【Title】: The Dignity of Single Women as Time Goes By: Ageism and Self-Persistence Revealed by Blind Date Experience.
Text]: Marriage is like a mysterious and complex journey, and for everyone, choosing the timing and object of marriage is a crucial decision in life. At the age of 36, as a working woman, I have been walking alone on the road of singleness. It's not that I'm rejecting marriage, it's that I'm always looking for someone who really fits my heart.
I have a good family background, my relatives have been workers in the education field, I work as an operations manager in an Internet company, I have a decent monthly salary, and I own a house and a car. However, I have always valued the quality of love more than simply marrying for the sake of getting married.
Until one day, my mother introduced me to a man who seemed to be a suitable man, three years old, and a teacher by profession. When we first met, my mother's description didn't make me feel uncomfortable, so I agreed to meet him.
The meeting place was chosen at a café, and the conversation went smoothly at first. However, as the conversation deepened, I noticed something unusual. He constantly emphasized my age, and even made it clear that he liked young and beautiful women. It made me feel a little embarrassed and made me want to be on my toes.
Then he started asking strange questions about my RV situation, future plans, and family burdens. I replied cautiously, only to find that he was not satisfied.
Eventually, he made no secret of his opinion: "I don't think we're a good fit. You're about to go through menopause, are you marrying you for retirement? This sentence was like a heavy blow, and I was stunned. I tried to stay calm and responded, "First of all, I don't want to rely on men for my old age. Second, judging a person's worth by age and fertility is a very disrespectful concept. ”
He smiled and continued: "I'm just telling the truth. You don't look at your own conditions, you haven't married at the age of 36, there must be a problem. His remarks were self-righteous and unacceptable to me, so I decided to decline his offer.
When I got home, I didn't hesitate to share my experience of this blind date. My family and friends expressed their support and thought I handled it well. My mother also expressed regret for introducing such a wonderful man to me.
This experience has taught me a profound question: in the marriage market, women's age seems to be a kind of shackle. However, I firmly believe that everyone has their own rhythm and choices and should not be swayed by the perceptions of society.
This is the belief that I have always adhered to. I believe that everyone deserves to have someone who truly knows how to cherish you, rather than getting married hastily in order to cater to society's ideas.
Although this blind date experience was full of rudeness and disrespect, it made me stand firmer. Being single is not the same as failure, and age is not the only criterion of a woman's worth. Everyone has their own moment of light, not constrained by time or social ideas.
This sharing is not to oppose marriage, but to strive for more respect and equal opportunities for women. Marriage is a journey of mutual respect, understanding, and cherishing, and should not be swayed by one-sided standards. I hope that every single woman can stick to her beliefs and wait for that worthy person to appear, instead of being swayed by the eyes of society. [END].