Zhou Guoping said a sentence:"It is instinct to be critical of those close to you, but to overcome instinct and not be critical of those close to you is a kind of upbringing. "
I have a colleague who usually gets along well, communicates smoothly and cooperates happily. But he never had a good attitude towards his mother. He is an only son, so he is naturally loved by his mother. But he seems to be very disgusted with such care, and often when his mother gives him **, he is full of impatience and harshness.
Every time I heard him do this, I and other colleagues looked at each other and felt very uncomfortable.
When he hung up ** and talked to us, he immediately became gentle and drizzly. and he who just hit ** is like two people.
Have you noticed that many people have shown enthusiasm and patience to friends, colleagues and strangers, and are full of impatience with parents, siblings, and lovers? Either you don't speak, or you just shout at the top of your voice.
I suddenly remembered Stephen Chow's movie "The Inner Secret Agent", when I watched it for the first time, I was still young, and I leaned back and laughed. I revisited it the other day, but I couldn't laugh at all.
Listen to people's words: "I don't know the meaning of the song when I am young, and I am already a person in the song when I listen to it again." ”
It turns out that watching movies is the same.
What is the concept of a close person? People close to you are those who will not leave, and they love everything about you, including your bad temper. So subconsciously think of their love for you as a capital that you can be unscrupulous, even if you yell at them and hurt them, it's okay because you know they won't leave.
In front of people close to you, you don't have to disguise or hide your emotions, so you ignore their emotions. Wantonly hurt their hearts with their bad moods.
The education received from childhood to adulthood is to be polite to others and to know how to share. So you are always polite to outsiders, but at home you have to argue with your siblings and even do something with your siblings even if it is a small toy. We can give our friends a complaint, but we don't care about whether our own complaints will affect them. We will listen patiently to what the leader says, and we will go all out for the tasks assigned. But we are annoyed by the nagging of our parents, and we hang up before they finish speaking** or turn around and leave.
We have learned the ability to get along with others well, but we have learned not to control our temper in front of those closest to us, we will still blurt out ugly words, and our dissatisfaction will still be written on our faces, and our faces will always be long. Maybe you're aware of the problem, but you're still reluctant to change. obviously hurt the people closest to him, but he didn't care about it, and even took it for granted.
There's a saying on the internet that goes like this:"You can only hurt the people you love and those who love you forever. "Do you feel that this reading is full of sadness and sadness?
Respect and politeness to outsiders, is it also possible to give this respect to the people closest to you?
We are always asking for our loved ones, so should we give them the same in addition to asking for them?
No one in this world owes you, and so do your loved ones, please give them more gentleness, more patience, and more respect.