As the saying goes, "There are four in the family, and the family is ruined", which three? Does it make sense?
Rural Wisdom Heritage.
In China's vast countryside, the tranquil land is the result of the wisdom of countless generations, and these simple and profound rural proverbs have been passed down like flowing water. Among them,"There are four products in the family, and the family is ruined"It carries the life beliefs and wisdom of the ancients, and guides people to take care of their families in troubled times. Among them,"Son-in-law **, the loser also died"、"If you borrow a house to live, the loser will die"、"Too dead outside the hall, so do the losers"The three contents contain the vicissitudes of rural culture and the awe of rural culture, which are worthy of in-depth study and understanding.
1) If your son-in-law lies down, your family will perish.
The son-in-law shared the same bed, and the family was ruined. "This seemingly ordinary proverb has all kinds of heavy cultural connotations behind it. The ancients believed that the daughter who married out was the water that was spilled, and when relatives were at home, different dreams in the same bed would lead to the destruction of the family. This is not a simple taboo, but a respect for the happiness of the family. Today, despite the changing times and the gradual decline of this tradition in some places, the family style behind respect and respect is still worth passing on.
2) If a stranger borrows a room, his family will be destroyed and he will also die.
The living borrow a house, and the family is ruined"This sentence reflects the importance of family fortune, and also reflects the ancient people's awe of life and death. In rural areas, in addition to the exclusion of daughters-in-law who give birth to children by themselves, it is even more taboo to borrow a house to have children. Because in the eyes of the ancients, the issue of life and death should be resolved within the family, so as to ensure the safety of the family. The continuation of this concept conveys the unchanging adherence to and cherishing of the family, and reflects the persistence of the ancients to the fate of the family.
3) People die outside the corridor, and families are ruined.
People die outside the hall, and families also die. "This sentence expresses the extreme respect of the ancients for the face and tradition of the family. The old man is seriously ill outside the home and is reluctant to go home to see a doctor precisely because he is worried about the reputation and future of his family. Although this sentence has gradually disappeared in modern society, the ancients' defense and insistence on the honor and dignity of the family are worthy of our reflection.
A modern perspective on rural wisdom.
Although these three traditional proverbs are handed down in the countryside, the wisdom contained in them is instructive for contemporary life. With the development of the times, rural culture is no longer closed and stubborn, but integrated into modern life and mixed with scientific knowledge. We must respect the modern transformation of these traditional wisdoms and give them new connotations and meanings as we pass them on.
1.Son-in-law in bed: Be careful to protect the welfare of the family.
In today's society, where family relationships are more diverse and inclusive, it is inevitable that a son-in-law will come home to spend the night with his wife. However, we can learn from this proverb that respecting family happiness, adapting to the development of the times, and having a sense of reverence can maintain the traditional bottom line even at critical moments.
2.Borrowing from the living: Valuing the family and keeping the peace.
The process of having a child is a matter of life and death, and putting the child under the protection of the family is a sign of respect for the family and life. Although the way to have a child varies from time to time and from place to person, the values of valuing and protecting family and life can be shared.
3.Death of a person outside the salon: family honor conveys respect.
In modern society, it is not uncommon for family members to separate for reasons such as work. However, we can still learn from this proverb that inheriting and respecting family honors, as well as remembering our ancestors and parents, must become the responsibility and obligation of our generation.
Summary. Rural sayings"There are three elements in the family, and the family is ruined and the person dies"For today's society, it may be a bit old-fashioned, but the spirit of family, dignity and love behind it is worthy of our deep thought and inheritance. In today's society, we can look at these traditional wisdoms with a more open and inclusive mind, and give them new connotations and meanings. Tradition and modernity are not opposites, but complementary. While we inherit, we should also use a positive and innovative attitude to interpret the modern inheritance of traditional wisdom.