First of all, if you find that your child has difficulty concentrating, not being able to calm down, hyperactivity, difficulty learning, etcIt is necessary to go to a regular hospital for proper evaluation and diagnosis。If attention is indeed being paid to hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), parents should proceedEducate yourself, go read some relevant knowledge to understand this disease. If the symptoms are obvious and affect the child's learning, interpersonal relationships, etc., it can be consideredYao Wu Z TherapyAbout 70%-80% of children with ADHD will need therapy at some point in their lives, which can improve their attention, relieve ADHD symptoms, maintain normal learning and interpersonal relationships, and regulate their behavior when necessary. At the same time, parents should also startLearn to change your behaviorto change your child's behaviour and be a good role model.
Here are 12 principles that can help you raise a child with ADHD:
1.AttitudeThink of the children in the family as a combination of genetic traits in the family. You can't design or make him or her, you can only manage him and her like a shepherd. So your little one is made up of three parts:The unique base makeup, the unique environment of your family, and its interaction with the child。The interaction of these two with the unique community in which you live, the unique events that your child encounters in that environment, shows that you can't fully engineer what your child's future will become.
2.As a parent, you have a responsibility to:(1) Design a high-quality, safe, nurturing, and supportiveenvironment；(2) In such an environment, for your childrenCreate opportunities for success；(3) SocietyEncouragedto modify the child's behavior; (4) Supervise the peer relationships around him, not to prevent contact with bad peers, but:Arrange a better peer group to replace the peer group of fan social behavior, which does not change the fact that it is trapped, but it can reduce the damage to it; (5) Appreciate everything you have done and the results, you have done your best, and the rest is not under your control.
3.The "10 and 3" rule: Children with ADHD have difficulty using their inner sense of time to guide behavior. Therefore, it is very important to minimize the delay in time and make time manifest when leading ADHD children to learn how to do things.
1) Understand your child firstThere will be difficulties while waiting for the results(i.e., delayed gratification difficulties, caused by a disrupted sense of time). (2) You can adopt:E-R-O Management Act:e event, r response, o result, ero the closer the three factors are in time, the easier it is to cope with the ADHD child. Video games, for example, take advantage of this principle - there will be a win or loss every once in a while, and if you win, you can immediately advance (reward). So, it can be passedDelay zui miniaturization + explicit(i.e., narrowing the time interval between event response and outcome, dividing a task into smaller tasks, and encouraging them to complete the task). (3) If you are waiting, you canDistract them from the waiting periodto allow them to focus on the things around them. (4) It is usableTimerto help you achieve the above, such as:The "10 and 3" rule- 10 minutes of work and 3 minutes of rest; If it's a younger child, it's ready to useThe "5 and 2" rule, work for 5 minutes and rest for 2 minutes.
4.Externalize or materialize important informationChildren with ADHD haveWorking memory(i.e., the ability to consciously memorize information in our heads, which we use to guide our actions).obstaclesImportant matters can be written down and placed in a place where they can be easily seen, such as using cards, charts, sticky notes, and more. Identify "execution points" that remind you what you should do, and set rules; (2) Arrange the "dang" in the context. So. Plan, like when I encounter this again, then what will I do? (3) Externalize motivation in children with ADHDLack of self-motivation and motivation, i.e., the willpower, motivation, determination, and perseverance of inner creation. Therefore, if the outcome of the event is delayed, ADHD children cannot stick to one thing for a long time, which is why ADHD can play games or do things they like for hours on end, but not more than a few minutes to do homework or everyday things.
5.Artificially created results:If there is no immediate result after a job is completed, then we have to create a series of artificial consequences, incorporating something that is not usually there, such as rewards for the use of tokens, points, stickers, temporary, privileges, or other things and things that the child likes. Before homework begins, ask your child to close their eyes and think about the game they will be playing and what they will do when the work is done. Imagine a goal, especially success in achieving it; Or take a picture and ask them to look at the exact description of how they enjoy playing the game or participating in the reward, and what it feels like; It is also possible to help the process by giving them feedback and encouragement frequently, rather than waiting until there is a resultGive feedback as you go, and give praise and feedback. Reward, which is a way for all normal children to learn to be self-motivated (intentionally practiced), helps to stimulate their intrinsic motivation.
6.For children with ADHD, start with a reward, not a punishment. If your child misbehaves in a situation, don't pay too much attention to the occurrence of negative behavior. Think about what you want your child to do, how to encourage him (reward, praise, respect and encouragement), show your child the hoarding behavior you want in that situation, and need more attention, reward, praise next time. Remember, always approach work with a win-win attitude, getting the job done is a win for you, the teacher, or another adult, not a win for the child.
7.Make a manual of questions and tasksA good way to deal with working memory problems is to make intangible information substantial, divide tasks into small pieces, and make manuals around them. ADHD hinders the development of the ability to use language to control oneself and is delayed in the use of self-talk. So no matter how much you say, they don't have the ability to use what you say to get the job done. So"Act, don't chatter, take control".。When you have instructions,Don't yell, but find them, touch them, get attention, and then look him in the eye and say what you want to say sincerely, seriously, gently, briefly, or write it down for them.
8.Be proactive and ready to solve problems and have a plan. Consider what to expect? What kind of accumulation behavior do you want? What's your plan? What are the rules? What do you want your child to do? What are you going to do to make sure it happens?
9.Transition planning – start with stoppingBefore you start doing everything, stop for a while and review with your child, what do you want them to do? What rules did you make? Explain what they can get? What happens if the rules are violated? At what cost? And let them retell, give them some feedback.
10.Prioritize what you need to do. Adhd children have a reduced ability to stand on their feet, so prioritize what needs to be done and focus on what is important rather than simple daily tasks and busy work.
11.Always remember the peculiarities of the child. ADHD is a neurogenetic disorder that delays the development of a child's self-control and self-esteem. The more you remember that he has a struggle, the more likely you are to give support, guidance and empathy to your child's difficulties. Their executive age = age - 30% age, e.g. a ten-year-old ADHD child has the same level of control as a seven-year-old child.
12.Adjust the environment, lower expectations, reduce your conflicts, and learn to forgive. In the process of managing children, you will make mistakes, forgive yourself, and correct them next time. Forgive strangers who comment on your child, what you can do is to make them aware of ADHD and practice forgiveness with your child.