With the increase of social changes and life pressures, many families rely on the help of the elderly in the education of their children. However, some elderly people may have the behavior of "fake baby" in the process of bringing a baby, which may have a negative impact on the child.
Ms. Zhao said that since her mother-in-law started helping to take care of the children, Ms. Zhao's son has become different. Every day after returning home, the child always strongly asks to play with the mobile phone, claiming to watch cartoons, but when the mother hands over the mobile phone, the child is addicted to games and small **.
This five-and-a-half-year-old child, who can play games for an hour, can focus on **small**, which is worrying, as if he is heading towards bad habits.
Ms. Zhao began to blame her mother-in-law for the change in her child. She felt that her mother-in-law was not serious enough to take the baby, and thought that this kind of "fake baby" caused the child to develop bad habits. She frequently criticized her mother-in-law, thinking that she was incompetent, which led to serious conflicts between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The mother-in-law felt aggrieved and defended her age, believing that it would not be a big deal to let the child take a break from watching the phone once in a while.
However, a similar situation happened to Ms. Zhang. Her mother-in-law passively helped to take care of the baby, and that day Ms. Zhang went to pick up the child, and unexpectedly heard the neighbor's evaluation of her mother-in-law: "Your child is so easy to bring, you can play with your mobile phone all day long, it's too convenient." ”
This made Ms. Zhang realize that her mother-in-law was "pretending to take the baby", and the child gradually did not like to communicate with others and was addicted to the world of mobile phones.
The experience of these two mothers warns other parents to be wary of the risk of the elderly "fake baby". Although the elderly may be out of relaxation, they ignore the good growth of the child, causing the child to fall into bad habits.
Although Ms. Zhang recognized such a situation, it was difficult for her to discuss it with others, or even share it with her husband.
These two cases remind parents to be careful to avoid the possibility of the elderly "fake with a baby". Caring for your child's growth is far more important than worrying.
So, what are the manifestations of the elderly with "fake babies"?
If it is the following way of bringing a baby, it is likely that the old man is pretending to take the baby, and the mothers should pay attention, otherwise they will be bitter and the child will be ruined.
Promote electronics as a companion tool
In the case of "fake baby", the elderly may rely too much on electronics to fill the gap in their interaction with their children. They may think that giving your child a phone or tablet is the easiest way to play quietly without having to bother with real communication or companionship with your child.
Such behavior may be due to the convenience of the elderly, but it ignores the potential negative impact of electronic devices on children's physical and mental development. This pattern of behavior can easily lead to excessive addiction to electronic devices, affecting children's social skills, interest in learning and healthy development.
Neglect of children's learning and ability development
Seniors with "fake babies" may be inclined to meet their children's needs rather than really focus on their children's learning and growth. They may turn a blind eye to their child's learning tasks and think that they need rest and relaxation, ignoring the importance of developing their child's study habits and autonomy.
In this way, the child may gradually lose interest in learning, leading to a decline in academic performance or dependency.
Lack of active parent-child interaction and educational guidance
The elderly with "fake babies" may lack active parent-child interaction and educational guidance. They may habitually adopt a passive attitude and lack adequate guidance and participation in their children's education and development.
This can lead to a lack of understanding and guidance on life, learning and emotions as children grow up, and lack the necessary guidance and support for their growth.
These "fake baby" behavior patterns may pose a hidden danger to the child's physical and mental health and all-round developmentFamilies need to pay attention to the specific behavior of the elderly in the process of raising a baby, so as to ensure that the children can receive comprehensive care and education under the care of the elderly.
How to be vigilant and avoid "fake baby"?
Families need to pay enough attention and guidance to the behavior of the elderly when they bring their babies to avoid the occurrence of "fake babies". Some elderly people do show great sense of responsibility and enthusiasm in bringing up their children, and they can really care about the growth of their children.
For example, by limiting time on electronic devices and encouraging reading and play-based learning, children's holistic development is promoted. These methods are worth learning and learning from other elderly people.
Active participation and effective communication from parents
Parents play a vital role in the process of raising children for the elderly. They need to maintain close communication with the elderly, and clearly express their expectations and educational philosophy for their children's growth.
Through active participation, parents can communicate their children's interests, learning needs, and the importance of healthy growth to the elderly. This kind of communication can help the elderly better understand the needs of their children, so as to adjust the way they take care of their children, and pay more attention to the overall development of their children.
Provide educational support and resources
Families can provide educational support and resources to help seniors better carry out childcare activities.
For example, provide appropriate educational toys, picture books, heuristic games, etc., and encourage the elderly to cultivate children's interests and abilities through play and interaction. At the same time, parents can also introduce some appropriate educational software or resources to help the elderly provide more beneficial information and educational content in their children's learning process.
Respect the elderly and provide guidance and assistance
When giving opinions and suggestions, it is important to respect the views and ways of the elderly. Respect is the foundation of effective communication and cooperation. However, if parents find that there is a problem with the way the elderly take care of the baby, they should give guidance and assistance in an appropriate way, rather than unilateral criticism or accusation. You can patiently share some parenting experience and educational ideas, and encourage the elderly to try new education methods to better meet the growth needs of children.
These strategies aim to build a good interaction and cooperation between the elderly, parents and children, so that each participant can better understand and meet the child's developmental needs.
At the same time, it can also make the elderly feel supported and affirmed in the process of raising a baby, stimulate their greater sense of responsibility and enthusiasm, and jointly promote the all-round development of children.
A message from Guo's mother
The existence of "fake baby" behavior brings risks to the growth of children that cannot be ignored, and needs to be highly valued by families and society. Effective family education should focus on the all-round development of children, and the elderly also need to be understood and supported by the family and society when raising children. Only through the joint efforts of the whole society can every child truly thrive on the road of healthy and happy growth.
About author:Guo Ma, a family education instructor, focuses on sharing parenting knowledge, parent-child education experience, marriage and family insights, welcome to pay attention.