In the ocean of emotion, they are deeply emotionally invested in that unchanging loyalty. None of us want to face the cheating of our lover's heart, which is like a sharp knife that pierces our hearts mercilessly.
When we find out that our loved one has turned him on to someone else, we often feel extreme pain and betrayal.
But things are unpredictable, and sometimes our dedication doesn't guarantee a loyal partner. They may still be disoriented and will be emotionally attached to others. This fact leaves us with only bitter fruits, which we need to bear and digest alone.
If you're going through this situation, or are worried about what might happen in the future, keep these three principles in mind and they will help you emerge victorious in this emotional game.
Don't be hasty with self-denial. When your lover's heart begins to wander, you may be inclined to blame yourself and think that all misfortunes are your fault.
This self-blame is unnecessary. Self-reflection is necessary, but excessive self-criticism will only hurt you more. The change of heart first exposes the other person's character problems, or it may be because of the lack of fate between you that makes him attracted to others.
Not all the problems are with you, and you don't have to take all the blame on yourself, which will only make you more miserable.
Don't let yourself fall into a deep hatred for the other person. If you find that the other person is no longer loyal, it is wise to choose to close the relationship as soon as possible to avoid unnecessary losses.
Some people are hard to let go of and can't get out of it for a long time. This kind of excessive nostalgia is actually a waste of one's life. It's natural to hold grudges when you're betrayed, but excessive resentment will only hinder your steps toward a new life.
Is it really worth it?
Learning to do proper self-reflection and learning from itProper self-reflection can help us grow and improve, but excessive self-reflection may attract those of the opposite sex who like to take advantage of others.
Maintaining a rational and objective attitude and being hospitable can help you move towards a healthier and more mature relationship.
The emotional world is complex and delicate, but as long as we stick to our principles and face them rationally, we will always find our own happiness and peace.
In the real emotional world, once we find that our partner's heart has deviated, we should not only quickly sort out our emotions, but also actively think and reflect on the past.
This kind of retrospective of the emotional experience is called "review".
It is crucial to deeply review your own emotional path, ** the reasons that led to this outcome. This includes examining one's own faults and thinking about change.
How we can make adjustments and improvements in our future relationship journey to avoid repeating the mistakes of the past is also an important part of the review.
Take a sister I know, for example, who has been struggling in the emotional whirlpool, repeatedly divorced and remarried, and the repeated tossing and turning has left her exhausted. Now, even the children are not adequately cared for, which undoubtedly affects her living conditions.
Her predicament is not unrelated to her lack of in-depth reflection and summary of the past.
In love, we can't control whether the other party will change their minds, which is where the fragility of human nature lies. We can't control others, we control ourselves. Learning to accept this fact and courageously look forward is the wise thing to do.
Through review, we can more clearly recognize our strengths and weaknesses, and face our future love life more maturely, so as to make the road of life broader and brighter.