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Yang Suo (1986-December 2009), male, Han nationality, a 23-year-old young man from Zhutang Township, Luoshan County, Xinyang City, Henan Province, used his short life to confirm the old saying: "Jiao'er has no filial son".
Body. When Yang Suo was 8 years old, he destroyed the chicken pen at home because of his stubborn nature, and his angry father wanted to teach him a lesson with a belt, but his mother was reluctant, and kept pleading beside him, and even when Yang Suo was in school, he was carried with a burden to prevent him from walking.
Yang Suo's parents spoiled him too much, so that he lost his basic self-care ability, but also made him selfish, lazy, narrow-minded and indifferent, when his parents died, he could not take care of himself at all, and soon lost all the valuable things in the family, and finally went to the village to beg for food.
A villager once described him: "He never washes clothes, and when he wears dirty, he throws them away and changes them." He hung the meat and vegetables given to him by the villagers on the eaves, and he didn't eat them until he smelled it. "After a full meal, he sleeps all the time, sometimes for a day or two. When he was too hungry to do so, he went out to beg for food. He was completely incapable of surviving on his own, living in a greenhouse built by his parents until he starved to death at home at the age of 23.
In fact, in modern society, Yang Suo is not an exception, many parents are too doting on their children for various reasons: when the child falls down while walking, the parents quickly help the child up, and hit the floor; If the child does not want to go to school, the parents ask the teacher for leave on behalf of the child; When the child does not eat, the parents chase after the child to feed the ......As everyone knows, such doting is tantamount to a "gentle trap" for children.
For parents, children are their treasures in the palm of their hands, they want to give their children the best everything, including the warmest family environment, the best quality educational resources, the most considerate care and love. They think that this is good for the child, and this is the love for the child, but they ignore the law of the child's growth. After all, children must learn to be independent and learn to face all the difficulties and challenges in life on their own, instead of blindly relying on their parents. If parents always don't let their children try, and always help their children do everything, their children will never be able to grow up and be independent.
For children, parental doting is a sweet poison, which can make children feel happy, fulfilled and satisfied, but at the same time, they will also lose the ability to think independently, lose the ability to solve problems on their own, and lose the courage to face setbacks. The child will become lazier, weaker, and more selfish. They will get used to enjoying everything their parents have arranged for them, but they will forget what they should pursue and what they should bear.
The villagers are too picky about Yang Suo's attitude towards life, which seems to be both understanding and numb. They have long been accustomed to it, as if they are accustomed to it. Villagers may have become accustomed to Yang Suo's squandering of food and clothing, but to outsiders they are full of doubts. This obvious waste and unconscionable behavior is incomprehensible.
The "lazy disease" that Yang Suo suffers from is not a real medical disease, but refers to a serious problem in his attitude towards life. His laziness has reached an unimaginable level, which is not only manifested in his daily behavior of dressing and eating, but also in his irresponsible attitude towards life. Actions such as letting food rot and discarding clothes at will show his deep-seated laziness. Laziness is not only an indulgence in one's own life, but also a waste of social resources, so Yang Suo's "laziness disease" is not only a harm to individuals, but also a negative impact on the whole society.
Yang Suo was a child whose parents were only able to give birth to him until middle age, so he was doted on by his parents since he was a child. He has always been in a special position in the family, and his parents have been overly indulgent to him, resulting in a lack of self-discipline and self-reliance. This special family environment has, to a certain extent, contributed to Yang Suo's laissez-faire and laziness in life, making him gradually lose his self-restraint and management of his own behavior.
The relationship between Yang Suo and his parents has always been doting and resigned. The indulgence and indulgence of his parents made him develop an almost willful personality and did not learn to take responsibility and live independently. For a long time, Yang Suo was unable to establish a correct outlook on life and values, and also lacked the ability to adapt to social life, which led to his lazy character trait to a certain extent.
Yang Suo's "laziness disease" is not a real disease, but a distorted expression of his attitude and values towards life. His parents were extremely doting since he was a child, and he did not undergo strict education and training, which led to his lack of self-discipline and sense of responsibility, and became a burden on his family and society. For this kind of "lazy disease", it is not only necessary for personal self-examination and correction, but also for the attention and education and guidance of all sectors of society. Cases like this remind us of the importance of education and the critical role of family education. At the same time, relevant measures and policies should also be adopted to guide and help those patients with "lazy diseases", so that they can re-establish a correct concept of life and get on the right track.
Yang Suo comes from an ordinary rural family, and his parents were able to give birth to him when he was middle-aged, so he has always been regarded as the heart of his parents and is very favored. Everything his parents did for him was carefully arranged, and his needs were almost always met. This special family environment has made Yang Suo never experienced too many setbacks and trials since he was a child, and he has never really learned to face various difficulties and challenges in life. The pampering of his parents made him lack self-discipline and management of his behavior for a long time, and also profoundly affected his personality and living habits.
In such a family background, Yang Suo has never experienced the hardships and setbacks of life, and he rarely has the opportunity to think and solve problems independently. As the only child in the family, he has always lived in an environment that is both pampered and doting, which has led to a lack of opportunities for self-growth and self-discipline in his formative development. His parents' excessive doting made him gradually self-willed and lazy, and he lacked the ability to deal with the difficulties and challenges in life. This unique family environment has become an important factor in the formation of his character and attitude towards life, and has also indirectly contributed to his "laziness".
The relationship between Yang Suo and his parents can be said to be extremely close, even almost doting. As rural people whose parents are conservative, they hope to create a perfect family atmosphere by doting on Yang Suo. This makes Yang Suo have been arranged for many things since he was a child, lacking autonomy and opportunities to think independently. The doting of his parents has led to his long-term failure to form a healthy sense of interpersonal relationships and his lack of ability to cope with various pressures and challenges in society. What's more, the excessive doting of his parents made Yang Suo lose the opportunity to grow up, become willful and uninhibited, and the relationship with them is more like a friend than a relationship between parents and children.
This unique way of family education made Yang Suo have a skewed cognition and understanding of social reality in the process of growing up, which became the root cause of his lazy behavior and irresponsible attitude.
Conclusion
Yang Suo's laziness does not exist in isolation, but is the result of the intertwined influence of family education, social groups and other factors. We should start from individual cases, think deeply about the underlying social problems, and strive to provide more care and help for these patients, help them re-establish a positive attitude towards life, stay away from "lazy disease", and realize self-growth and social responsibility.