01 Calm your mind.
There are times when we really want to calm ourselves down.
I don't know why our hearts are always very impetuous.
Sometimes we even find that even though no one makes us angry, we still feel angry inside.
Actually, it's just because our hearts haven't really calmed down.
If our own mood is stable enough, then even when we are angry, we will not be moved.
So how do we calm our minds?
The first thing we have to do is calm ourselves down first.
Reflect on yourself and what kind of role you play in this matter.
Are these contradictions caused by ourselves?
Why are we angry for no reason?
After getting angry for no reason, how should we make ourselves not make such mistakes next time?
Reflect on this matter, think about why you are angry, and how to solve this problem.
Instead of starting to regret it after getting angry, regretting that you didn't control your emotions in the first place.
And next time, I was angry for no reason.
Being angry for no reason can sometimes easily ruin a relationship.
Because not everyone is going to pay for your temper.
I can't stand your temper and will naturally leave.
All we have to do is calm enough not to lose our temper casually.
02Calm your body.
Secondly, we need to find ways to keep our bodies calm.
In real life, we will find that when others have a quarrel, it is easy to produce some violent behavior.
Either scolding some ugly words, or beating people.
Either way to solve this problem will not work.
None of us are children anymore, so why do something in such a savage way?
Even if they are children, they will try to make the war stop.
Sometimes it turns out that these disputes are just for small things.
The two brothers began to fight each other over a small piece of land.
They both think that they are being taken advantage of by the other party, so they start chattering.
And after chattering, it will only make the relationship more fragile.
The brothers were originally relatives, but after quarrels again and again, this relationship gradually changed.
In fact, this kind of thing happens all the time, and it's just because we can't calm down our bodies.
If we want to reason with the other person, we also need to choose people who can talk to us calmly.
If you blindly quarrel with yourself and blindly use your hands and feet, then we have no way to communicate with them.
03Enjoy life.
In fact, what we lack in this life is to let ourselves enjoy life enough.
Every day passes and we don't come back, so we have to cherish every day even more.
Even if we are going through some unpleasant moments right now, no matter how dark these times are.
We must not forget to allow ourselves to enjoy life.
In fact, it is the right of each of us to enjoy life, but many people always think that they cannot enjoy life if they do not have enough wealth or time.
In fact, this notion is wrong.
No matter what moment we are in, don't overdo it to affect our mood.
Our mindset is a very important factor that affects our lives.
It is not right to be too excited or too sad.
Accept the big or small things with a calm mindset.
03Don't worry too much about gains and losses.
In fact, many times we are unhappy, mainly related to our own hearts.
A lot of times we care too much about our gains and losses.
We thought it was like the sky was going to fall.
Are these lost things really more important than your own life?
You make yourself angry, you make yourself feel bad, but that's actually the bigger loss.
If our lives have been in a state of melancholy, then we don't know what the meaning of life is.
When we suddenly wake up one day, we realize that we have wasted so much time.
We always lament that we are wasting our time, but in fact, we waste a lot of time because we want to think about it.
So there is nothing in this world that we don't regret, what we can do is to reduce our regrets as much as possible.
The way to alleviate your regrets is to try to make yourself happy.
In fact, there are many ways to achieve happiness, but many times we are reluctant to practice it.
Just like children, they just need to get a lollipop and have fun for a long time.
We're like that, we actually have to lower our inner satisfaction, and we don't always feel that we have to have those great successes to be happy.
Don't be too yourself, and don't blame yourself too much.
To enjoy our lives and make our lives better is what we want to do.