Readers come to ask.
Hello, the new year has begun, and I have been struggling with whether to make an annual plan and strive to make myself feel greater harvest and satisfaction in the end of the year. However, I didn't expect that these so-called "values" brought me deep anxiety, should I make a plan? (Henan Bi Ying).
Expert Opinion. Hello Bi Ying:
At the beginning of the new year, many people like to make New Year's resolutions and plans to spur themselves on to improve their behavior and start the new year in a new way. Your anxiety is not about having these thoughts, but about the unrealistic desire to "eat a fat man in one bite".
From a mental health perspective, don't talk about your decisions and don't make plans. A new survey shows that a quarter of people believe that New Year's resolutions and goals are the source of anxiety that causes them throughout the year. If you don't get your plans right, these goals can be a source of anxiety and disappointment for an entire year.
The biggest difficulty we encounter is very unrealistic expectations, for the average person, it is not enough to aim too high or too low, it is better to be appropriate. Only choosing the right program goals and sticking to them realistically can help relieve stress and anxiety.
According to the law of motivation-efficiency, a person's level of motivation determines learning or productivity. When a person's motivation for a task is moderately strong, productivity is at its highest, while a high level of motivation (high expectations) can affect behavior or outcomes and have a hindrance effect.
Goals and plans are only easier to achieve if they are set on a better understanding of yourself. On the contrary, if the tasks and goals are set too high, and you are still in a hurry, it is easy to produce anxiety and tension, and it will also interfere with the smooth progress of memory and thinking activities, resulting in low efficiency.
This requires that when facing a plan that is more difficult to achieve, don't pay too much attention to the result, keep a normal mind, and stick to it is the time to maximize work efficiency, which is why many people can still maintain a good attitude in the process of implementing the plan.
In addition, large goals can be broken down into monthly, weekly, and daily small goals. It can take a full year to see results on a big goal, and if you document the steps you take on a daily or weekly basis, you can clearly see what you've changed over time and what else you need to look out for.
Remember, change is for yourself, not for others. Intrinsic motivation will always be more effective than extrinsic motivation in getting people to succeed in their program goals. Discover your inner desires, and only from the heart can you have enough motivation to work for them.
Think about what made you happy and what you didn't make in the past year, and focus your New Year's resolutions on that as well. I wish you to find the source of your happiness, set an achievable goal, and start the new year! (Rong Juan).