"The essence of education is that one tree shakes another, one cloud pushes another, one soul awakens another. ”
—Jaspers
On the road of children's growth, school bullying is like an insurmountable stumbling block, leaving indelible scars on their hearts. These scars not only affect a child's mental health, but may also accompany them for the rest of their lives and become unspeakable pain. As parents, how to provide support and help for children in family education and help them come out of the shadows is a major issue in front of us.
Children who are bullied need the understanding and support of their families the most. However, for a variety of reasons, parents often find it difficult to perceive their children's pain. Sometimes, children may indirectly express their plight in the form of declining academic performance, mood swings, etc. At this time, parents need to listen patiently, do not jump to conclusions, and do not blame their children.
There is a real case of a visitor I met, Xiaoli, who was isolated and ridiculed by her classmates during her junior high school years. Whenever she came home, she silently locked herself in her room. Her parents at first thought she was just studying under pressure and didn't interfere too much. It wasn't until one day, when Xiaoli wrote down her painful experience in her diary, that her parents suddenly realized. They began to listen carefully to Xiaoli's feelings, try to understand her predicament, and give her warm support. In the process, Xiaoli's mood gradually stabilized, and she began to bravely face her past and regain her self-confidence.
After understanding their child's predicament, parents need to have in-depth communication with their child to understand their true thoughts and feelings. On this basis, parents can guide their children to view bullying incidents in perspective, teach them how to protect themselves, and how to seek help.
For example, parents can tell their children that bullying is not their fault and that they don't need to feel ashamed or blame for it. At the same time, parents can also encourage their children to participate in some psychological counseling activities to learn how to adjust their mentality and enhance their psychological tolerance. Through these measures, children can gradually come out of the shadows and regain their confidence.
As children emerge from bullying, parental companionship and support are crucial. Parents need to give their children a sense of security and know that there is someone there to support them at all times and wherever they are.
For example, parents can communicate with their children regularly to understand their current situation and feelings. At the same time, parents can also encourage their children to participate in some interest groups or social activities to broaden their social circle and enhance their social skills. These measures can help children gradually get out of the psychological shadow and reintegrate into society.
In addition to helping children cope with bullying incidents that have already occurred, parents also need to strengthen the education of their children in their daily lives to prevent bullying incidents from occurring.
First, parents need to tell their children what bullying is and how harmful it is. Let your child understand that bullying, whether physical or psychological, is unacceptable. Second, parents need to teach their children how to protect themselves and how to seek help in the event of bullying. In addition, parents also need to pay attention to their children's social environment and avoid their contact with people who have a tendency to bully.
Family education plays a vital role in dealing with bullying in schools. Parents' listening and understanding, communication and guidance, companionship and support, and education and prevention are all key to helping children get out of the psychological shadow and regain their self-confidence.
Looking ahead, we need to continue to pay attention to the problem of school bullying and strengthen the role of family education in psychology. At the same time, we also need to call on all sectors of society to work together to create a safe, harmonious and friendly environment for children to grow up. Let every child grow up freely under the sun and bloom their own light.
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