The children of relatives are in the fifth grade of primary school, and they are particularly addicted to mobile phones, and they play with their mobile phones and tablets almost every day during the winter vacation.
During the Spring Festival, we went home for dinner, and many children suggested that the children play games together, but the children of this relative kept shouting "boring, not fun".
Then he took his father's mobile phone and skillfully opened the phone to swipe Tik Tok.
Relatives are also a violent temper, seeing the child playing with the mobile phone, snatched away the mobile phone, came up is a scolding, the child slapped the child back, the child cried, but still stared at the relatives.
Obviously, this child is unconvinced, and he was scolded and beaten while playing with his mobile phone, is it really because the mobile phone is too attractive? Mobile phones are really attractive, but that's not the whole reason, it's more that the child doesn't want to give in to his parents.
There is a "forbidden fruit effect" in psychology, the more a person is forbidden to do something, the more he wants to do it.
This is even more full of curiosity for children.
On the road of every child's growth, the most common words that parents say are "no", "don't" and "no", and parents are always using their natural authority to demand their children and prohibit their children's behavior.
However, despite the repeated prohibition of parents, children rarely do it, and the more forbidden they are, the more curious the child becomes, and the more they want to challenge their parents' authority.
American child psychologist Rudolph Drexes believes that whenever parents order or force children to do things, it will lead to power struggles.
Children have their own ideas and judgments, and once parents oppress their children with their own authority, it will stimulate the child's rebellious psychology, which leads to a "struggle for rights".
Parental authority can suppress children for a while, but this is not a long-term method, because as children grow up, children who have been in a rebellious state for a long time will become more and more disgusted with their parents and complete more serious parent-child problems.
The most typical problem of looking at mobile phones, parents oppose their children looking at mobile phones, maybe children will obey their parents openly, but when parents are not around, they will secretly look at their mobile phones, without parental supervision, causing more serious problems.
Think about it the other way, it is not possible for children to cut off contact with mobile phones, because this is an era of communication, whether at school or at home, there will be mobile phones and the Internet.
Because what parents really need to do is not to ban the use of mobile phones, but to prevent addiction to mobile phones.
According to the report "Research on the Cognition and Attitude of Primary and Secondary School Students and Their Parents on Online Games" released by the China Youth Research Center, children's game addiction is closely related to parent-child relationship, and the worse the parent-child relationship, the more likely it is to lead children to form online game addiction. On the contrary, the higher the intimacy between parents and their children, the more they care for their children, and the less likely their children are to become addicted to online games.
Parents always blame their children for their poor self-control and always blame the attractiveness of mobile phones, but in fact, the real reason is in the relationship between parents and children. Whether the child can get out of the mobile phone is a test of the trust between the child and the parents.
First, agree to let your child use a mobile phone.
Mobile phones are indeed convenient, and there are many benefits, parents should tell their children, what is the biggest use of mobile phones, and can introduce the development history of mobile phones, and tell children the main uses of mobile phones.
Second, reach the goal of playing on the phone.
It takes time to play with mobile phones, so that children learn to exchange. Set a goal for your child to add 10 minutes to playing with their phone by completing their homework carefully, and an additional 5 minutes if the homework is all correct. A similar exchange will be carried out by the child more than willingly.
Third, parents should be role models.
Parents should not play with their mobile phones excessively in front of their children, and they can take their children to develop some other interests. For example, sports, drawing, etc., so that children can feel the joy brought by other interests, and they will not only be addicted to mobile phones.
Preventing children from becoming addicted to mobile phones is not a solution that can be solved in a day or two, and requires the patience and persistence of parents.