In our vast land, there is an imbalance between the economic development of the north and the south.
The gap between the total GDP of the north and the south is huge, with the south accounting for 64% and the north only 36%, and the GDP gap is as high as 33 trillion yuan, and the north lags behind by 28 percentage points.
The economic base determines the superstructure. In the unspoken rules of the rich in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai, there is a relatively homogeneous phenomenon.
When ordinary people are still educating their children to desperately roll their grades, the rich don't need to roll at all, they have long collected high-end educational resources for their own use, and achieved corner overtaking.
Even, some rich people don't have chickens at all, they just let their children enjoy life, enjoy hobbies, and live their own lives.
When ordinary parents are still having a headache choosing a kindergarten for their children, the wealthy have sent their children to Manolia, Garbo, Montessori, Huili, Lecheng, Eddie, Avenues, Dulwich, Meiyi, Kido...
These kindergartens start with about 20 per year, and 30w is not uncommon.
Li Xiang's daughter, Wang Shiling, is receiving a top-notch quality education in an aristocratic school in London, England. She lived in the dormitory where Princess Anne once lived, the years were quiet, there was no academic pressure, and her classmates were either rich or expensive.
This beautiful girl was born to stand at the pinnacle that others can't reach in several lifetimes.
Wang Shiling's father is a director, her mother is a well-known host, and her painting talent comes from the painter grandfather Wang Hui. Such a family lineup and genetic software and hardware are integrated.
At the moment of birth, there is almost no difference in IQ and physiology among all children, and the gap is in the parents.
When ordinary people are still worried about their children's education and angry at their children's occasional spending money, Huang Duoduo has already organized dramas in international schools, dubbed movies, and done whatever she wants.
The successful people we are familiar with, Liu Chuanzhi, Ren Zhengfei, Li Ka-shing, Pan Shiyi, Xu Jiayin, etc., their children are either Harvard University or Stanford graduates.
Parents take advantage of all their information gaps, use all the resources at hand, and cooperate with the operation of money, to send their children to the world's top schools.
The arrangement of the rich people's growth path for their children is almost invariable.
Some people may wonder, why don't these rich people let their children take the college entrance examination? Our Tsinghua University and Peking University are also very good.
Can you tell the truth? Because the children of rich people can't win at all in their domestic studies.
The results of the college entrance examination depend on hard work, and having money does not mean that the child has hard work and high grades.
From elementary school to high school, all children compete for extremely high ability to withstand pressure, high endurance, and high concentration. These three abilities are difficult for adults.
Among them, every student in this land has eaten it with tears.
But what about the rich? They don't want their children to suffer this kind of suffering and sin, and there are also materials that are not for learning at all. So, they relied on financial resources to send their children to another path and take shortcuts.
Undoubtedly, their children are extremely lucky.
There is a rich man who is not familiar with him, he said that his son was too poor in his studies and could not pass the high school examination, so he decisively sent the child to Australia, and now the child is also a graduate student in a well-known Australian university.
He plans to let his children become naturalized first, and then the whole family will immigrate there, and the goal is clear.
The rich friend also said a thought-provoking remark, he said:
"How many top-notch high-achieving students have come out of these children in our country when they go abroad. ”Children of wealthy families, even if they have a huge difference in study, as long as they change tracks, immigrate or enter international famous schools, return to China to rely on their parents' connections, and find a job with an annual salary of about one million, it is not very difficult.
Of course, those small and middle-class people who are strongly supported by the water masters and water blogs are not very good.
Let's talk about middle-class parents who have a little money, they will choose some other shortcuts. If your child's English is good, he should apply for the kind of Sino-foreign cooperative 211 university, and then go abroad and go to a world-famous university to study for a master's degree.
Some let their children take the joint examination for overseas Chinese students, and they can get a heavy book with more than 400 points.
Some let their children go to Hong Kong to study for an associate degree, apply to the eight universities in Hong Kong, and go to an American community college to complete the credits and then apply for a prestigious school.
However, these methods are also difficult for ordinary families to achieve, and the cost alone can dissuade the vast majority of families.
Compared with the rich, they choose a path that takes one more detour, but it is also a shortcut.
Parents of wealthy families can send their children with mediocre qualifications to the pinnacle of life; Children from poor families, even if they have outstanding qualifications, are facing the dilemma of being difficult to fight for, and may even be suppressed and sunk by their families early.
