Writer Lian Yue said: The Chinese New Year, to a certain extent, is the season of pressure, the season of comparison and the season of maximum expenses.
A truly mature person, no matter what he does, will actually have his own opinions and cognitions.
To put it bluntly, no matter what you do, you won't follow the crowd, let alone go with the flow and compare everywhere.
Take the Chinese New Year as an example, many people will be very anxious and worried when it comes to the Chinese New Year, because they feel very stressed.
However, the fundamental reason is that it is because it is active or passive, which requires a lot of expenses.
In the final analysis, it is easy to follow the crowd, become blindly conformist, and let yourself become more and more economically pressured in the process of constantly actively comparing or passively comparing.
Therefore, when people live, they must understand themselves, and they must understand their position, so that they can really live a better life in real life.
The material is simple, and the mood is happy
In life, those who are materially simple are the ones who are truly happy.
Too many people just like to compare this and chase that too much, so they will always put a lot of pressure on themselves.
Of course, some people may feel that these pressures are obviously given to them from the outside, and they can't say that they have suffering, but why do they have to be disapproved and understood by others.
In fact, no matter what people outside think, their own life is their own after all.
I have a few pounds and a few taels, in fact, I also understand it in my heart, so there is no need to get in the way, or because of other people's discussions and evaluations, I have to do what the other party thinks.
After all, others are just talking, and if you do it, you can only bear a lot of the cost.
Therefore, a truly mature person will not let himself have no assertiveness at any time, because of anyone's evaluation and **, and then he has to catch ducks on the shelves by himself because of the conditions for many things.
There is no doubt that this kind of person who has no opinions and does not have his own firm sense of belief is easy to follow the crowd, and eventually becomes involuntarily, and even easily buries his life opportunities.
Especially during the Chinese New Year, we must also understand that every family has a difficult scripture to read, and whether others are doing well or not has nothing to do with themselves.
A smart person knows how to make himself in real life, to be himself first, to take care of his family, not to be generous for the sake of face.
Only by making oneself material simple and in a comfortable mood can life be happy, and the family can be happy during the New Year.
Don't pretend to be rich
The reason why too many people in life are miserable and tired is because they like to be reckless and reluctant too much.
So obviously I don't have many conditions, but in order to let others look down on me, even if I pay a huge price, I have to let myself do something that is impossible to do.
The most important festival of every year is the New Year, many people are obviously incapable, and even get into debt outside, but when they go home, they insist on charging a lot of money, recklessly, and pretending to be rich.
Economist Veblen once said:
In order to satisfy the desire to show off, in order to make his face shine, he spends a lot regardless of his own conditions. Then this kind of consumption is simply a black hole that devours money, making people poorer and poorer.
In fact, we must learn to face our true selves bravely, accept the current status quo calmly, no matter what kind of trouble we encounter in reality, or whether we are good or bad, don't pretend, and there is no need to pretend.
A truly mature person will never let himself live in someone else's world, because others can't replace him at all.
Only allow yourself to remain independent, have your own opinions, have your own ideas, have your own beliefs, and have your own persistence.
In this way, life is one's own, and life belongs to oneself, rather than being easily led astray by others at every turn, and will not let yourself lose yourself in the process of being reckless and pretending, and finally even bury the beautiful life that should belong to you.
During the New Year, don't be poor and generous
Mr. Lin Yutang said, "The wisdom of life is to gradually clarify and filter out the unimportant impurities and retain the most important parts. ”
In life, what we really need is not material comparison, let alone mutual consumption in life.
After all, those external things are actually difficult to give us a long-lasting, long-term sense of satisfaction.
Many people, after a year, are unhappy and feel more tired, which is simply because they want to take care of too many things.
Therefore, as long as we are mature and independent enough, and can also be able to carefully observe, think deeply, and then slowly refine some wisdom in life.
Then in the following years, we naturally know very well what we want to keep and what we want to filter out.
In this way, we will not be swollen and fat, and we will not lose our hearts due to external reasons, even if we are in the New Year, we can be rational and sober to do our best.
In short, during the New Year, don't be poor and generous, but take into account your actual situation, how to do it, such a person is not only mature, but also has a personality charm that makes people feel respected.