It's not the same now. It's the age of the only child. The child carries everything to the parents, and the child is everything to the parents. As a parent, there is nothing more worrying about the safety and health of children. When the child grows up peacefully, he can talk about the hope that his son will become a dragon and his daughter will become a phoenix. As a result, Chinese's tolerance for school bullying has reached its lowest point since the founding of the People's Republic of China. In recent years, the relevant departments, especially the education department and the public security organs, have also invested a lot of resources to rectify and prevent school violence.
However, if you want to prevent bullying in school, you want to prevent it from happening to your own child. It's mainly on yourself. After all, based on the current view of political performance, the school's logic of dealing with school bullying has not changed: it does not pay attention to it when it does not happen, and the first reaction after the accident is to turn the big thing into a small thing and a small thing to avoid responsibility. At present, the public security organs are mainly punishing the school bullying that has occurred. We don't have that much police and resources, and we don't have a better way to prevent bullying in schools.
To prevent bullying in schools, we must first understand a basic fact: bullying is more common at that age;School bullying is high in that kind of school scene;The organizers of school bullying are more likely to be those students.
After finding the scenes of high incidence and frequent school bullying, we can talk about the right medicine and effective prevention.
Due to the lack of authoritative statistics, the author can only analyze on his own based on the case. It's speculation. Reasoned rebuttals are welcome.
First of all, from the child's point of view, primary school students are generally in the infantile stage, and their minds are full of play. Their physical fitness is still weak, and even if there are conflicts between classmates, they are mostly petty fights. More importantly, primary school students have not yet entered the rebellious period, and they are full of awe for the teacher, which is to listen to the teacher's words in layman's terms. At this stage, large-scale school bullying cannot be formed.
Secondly: high school is full of academics, and the children have also gone through the most rebellious period of their lives, and the children have gradually grown up and have a certain sense of self-protection and self-defense ability. At this stage, school bullying occasionally occurs, but it is difficult to become a climate.
Therefore, the real flood of school bullying occurs in junior high school students. On the one hand, based on growing up and entering a rebellious period, the children have nowhere to release their blood. On the one hand, unlike the nearest elementary school, parents pick up and drop off every day. Children who have just experienced life away from their parents have the probability of being bullied at school or the courage to bully at school. And junior high school students are indeed an age that is not afraid of heaven and earth, and their emotions are boiling with enthusiasm, hormones are bursting, and they don't know how to start, and they can even be said to be extremely ruthless. When I used to handle cases, even *** admitted that I was most reluctant to have a conflict with the hooligan students in junior high school, because they really dared to kill people.
The frequency of bullying varies significantly from school to school. Specifically, the frequency of school bullying in boarding middle schools is much higher than in day middle schools. The reason is also simple: the timeliness of discovery.
Children stay away from their parents and live in school accommodations. You can only go home on weekends. School teachers can still keep an eye on the children during the day, but at night, the children sleep and rest in the dormitory on their own, and the dormitory has become a blind spot for supervision, and it has become the best place for children to violently resolve conflicts.
In day schools, parents pick up and drop off their children every day, and they can clearly find out the emotional state and physical condition of their children every day, especially whether there are external injuries. Under the objective conditions of timely detection and timely feedback, the occurrence of malignant school bullying has been effectively suppressed.
So, what about the high incidence of school bullying organizers among students?
It can be summarized as follows: Township junior high schools and urban-rural junior high schools are the schools with the highest incidence of school bullying. Children know how to take advantage of the situation. Those little bullies are usually three kinds of people: those whose homes live close to the school;Children of faculty and public officials;and single-parent families and left-behind children.
Among them, it must be admitted that single-parent families have a serious negative impact on children's mental health. Left-behind children are no less traumatized by their parents than single-parent families. This kind of child, after entering the rebellious period around the age of 14, the able-bodied choose to torture other children to vent their emotions, and the introverted and withdrawn often become the most common victims of school bullying.
Children whose parents live near schools and whose parents are staff or public officials often become organizers of bullying at school. Children from single-parent families and left-behind children often become thugs for school bullying organizers. In addition to the same single-parent children and left-behind children, the children who are bullied the most are directly proportional to the distance between home and school: the farther away from school, the more likely they are to become victims. The less attention and affection parents give to their children, the more likely they are to become victims. The worse the grades, the less attention the teacher gets, the more likely the child is to become a victim. It is important to emphasize here that the worse the grades, the more likely it is that the teacher will not get the attention. The less attention they receive from their teachers, the more likely they are to develop a withdrawn and introverted personality. The more withdrawn and introverted a child is, the more likely he is to be bullied at school. This is completely different from the general impression that children with poor grades are the main force of school bullying perpetrators. Children with poor grades are the main force of school bullying victims.
The fundamental purpose of bullying perpetrators is to gain social recognition from their peers through bullying, even if this identification is based on sin and fear.
Based on the above analysis, the key stage of school bullying prevention should be placed in junior high school. The focus of bullying prevention in schools should be placed in boarding schools. The focus of school bullying prevention should be on confronting and dealing with children's psychological problems, and for children, timely, high-frequency, and repeated communication should be used to create better teaching and living conditions for children.
To sum up, the high incidence of school bullying is in junior high school, so try not to let children in junior high school enter boarding schools, and insist on picking up and dropping off children from school every day, which is the best way for parents to prevent school bullying.
Everything for the sake of the child is a challenge that every parent must face. For the sake of all children, this is a problem that our country must solve.
May there be no place for school bullying, and may children survive dangerous adolescence in good health and safety.