Elementary school students are carefree? The following may hide "hollow heart disease", but it looks like a good boy
In the era of material abundance, many elders and parents seem to think that today's children are living very happily. Toys that were once affordable only for a few families are now readily available in ordinary households.
However, are students really happier in this era? It is not for nothing that some argue that trust and happiness are most lacking. Many people mistakenly believe that only busy working people feel depressed, but they ignore that elementary school students also have their own troubles.
Whether a student is really unmotivated is not necessarily because they are spoiled, but because their basic needs are not being met.
On the Internet, a Ms. Zhang shared her son's condition, he is not a top student or a bad student, he is usually well-behaved and sensible, and studies seriously. But at the beginning of the semester, he became absent-minded.
Parents found that their son often showed a nonchalant attitude, and although his homework was completed as usual, he always felt that he was in a different state than before. The mother began to get angry and thought that her son was becoming unmotivated.
However, when the criticism passed, the son no longer cried and apologized to his parents and made changes as before, but appeared indifferent. Ms. Zhang hopes that netizens can help her find a way to educate her son, as it is not advisable for this situation to continue.
A psychiatrist's analysis came as a surprise. According to Maslow's professional theory, if a person does not pursue progress and does not have lofty goals for his studies and career, it may not be because he is "living too comfortably", but because his basic needs are not being met.
For example, low-level workers generally tend to play with their mobile phones after work. Can they be blamed for not being motivated? In fact, this is because most of their energy is spent on making ends meet, and this short time after a meal is the only moment they can belong to, and they have a need to release stress.
For primary and secondary school students, food and clothing are no longer a problem, but during this period, they are more dependent on the outside world than adults. It is likely that the boy is having problems with his parental relationship or teacher-student relationship.
Elementary school students are not carefree, and the following manifestations may be a "hollow heart disease". This boy's performance is likely to be suffering from "hollow heart disease", which seems to be bland but has far-reaching effects; This situation is more difficult than the rebellious period"**The so-called hollow heart disease is a concept proposed by the deputy director of the Psychology Center of Peking University.
In the past, it was often assumed that only adolescent high school students and college students who felt uncertain about the future could have psychological problems. However, are all schoolchildren carefree? It's a good idea to keep an eye out for "hollow heart" if your child exhibits any of the following.
First of all, students are generally not supposed to be so quiet at this age. Many parents may complain that their children are "chatterbox" and have to nag about everything. However, this is actually a phenomenon to be thankful for, as it shows that students are able to express emotions in a timely manner.
Those quiet and silent classmates seem to be well-behaved on the surface, but they often digest the troubles and depression alone in their hearts. They may be afraid of causing trouble to their parents, or they may feel that communicating with their parents is unhelpful and can easily lead to a backlog of problems. Parents can only solve problems if they accept their children's true thoughts.
Second, there is no obvious "reaction" to the teacher or parents. One elementary school teacher once confessed that the students she was most worried about were not naughty children, but those "hollow" classmates.
Even if a student confronts a teacher after making a mistake, the teacher can still easily understand their state of mind. However, these "hollow" classmates, whether praised or criticized, reacted with little reaction. Teachers and parents with a modicum of responsibility will be concerned that they are going to extremes.
Third, the vast majority of students lack "sanity" or maturity. Many parents take pride in their children's "precociousness" and ignore students who spend their childhood in a heavy atmosphere when they should be carefree.
This is not a success of family education, but a manifestation of the lack of parental role. The parent-child relationship model should be one in which parents play the role of inclusion for their offspring. For example, when a child is criticized by a class teacher for homework problems, it is not normal for parents to be overly anxious.
Why are "good students" more likely to suffer from "hollowness"? The reason is actually quite simple. Doctors warn that hollow heart disease is often a precursor to depression, but it can be easily ignored by parents and teachers. Moreover, the more you behave as a "good student", the easier it is to fall into this state.
Because these "good students" are more concerned about the evaluation of parents and teachers. From an early age, they strive to meet the expectations of adults, craving praise and recognition.
In contrast, those students who behave poorly are more logical and do what they are happy about, and they don't care much about the attitude of the outside world. In some circumstances, these two tendencies may exchange advantages and disadvantages with each other.
Those good students who are serious and obedient, because they put their parents and teachers first, do not dare to express their reasonable needs, they will fall into contradictions and pain, and gain a sense of security by suppressing themselves.
These students, who appear to be "good kids" on the surface, actually contribute to parental inertia. Problems may have already begun to surface, but unsuspecting parents may be proud of them, boasting to friends and family: Look at how honest my child is.
In short, it is hoped that the outside world can pay attention to and help students with hollow heart disorder in a timely manner.