Everyone is talking about the family of origin, and they all say that "happy people use childhood for a lifetime, and unfortunate people use a lifetime for childhood". Why do I say that, a harmonious family atmosphere is very important for children to build the original state of homeostasis, I explain from the two states of shellfish, shell mollusks have two states, one is abduction in a safe state, and the other is indentation in an insecure state. In fact, human beings also have two similar states, the state of safety, the state of human beings to extend outward to explore the world, and the state of inner convergence and self-protection and healing in the state of insecurity. The ideal state is that the state of abduction and adduction is in dynamic balance with each other, and the advance and retreat are free. However, this equilibrium is not easy to achieve, and if the body abducts more than adduction, then the human body is very likely to be exposed to the environment too much, and when encountering danger, the retraction speed is not enough, which will cause injury. Too much induction will also cause problems, being too hostile to the world, and losing many opportunities to understand and transform the world. Therefore, these two physical states can only adapt to the uncertainty of the environment under dynamic equilibrium.
If the family atmosphere is harmonious, it is easier for the child to build a dynamically balanced body structure, and the child's self-adaptation is more extensive. If the family atmosphere is tense, the child's heart has been in a state of uneasiness and tension, and has formed a habit, for self-safety, he has lost a lot of motivation to outreach and explore the world, which may be one of the reasons for the child's introversion. Some of the child's potential is inhibited and not effectively exploited.
Therefore, in order to better educate their children, parents need to provide children with a harmonious family atmosphere, give enough love to let children grow up in a loving environment, let children feel the warmth from the family, and feel the firm support and confidence from the family while they explore the world.