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Don't be overly kind until you don't have enough strength and wisdom, being too kind is a disservice to yourself.
- Anonymous
Don't always think about being a "good person" in the eyes of others.
It is human nature to want to be praised and affirmed by the people around you, but don't take this as an ideal in life.
Because at the level of adult worldly interactions, there are no pure good people or absolute bad people.
When everyone evaluates a person, they often start from their own interests, not talking about right and wrong, but only looking at the pros and cons.
If you harm his interests, you are a bad person in his eyes; You defend his interests, and you are a good person in his eyes.
There are two people in our industry, one is a businessman, the other is a customer, in the eyes of many people, their relationship is better than that of brothers.
The two of them highly praised each other, often saying each other's good in front of other peers, and saying each other perfectly.
As a result, this year, the first business party introduced a project to the customer side, saying that half of the profit of one person was good.
When the money was finally divided, the customer said that there was no profit, and only gave a referral fee of 10,000 yuan, but the merchant thought that he was making false accounts.
We outsiders can't tell which is right or wrong, anyway, the two fell out, and then attacked and abused each other in multiple peer WeChat groups, which became a laughing stock in the entire industry.
And don't be a perfect good person in the moral sense either.
One sentence that I agree with very much is that morality is used to restrain oneself, and faith is also used to restrain oneself.
Because everyone's standards and requirements are different; Different regions, standards and requirements are different.
Therefore, do not judge or restrain others by your own moral standards and religious beliefs.
Conversely, we should not be bound by the standards and requirements of others, and we should not strive to be perfect and good people in the moral sense.
Jet Li once said in an interview show that there is only one standard in his mind, and that is the law.
He believes that the law is the bottom line of our life, not morality.
Morality is only safe if you have enough strength, and don't be overly kind until you don't have enough strength and wisdom.
Excessive kindness is a disservice to oneself, because this world follows the law of the jungle, and the law of the jungle preys on the jungle.
If you blindly pursue to be a perfect and good person in morality, you will be made a weak person who can be manipulated by others, and you will definitely be bullied to death.
Be yourself, have good thoughts and a clear conscience.
If you're looking to be a good person in the eyes of others, you'll often feel constrained and framed.
If you are used to being a good person, others will get used to your goodness, and they will trouble you and consume you when there is nothing to do.
As a result, you have done everything, and you have suffered all the losses, but in fact, you have been good to others, but you have suffered yourself.
If you don't meet their requirements once, you become a bad person in their mouths and forget all your previous good.
We are taught from an early age to be kind to others, and to be kind to others is to be kind to ourselves, otherwise we are uneducated.
This leads us to care about other people's evaluation of ourselves, and we have always lived in the evaluation of others, and we are so tired of living.
Therefore, I recommend that you be yourself, don't give yourself too many rules, and don't care too much about other people's evaluations.
There is a sentence in the Ming Dynasty children's book "Zengguang Xianwen" that many people are familiar with: But do good deeds, don't ask about the future.
As long as we are kind-hearted, follow our hearts, live our own character, and live our own happy life, it is true.
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