Self-responsibility is to position oneself as the first person responsible for one's own happiness and the master of one's own destiny.
When a person is not doing well, the easiest thing is to throw the responsibility off to the outside world:
Blaming my lover for not hurting others, not working hard, having a bad temper, and having low emotional intelligence, he makes me angry every day;
blamed the child for not being sensible, not studying well, and causing trouble every day, so angry that my blood pressure was high;
blames his parents for not loving themselves well, and the education is simple and rude, which leads to his bad character and timidity;
Blame the general environment for being bad, the salary is too low, and you can't make money.
When I think so, there is only one benefit - I don't have to be responsible for "not living well for myself", anyway, it's the responsibility of the environment and others.
And then what?We're going to get into a cycle of complaining, where everything doesn't go well, everybody is working against me, everything isn't going well, and I'm so miserable......
Before we know it, we are really living more and more miserable.
People with good lives are people who have the courage to be self-responsible.
Positioning sets the world.
Let the self-responsible positioning penetrate deep into every nerve and every cell of yours, until you encounter any unsatisfactory situation, from instinctive confrontation, evasion, and falling into the default mode to the self-responsible channel, you will have more and more freedom.