Relatives have to transfer money first when booking tickets
My name is Wang Yumei, I have lived in my aunt's house since I was a child (not my aunt), due to the early death of my parents, my father worked everywhere, and I lived with my aunt in Harbin. Every year I go back to visit my aunt, but recently, when I received a request from my aunt asking her to help book a ticket, I offered to let her pay first.
However, my aunt was very angry about this and hung up directly. Although my intention was to save some money for my aunt, it seems that my approach was not understood and accepted by my aunt.
Why do I have to book a ticket for my aunt's cousin every time? Although he has a high salary and a house and a car, he should be able to handle this problem himself. My aunt also has a pension after she retires, and a ticket shouldn't make it so difficult for me.
I've paid thousands of dollars for her tickets over the years, and I now have my own children who have to pay a lot of tuition fees.
When I was a child, I spent an unforgettable time at my aunt's house. Once, my aunt opened a can of oranges that was half left, and I was full of anticipation. But it turned out that my cousin ate all the canned food and didn't even leave me a mouthful of soup.
My aunt seemed happy about it, while my uncle was patriarchal and very stingy. Once, when I came home from school, they were stewing chicken, and when they smelled it, I wanted to taste it, but my uncle said the chicken was cooked.
When my uncle died, I didn't shed tears because I felt like they didn't treat me as a relative. Over the years, I have been avoiding my aunt and never took the initiative to call her **, and I also feel that she doesn't want to be close to me and always takes advantage of me.
When I first started a family in Harbin, my aunt always brought my cousin to my house, and when she saw my family eating vegetarian food, she would ask me why I didn't eat meat. Actually, I just don't want to buy it, I think she likes to take advantage of it too much.
Every time she came to Harbin, she asked me to buy a train ticket, and I spent thousands of yuan on the train ticket over the years. Moreover, she didn't come to my house with anything. My cousin too, who lived in my house for more than two years when he was in college, has always been me taking care of everything for him.
After graduating, I haven't even played a ** for many years. When I was at my aunt's house, I would go to see her every Mid-Autumn Festival and Chinese New Year and bring some gifts. After graduating, I worked in Harbin, and although I didn't go back much a year, my graduation salary was not high, and I didn't buy them any expensive gifts.
As a result, my aunt said that my relatives said that I was ungrateful. When my dad died in Harbin, my cousin didn't even come to the funeral, and my dad gave him a few thousand yuan at that time.
When my dad was sick and hospitalized, my younger brother was studying in Harbin, and my cousin didn't even go to the hospital. When my dad died, my aunt didn't come either.
She said that she worked as a confinement lady in her county town and earned 4,000 a month, so she couldn't leave. I think her family values money too much.
When my aunt was sick and needed to see a doctor in Harbin, she stayed at my house for a whole month. Although my cousin got married in Harbin, my aunt chose to live in my house instead of going to her son's house.
However, my cousin didn't even show his head, nor did he call ** to care about my aunt. It felt like my aunt was like my real mother. During my aunt's time at my house, she didn't spend a penny, she didn't buy even a single potato, and she said she couldn't find the vegetable market.
But actually, she went to the mall on her own and bought a down jacket for my daughter-in-law and sent it over. My lover told me to stay away from such people. My brother has helped me a lot over the years, but he always felt that I should do this as an older sister, never cared about me, and only thought of me when he needed my help.
After my parents died, I decisively cut ties with their family. They have always been separated, and when I gave birth to two children, my aunt not only gave milk, but also pretended not to know.
When my cousin was in college, he told us to go to the ceremony.
I was reluctant to deal with my relatives because of some conflicts and estrangements with them. Recently, my aunt called me ** and asked me to book a hotel and a bus ticket for her, but she knew that I was not welcome to her, so she chose to stay elsewhere.
I suggested that she ask her brother to help, but she replied that her brother's daughter-in-law was disgusted with the trouble. I offered that my aunt could transfer the money directly to me if she had money, but my aunt hung up on my **.
I felt that my aunt was kidnapping me because I had lived in her house for a few years, and she had always wanted me to reciprocate. Although I also know how to be grateful, I think it is enough to just go back and see her during the Chinese New Year.
My cousin later called me and asked me to help his mom book a ticket, but I think his mom can solve this problem on her own because he graduated from 211 and has enough ability.
My cousin hung up and didn't even call me after my father died. I think they're too impersonal to want to be kidnapped by them anymore. I think gratitude and taking advantage are two different concepts.
I was touched by a neighbor who came to stay with me for a day and bought a carton of milk for my child. I believe that relatives should respect each other and not take too much or take advantage of each other.
Do you have such relatives?