Giving out red envelopes has always been an unavoidable topic during the Chinese New Year.
In the family group, the elders express their blessings to the juniors and send a red envelope; The younger generation will show respect for the elderly and will also give red envelopes.
In the group of students, in order to enliven the atmosphere, the red envelope rain added to the fun.
In the work group, in order to inspire, send a few red envelopes to motivate.
Sending red envelopes is a worldly and sophisticated favor, which can give a glimpse of life.
Grab the red envelope, what you get is the money, but what is exposed is the character pattern.
A few days ago, I saw a post from a girl on the Internet, to the effect that she sent her boyfriend a WeChat red envelope of 520 during the Chinese New Year, and her boyfriend gave her 688 back, and she couldn't accept it.
She thinks that her boyfriend usually lives a rough life, and he doesn't have to rent a house, and he rarely has dinner or buys clothes. The implication is nothing more than that the red envelopes sent by boys are not big enough.
On the surface, it was the disappointment of expectations, and she had a psychological gap. In essence, it is to get more, and greed is at work.
People, once they are greedy, will constantly care about their own gains and losses, and question the efforts of others. If you give her a candy for no reason, she will not find it sweet enough.
Such a person can only see every penny in front of him, but he can't see the blessing of being damaged by the small profits.
On the other hand, another blogger, her boyfriend sent a year-end bonus and sent her 1314 red envelopes, she was very happy.
Someone commented below the post: "The mood of the landlord has arrived, I wish you happiness." ”
She lived so soberly that she understood that her boyfriend's income was earned by his own efforts and had nothing to do with her. He was willing to share it with himself, but only because he kept her in his heart.
Such a grateful girl, it's hard to be unhappy.
Zeng Guofan repeatedly told in a letter to his younger brother Zeng Guoquan:
Do not take advantage of others in anything, and do not take people's wealth lightly. ”
There is also a saying in Caigen Tan:
Don't ask for undivided blessings, don't be greedy for gratuitous gains. ”
Benefits, everyone gravitates, but some cheap can not be taken, some benefits are not desirable.
Coveting small profits will eventually damage blessings.
The Book of Rites: Qu Lishang:
Courtesy is still exchanged, and it is not rude; It is also rude to come and not to communicate. ”
When people intersect, you come and go, there will be affection.
If you come and I don't go, or if I go and you don't come, over time, it is easy to misunderstand and dislike, and no matter how deep the feelings are, they will fade and even cut off contact with each other.
A few days ago, I swiped a question on the Internet, to the effect that the landlord sent a red envelope of 200 yuan to a relative's child during the New Year, but the other party did not send a red envelope to her child.
Before that, her family had no children, and she didn't think about her relatives returning red envelopes. But now that she has a child, her relatives don't return the red envelope, she feels a little unacceptable in her heart, so she wants to ask the majority of netizens what to do in this situation.
There is a high praise answer below:
The red envelope is originally a gift exchange, and it is almost necessary to give as much as you want. ”
The interaction between people should be maintained well, and both parties should pay about the same, and they cannot always pay unilaterally or pay more, because the natural psychological imbalance is natural after a long time. ”
I think so. Any kind of relationship in this world is actually reciprocal, one party has something to give, and the other party has something to return.
Although it cannot be completely reciprocal, it must at least be expressed. Otherwise, it is unreasonable to others and indifference to the relationship.
I agree with a sentence:
There are more and more people who come and go, and there are more and more friends; Selfish people naturally die alone. ”
Although the red envelope is small, it reflects a person's character and principles of life.
Sending red envelopes is a blessing and a thank you. Receiving red envelopes, the picture is auspicious, and the receipt is respect. One hair and one time, it is affection.
When receiving red envelopes, don't use malice to speculate on the kindness of others.
When returning the red envelope, don't let a good intention turn into hostility.
During the Chinese New Year, I went to my friend Da Liu's house to play, and casually asked her how much New Year's money she had given to her relatives' children this year.
She said, "No. ”
It turned out that there was a relative in the Da Liu family, who always liked to take advantage of his own children. Da Liu gave one thousand, and she returned five hundred; Da Liu gave 10,000, and she returned 5,000. No matter how much other people posted, it was halved when she came back.
Others think it's unfair, but she thinks that she has more children and should receive more red envelopes.
If the family conditions are not good, forget it, the key is that her family conditions are not bad. Over time, Da Liu also felt that his psychology was unbalanced, and instead of giving thousands more every year, it was better to bring his own children to eat more.
When asked, other relatives felt the same way.
In the end, everyone discussed it and decided not to send red envelopes separately in the future, but only to send a few red envelopes symbolically in the group.
Giving out red envelopes in the New Year is just a fun, but some people are full of calculations and even hope to increase a small fortune.
There is a saying: cheap is easy to take advantage of, or embarrassing, or troublesome. ”
A person who wants to take advantage of everything at all times will eventually pay a price that is not cheap. or lose face, or cause trouble, or even cause trouble.
The Book of Songs says:
Vote for me with a peach, and repay it with a plum. ”
Getting along with relatives and friends is not a one-time game after all, but there will be countless large and small intersections.
Chinese New Year is a rare opportunity to gather together and communicate with each other, and giving red envelopes is also a way to connect with feelings.
Taking receiving more red envelopes and taking advantage of them as the goal is actually sacrificing the basics, which will make people lose more important things.
It's not far from each other, it's fair. It's more or less decent.
Zhang Fangyu wrote in the book "Insights in Solitary":
Material poverty is like a traumatic wound that can be cured; Spiritual poverty is like a chronic disease that accompanies a person's life, and it is extremely difficult**.
When you give out red envelopes, you don't pull out a dime, and when you receive red envelopes, you take advantage of them, so why don't you suffer from mental diseases?
Sending red envelopes shows character, but also pattern.
Collecting a few more red envelopes will not make a fortune, and it is also a short-sightedness to seek profits in everything.
Don't let red envelopes hurt your feelings, and don't let a few red envelopes ruin your interpersonal relationships.