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Betrayal is very painful. Women, in particular, are more likely to fall into grief and be unable to extricate themselves from being emotionally dominant creatures.
But in fact, in the face of men who steal food, smart and unintelligent women do things differently, and the end result is also different.
There is a saying on the Internet that is particularly good: choose a person who is painful, and you can always grasp the entanglementChoose a happy person who can blossom and bear fruit at any time.
Therefore, as long as a woman finds out that a man has a lover outside, she may as well do the following three things to be able to continue to be happy.
When a woman faces a cheating man, she will almost let the negative emotions explode.
For example, anger: yelling at a man, or punching and kicking, smashing the whole house to pieces;
For example, sadness: doubting whether you are too bad, so men will be willing to hurt themselves;
But emotions never solve the problem, they only create more problems.
The ABC theory of emotions in psychology suggests that we can't do anything about what has happened, but by changing our perceptions, we can have healthier emotions and solve problems better.
Therefore, the more mature a woman is, the more she can control her temper and calmly look at and solve all problems.
In fact, women especially like to share all their emotional stories with those around them.
Even after a man cheats, they can't make up their minds, feel insecure and will ask others for advice.
But in fact, feelings are really the best thing that two people know, and the third party is not comprehensive or fair enough to look at other people's feelings.
Therefore, women should not take their fate into the hands of others. But calm down and ask yourself, what kind of life do you want?Then make a decision and live the consequences.
Unlike some women who have experienced betrayal, after listening to the words of their girlfriends or parents, after breaking up with a man, they are very painful and want to get back together.
Psychology professor Roland Miller writes in his book Intimacy:
Without trust, intimate partners tend to become suspicious and suspicious, undermining the openness, honesty, and interdependence of intimate relationships.
The woman found out about the fact that the man stole the food, and after comprehensive consideration, decided to forgive. But she can't immediately forget the wrong things that men have done, and she will become unstable.
But women are often suspicious, and the more and more terrible desire for control and possessiveness is easy to kill men's guilt.
Now that you've decided to forgive, learn to let go and rebuild trust and relationships by:
The first action: do not stand in God's shoes and judge people morally;
The second trick: in-depth communication to understand the motivation and reasons for a man's cheating;
The third action: In addition to blaming the other party's faults, you should also reflect on your own problems.