13-year-old Liu Mengran was born in a remote town, but she has a dream of exploring the world and is eager to go to the big city.
As the holiday was approaching, she discussed with her parents and decided to spend a month's vacation at her uncle's house in Shenzhen.
When she first arrived in Shenzhen, Liu Mengran was full of expectations, but her uncle's words made her feel a little overwhelmed.
The uncle told her that although her mother was his sister, they didn't owe her anything and that she had to learn to live independently.
My uncle made it clear to her that you can't waste this holiday, you have to get up early every day, fold the quilt, wash yourself, learn to make breakfast, put away the dishes and chopsticks, and do your own laundry at night.
If you want to go out to see the scenery, you have to plan for the day and want to go**? How much time does it take? What do you want to see? You can check these on your phone, and it's not difficult.
In order to travel conveniently, the most important thing is to save money, and your uncle will give you a subway travel card.
This was a huge challenge for the young Liu Mengran. But she decided to take it because she felt that the city gave her a lot of attraction.
Under the teaching of her uncle, Liu Mengran slowly understood the meaning of independent life, and she learned to wake up early to take care of herself, cook and clean up and plan her life.
When I got up early, in addition to eating by myself, I would help my uncle finish breakfast together, and when I got up, I saw the breakfast neatly placed on the table, and my uncle was very moved.
Every time I go out to play, I will plan well before I go, and in the process of playing, I can solve the difficulties most of the time, and I will summarize when I get home, and I can achieve unexpected gains every time.
A month passed quickly, and Liu Mengran became more independent and confident. When she got home, her parents were very relieved to see the changes in her.
They realize that letting go properly and letting children learn to be independent is the best education for children. Only in this way can children be stronger and more confident in the face of life's challenges.
In the process of teaching children to be independent, parents or guardians need to be in a good sense of proportion, so that children can learn a sense of responsibility, but also do not make them feel neglected or unloved.
1.Give appropriate autonomy: Parents or guardians can give their children some appropriate autonomy, such as letting them do some small chores, manage their own schedules, participate in making some daily decisions, etc. This allows children to feel important and responsible, while developing their autonomy.
2.Give support and encouragement: Parents or guardians need to give support and encouragement to their children as they become independent. When a child makes a mistake or encounters difficulties, parents should give appropriate guidance and help instead of blaming or criticizing. At the same time, it is necessary to affirm children's efforts and achievements in a timely manner, so that they feel loved and respected.
3.Communication and understanding: Parents or guardians need to communicate with their children to understand their thoughts and feelings. Listen to your child's opinions and suggestions so that they know that their voice is valued. By understanding your child's needs and expectations, you can better teach them to be independent and autonomous while avoiding making them feel neglected or unloved.
4.Establish appropriate rules and boundaries: Parents or guardians can work with their children to develop some appropriate rules and boundaries to guide them towards independence. These rules can help children learn responsibility and self-discipline in their independence, while also setting limits and guidelines for their behavior.
In short, parents or guardians need to strike a balance between autonomy, support and encouragement, communication and understanding, rules and boundaries when teaching their children to be independent, so as to cultivate their children's sense of responsibility and autonomy, while maintaining a close relationship with their children.