't want it.
Don't fight for promotion, don't fight for the celebrity in front of the leader, don't fight for customers, and nod your head with red ears.
What will happen to you? At that moment, you will feel that you are suddenly liberated, and the sense of power you have gained is particularly powerful.
Suddenly, I felt that the stone that was pressing in my heart and made you breathless was suddenly gone.
There is no fear, no gains and losses, only the work content related to you in front of you.
Do the job at hand, don't think about the consequences, bury your head at work, and leave in seconds after work.
When you are so focused and only think about the "work itself", you will find that your work speed is inexplicably improved.
I am no longer afraid of the working day, and I am no longer hesitant about the so-called future.
Do what you do at hand, and let the rest go with the flow.
When you look back, you realize that before you know it, you have the ability to "focus on one thing". Then you do anything, and the result will not be bad.
"There is no shackles in the heart, and it is natural to draw a sword."
From now on, you will not dwell on bad people and bad things, and you will find that there is no more things that make you afraid and let you run away.
Your life will become positive and sunny.
The best way to solve internal friction,
Optimize your energy field
If you want to achieve the mentality of "I don't want it", you must first optimize your energy field and become a person with sufficient internal energy and a strong mentality.
How to optimize the energy field?
Be a "strong" person, note that this is not where you become aggressive.
It requires you: to be true only to yourself, and to have a strong sense of individuality.
Many times you will feel wronged, others bullying you, and internal friction in the relationship, the essence is: you are afraid of losing the relationship.
Therefore, various compromises will be made in order to protect the relationship, but this compromise is to the detriment of yourself and against your consciousness.
People with fragile individual consciousness lack endogenous energy and always seek attention from others or need to be diverted from other things in order to escape from problems.
So they will play with their mobile phones, watch TV, and other behaviors that empty their brains to numb themselves.
This leads you to spurn yourself more, to be more internal, and to have a vicious circle.
If you want to optimize your energy field, get rid of the "dependence on others" mentality.
Be a strong, hard-to-handle person.
The first step is to say no to any person, request, or behavior that makes you uncomfortable.
When you open your mouth to say no to other people's things, it is the beginning of your inner strength.
It's a good way to train the mentality.
The second step is to use a healthy lifestyle to transfer the focus on others to yourself.
Whether it's exercising, reading, drawing, practicing calligraphy, etc., find an activity that allows you to calm down.
Learn to be alone with yourself, then look at yourself, think about yourself, and focus on yourself.
When you are at peace with yourself and focused on being "busy" for yourself, you have already been empowered.
The third step is to keep reading more books.
A big reason for people who think too much and think too much is that they are too ignorant.
If you don't form your own independent thoughts, you will be confused, rely on others, and try to rely on others to get goals.
So, read more books and cultivate your mind.
When you are rich in your heart and know more, you will be able to distinguish between right and wrong, and you will not screw up on small things.
The personal realm is high, and other things are just trivial things that are strong and sorrowful.
Doing the above is enough to make you strong in mind, tough in mind, and full of personal energy.
Focus on yourself, don't run away from things, don't be afraid of people, have your own sense of independence, and you won't be held back by others casually.
Eventually, get out of the internal friction.