I have written a lot of emotional articles, and I have talked a lot about the problems of getting along with couples.
However, there is one situation that seems to have never been seriously discussed with everyone, and that is"Turn over old accounts"!
Couples, both men and women, may have this habit, especially when they quarrel, turning over all kinds of things from the past.
It is understandable that when a person is extremely angry, it can get out of controlThe old accounts of the past, what should be said and what should not be said, will be turned over, anyway, let yourself be comfortable first.
Just,This kind of behavior is really hurtful for the other half.
Especially for women, turning over old accounts is equivalent to tearing off the scar and then sprinkling salt, that kind of heart-piercing pain, sometimes it is really fatal.
This is the caseIt's probably okay to do it once and a half, but I'm afraid to come here from time to time.
So, in the face of men who love to turn over old accounts, how should women deal with it?
1.Communicate well and let him get rid of it.
For women, if their partner has a habit of turning over old accounts, then they should sit down and talk to him well.
Move with emotion, know with reason, let him realize his mistakes, and try to correct them.
Let him know that going through old accounts is really hurtful and won't solve any problems.
If there are contradictions, you can communicate well, but if you say some angry words, you can't take them back.
If you really want to fall in love, you must face this problem squarely and make up your mind to solve it.
2.Be assertive and don't take it seriously.
If after communication, the man still can't change this stinky problem, but the woman doesn't want to break up.
Then there is only one other way to make yourself more confident.
You know, when a woman is confident enough, no matter how much the man turns over the old accounts, the impact will not be great.
Even if he turns over some unbearable things in the past, he can choose to ignore them directly.
Only in this way can you avoid yourself being hurt more.
3.Learn to let go and stop losses in time.
If the man refuses to get rid of the habit of turning over old accounts, and the woman is not confident enough, then the relationship will collapse sooner or later.
Women must understand that it is not a way to endure it like this, and they may become depressed after a long time.
Rather than dragging it out and collapsing at the end, it is better to stop the loss in time and gather and disperse.
Couples need to respect each other, if men don't know how to cherish, then women don't need to be too persistent.
4.Self-love and self-improvement are the key.
Remember, no matter how this matter is dealt with in the end, for women, learning to love themselves and know how to improve themselves is the most important thing.
The past is a part of our own lives, and we can't change it, but we can choose how to face it.
Only by facing the past more calmly can we not be bound by the past.
In this life, people always have to go through some things before they can grow.
From another point of view, the so-called old accounts in the past are actually just a small setback.
Actually,It's normal for couples to get along and have a little friction.
After all, even if two similar people are together, there will be times when they disagree.
Couples, in the face of differences, should learn to tolerate each other, instead of treating old accounts as ** and turning them over to hurt each other.
Sometimes, I am not afraid of not loving, but I am afraid of hurting each other in the name of love.
Finally, I want to say that,When you fall in love, don't be too glassy
When you're strong enough, why don't you ...... old accounts are turned over