Big controversy, New Year's red envelope grandson 1200 grandson 500, granddaughter 600 granddaughter 300! It's not fair
Some netizens posted that her mother prepared a red envelope for the New Year, 1200 for her grandson, 500 for her grandson, 300 for her granddaughter, and 600 for her granddaughter.
She couldn't figure out why her mother would do this, so she went online to ask for advice.
Let's see what netizens understand.
"The old man who understands things will give the same amount of money, this amount will not be too big, who usually sees the old man more times, and then give it separately
"If my mother-in-law dares to give it to me like this, don't expect my daughter-in-law to give her money to spend during the New Year in the future.
"There's nothing wrong with your mother. 1200 grandsons, 600 grandchildren, after all, there is a difference between relatives and relatives, more relatives and less outside. Grandson can go to his grandmother and get 1200.
"There is no contradiction, take the initiative to create contradictions
"The daughter's family won't go back, let the son, grandson and mother live
"There's nothing wrong with it, don't talk about going to the grave, it's different when you die, we have one, the grandson cried a handful of snot and tears, and the grandson came to stand and left, and went to the county to play with his classmates
"There's nothing wrong with this red envelope! When the old man didn't have it, he knew why his grandson was 1200
This red envelope made the whole family angry
"The palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are all meat, and you can't favor one over the other
"It's the same on the surface, my grandchildren and grandchildren, it's all the same
"Give it the same as a red envelope, and give it to your grandson in private. You don't have to be unwilling, in the future, when you are old, your grandson will have to take care of the elderly, and your grandson can say that he will come when he is free, and he will not come if he is free, it all depends on filial piety. The grandson will be scolded for not taking care of the elderly
"Such an old man is a stirrger, no matter how much money is paid once a year, everyone is the same, and the children are happy. I want to be partial to my grandchildren, and I usually give more pocket money.
"This is the same reason as not allowing women to be on the table before, it is still patriarchal. The baby born to his daughter is one level lower than that of his son? I am all women, don't I look down on myself
We see that netizens are also very big factions, one faction thinks that it is okay for the old lady to divide it like this, after all, the grandson is raised by her side, and the feelings are deeper, and she needs the care of her grandson in the future, which is different from intimacy.
The other faction thinks that grandchildren, granddaughters and granddaughters are all third-generation, and they are all their direct descendants, and there is no difference at all, so it is too hurtful to treat them so blatantly.
Personally, I think that the red envelope is originally an expression of love, an encouragement from the elders to the younger generations, no matter how much it is love, the children will happily accept it. But when a group of children are together and hold different red envelopes, they will indeed compare, and it is unlikely that they will say that their hearts have no effect.
If there is really a difference between intimacy and intimacy, then you should do this, be consistent in the red envelope, everyone looks good on face, and then give one in private, so that the problem can be solved. is so clear, for fear that others will not know, this old man still has a lot of ideas.
She is not afraid that her grandchildren will be dissatisfied, this is the key, perhaps, this is a contrast method, there are few grandchildren, there are few granddaughters, only the most grandchildren, she wants to use this method to tell her grandson that she is the most precious to him.
How to say it, in the final analysis, the red envelope is issued by the old man, and she has the right to dispose of it. Let the children be satisfied, she herself is not satisfied, and this year is not happy.