There are too many cruel truths in this world, and there are many truths that we may never know.
There is no good or bad in the world, only people can create all this.
When ordinary people come from thousands of troops and horses and graduate from 985 211, this is the beginning of the real testing ground of life, and the role of the family will become more and more huge in the later stage.
Ordinary families have poor information and limited resources, and their children can only spend a lot of time in their lives to figure their way forward, constantly making mistakes and suffering one after another.
Rich people don't have to work hard with their children, they can live the same life.
Zhang Xuefeng said: "My daughter doesn't need to go to graduate school, I will earn enough money for her." ”
However, what should ordinary people whose parents do not earn enough money for their children? Can you only be forced to run wild on the road of rolling?
Actually, I don't say this to frustrate everyone, but we have to face up to reality.
Education, its essence is to compete with parents, as a fundamental thing for people to base themselves on society, books cannot learn.
Good habits and behaviors cannot be taught in books; A good family atmosphere is not something that books can give; The quality of food, clothing, housing and transportation provided by parents, including network resources, is not achieved by children's books.
The height of the parent's shoulders determines the height at which the child stands.
Newton said:
If I can see a little further, it's because I'm standing on the shoulders of giants.Parents are the giants behind every child.
When we stand at the perspective of this moment and look back on the past, after graduating from university, the gap between the seemingly similar classmates has been significantly widened in about 3 years, and the gap will become wider and wider in the future.
In fact, what is the gap that only opened up after graduation, this gap has existed since birth, everyone is just classmates, not the same starting line.
The same learning environment, the same test papers, and the same school uniform when they were students hid the family gap behind the students.
Once you enter the society, you will only be left with diversified social evaluation criteria, and you will only be able to fight for economic conditions, background connections, and vision patterns.
Therefore, any kind of voice calling for educational fairness is not clear about this, and our domestic educational environment has achieved relatively good fairness. However, individual IQ, mentality, parents and family and other qualifications are very different, and these cannot be evenly shared.
Two students wearing the same school uniform, one is a worker's child, the other is a listed CEO, these two children graduated from the same university and entered the society, living two different lives, even if the workers' children have better grades, but the CEO's children's lives are richer and better.
The school only selects children who are more talented in learning through grades, and once they are in society, please show the strength of their parents to compete.
You don't work hard, take a whip and whip the child hard, it's useless.
When the dividends of the first three generations were placed in front of you, you didn't seize the opportunity and didn't fight, and now there are almost no dividends, the class is solidified, and it is useless for you to force your children to death.
This relay marathon of life has been lost since the grandfather's generation.
So what to do? Can ordinary people only despair?
There is still a way, there must be.
Start from your parents themselves, without the strength of the rich, start with the ability to love well, it's a pity! This is a point that is easy for ordinary parents to overlook.
It is not difficult to give children a scientific and reasonable diet, cultivate children's physical fitness, and good living habits, right?
Raising children to be thin and fat is not love, it is the dereliction of duty of parents, and behind it is connivance and compromise and laziness.
Dodging is not love, it is a type of mental abuse.
Give children high-quality love, do not emotionally blackmail, do not talk about gratitude, do not treat children as blood bags, pension tools, and maintain the relationship between husband and wife, just care and guide with all your heart.
If you don't know how to buy books to study, see how others educate you, this laziness can't be stolen.
If you don't bother to do anything, and you don't want to use your brain, then don't complain.
Think about it from the perspective of the rich, why did you lose to the relay struggle of three generations of people, why did you lose to a ten-year cold window? Regardless of whether the child's qualifications are good or not, we use the various resources and financial resources from the previous two generations to lift the child to take off easily, is there a problem?
Only the progress of the predecessors can bring a better future to the children, waving sticks to teach children, in addition to chickens flying and dogs jumping, it is a chicken feather.
As I said, ordinary people educate their children, not afraid of no money, starting from "love" and "health", the software and hardware must be consolidated, these two points are extremely important in the future, and children will be able to carry and fight.
The children of ordinary people still have a certain probability of being happy, but parents need to respond as soon as possible.
People with mature minds never complain or complain, they will silently remember it in their hearts, do it with their hearts, gather sand into a tower, and accumulate every inch.
Knowing the unspoken rules of the rich, some people choose to despair, some people use their strengths and avoid their weaknesses and find another way, and the latter can be called the best spokesperson for "excellent".