In the chapter on retirement, the story usually opens a new chapter. The daily life becomes long, and the days need a new filling. Sometimes, old friends get together to share a meal and enjoy a laugh.
However, in this circle, not everyone is invited, especially those who are deemed inappropriate to eat together.
Retirement shouldn't be a carnival of the opposite sex. Some people, after retirement, are keen to organize or participate in group gatherings with the opposite sex, whether it is a short outing or a long trip.
On the surface, this may seem like a way to release the stresses of life, but if the participants are married, such an act is actually a betrayal of the family.
The family is a safe haven in life, and loyalty to it is the duty of every member. Indulging one's desires will only lead to the breakdown of one's own family and one's own loneliness in the end.
Secondly, retirement socializing should come to an end. In the workplace, in order to work, people have to participate in various social interactions, which is part of the adult world. However, once we retire, we lose the necessity of socializing.
After retirement, people should pursue simple and comfortable relationships, not those superficial hypocrisy. Forcibly maintaining the socializing of those working periods will only make you feel tired. In retirement, it's time to make it easy for yourself and no longer be bound by these tedious socializations.
At this stage of life, we should cherish the time we spend with people who truly care about us and not waste it on people who are not substantially helpful to us.
Retirement life can be colorful, but only if we know how to sift, how to refuse, and how to cherish.
In the journey of life, we will always meet a few relatives who are difficult to get along with. Maybe it's because of the entanglement of interests, maybe it's because of the irreconcilable differences in concepts, or because of the hidden misunderstandings and contradictions that are difficult to solve.
In a situation like this, is it really necessary to try to repair these relationships after retirement? Traces of relationship breakdown are not so easy to erase. Unless it is the heartfelt reflection and admission of mistakes by the person concerned.
Otherwise, most of the intersections may only be superficial coping and on-the-scenes cutscenes.
Let me take some of my relatives as examples. They had a heated argument with my father in middle age.
The root cause is, on the one hand, the problem of personal quality, and on the other hand, the conflict of interests and other complex factors.
Such a profound contradiction makes both sides unable to understand each other from the bottom of their hearts, and the entanglement of interests makes the relationship between them even more complicated.
Therefore, when they grow old, it is actually very difficult to repair the relationship in harmony.
In real life, it doesn't make much sense for retired people to want to reconnect with their relatives.
Some things cannot be changed, just as the character and character of some people are difficult to reverse.
Forcibly will be together, on the surface of harmony, but deep down still unable to accept each other.
This kind of false coping will only make people feel tired. Why bother?
It's better to let go of those things that can't be changed and make life easier and more enjoyable.