"Parenting" is a spiritual practice for every family. In this process, parents will encounter a variety of challenges and need to keep learning and improving. So, how to better educate children?
This is a complex issue that has multiple dimensions. When thinking about how to raise children, many parents may fall into a "fragmented thinking". When they saw what educational methods were popular in society, they hurriedly tried them, such as the popular "tiger mother" education method for a certain period of time, emphasizing strict requirements and a sense of competition; Or the "free-range" education law, which advocates free development without exerting too much pressure.
These methods sometimes give people the illusion that they have found a "shortcut" to education, but in reality, a single way of education cannot deal with all the problems in a child's development. This is like curing a disease, you can't just take one method, you have to choose the right way according to the condition. The same is true for educating children, which should be considered according to the child's personality, interests and needs, as well as the cultural background of the family, the values of the parents and other factors.
In contrast to fragmented thinking, there is a systematic thinking. It emphasizes a comprehensive and comprehensive view of the child's growth environment, as well as the influencing factors of family, school, society and other aspects. Systematic thinking requires parents to have a holistic view and be able to integrate various parenting means, resources and methods to form a complete parenting system. It's like combining ingredients and spices together to create a dish that tastes and tastes great. In this way, children can grow up in a more holistic educational environment and receive more support and help.
In specific practice, many parents may be inclined to directly learn from the "other family's plan", that is, to see what other people are doing well, and copy it and use it for their own children. However, every family and child is unique, and it often doesn't work out the way it works. It's like a tailor tailoring a client, and if it's just a successful person's size, then the dress is probably not suitable for the average person. Therefore, when parents learn from the experience of others, they must combine the characteristics of their own families and the personality of their children, creatively absorb and apply, rather than blindly copying them.
So how do you put a systematic approach to parenting into practice?
First of all, we must have a holistic concept, understand that children's growth is a gradual accumulation process from quantitative change to qualitative change, which requires patience and careful accompaniment; Not only to help children solve immediate problems, but also to help children build long-term development planning and confidence. Secondly, we should pay attention to all-round development, not only academic performance, but also care about children's physical and mental health, social skills, moral character and other aspects; Finally, it is necessary to be good at making good use of various resources, including family education, school education, community resources, etc.
There are many vivid examples in life to support this view. For example, some parents will combine their children's interests and strengths to sign up for various training courses and club activities to stimulate their learning motivation and cultivate multiple abilities. Some parents work with their children to develop learning plans and goals, so that children feel that they are self-disciplined and active learners, have a direction, and are not confused. Some parents work with schools and communities to create a better environment for their children to grow up and provide more intimate support and help. These practices reflect the application of systematic thinking in family education.
In short, "ten years of trees, a hundred years of people", education is a long-term and arduous task. In the process of raising children, parents should always keep a clear mind and clear goals, and adopt systematic ideas and methods to lay a solid foundation for their children's all-round development. Only in this way will the wish of "hoping that the son will become a dragon and the daughter will become a phoenix" will not be disappointed.
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