Every weekend, I invite some good friends over to my house for dinner. This time was no exception, and I invited my friend Mr. Wang.
Mr. Wang is an amiable person and we have known each other for several years. Every time he came to my house, he showed that he especially liked to play with my cat. We all love him, he's like a member of our family.
On this day, Mr. Wang came to my house as promised, and as soon as he entered the door, he was hugged by my 4-year-old daughter Xiaoya. Xiaoya looked innocent and said to Mr. Wang with a smile: "Dad, you are here!" I was almost shocked by her words, "Dad, you're here?!" "I wondered if this little guy was mistaken, and Mr. Wang wasn't her father.
Mr. Wang looked surprised, then smiled slightly awkwardly, bent down and said to Xiaoya, "Baby, are you sure I'm your father?" I'm your father's friend, you can call me uncle. Xiaoya said resolutely with a serious face: "No, you are my father!" She paused for a moment and added, "Dad said to call you uncle obediently." ”
I listened to Xiaoya's words, and my heart was really mixed. I started to wonder, what the hell is going on? How could Xiaoya think of Mr. Wang as her father?
I didn't debunk Xiaoya's delusions, but continued to observe the interaction between them. Mr. Wang didn't dig deeper, but played with Xiaoya like a real father.
At dinner, Xiaoya sat opposite Mr. Wang, staring at his face all the time, and kept yelling for Mr. Wang to serve her vegetables. Mr. Wang smiled and said, "Do you know how to clip it yourself?" Xiao Ya shook her head again and again, then raised her head and said, "Dad, you can clip it for me." Seeing this, Mr. Wang touched Xiaoya's head and said gently, "Okay, I'll clip it for you." He gave a piece of food to Xiaoya, and Xiaoya laughed happily.
After dinner, I took Xiaoya back to her room. Xiaoya sat on the bed with a serious face. She looked at me as if she was thinking about something. I couldn't help but ask, "Xiaoya, why did you call Mr. Wang's father just now?" Xiaoya raised her head with an innocent face: "Because he is good to me, he will serve me vegetables, and he is like my real father." Hearing Xiaoya's answer, I couldn't help but feel a lot of emotion.
Although I have no connection with Mr. Wang in terms of blood relationship, this so-called misunderstanding has made me see a special picture. In Xiaoya's eyes, dad is not necessarily determined by blood relationship, but through care, affection and companionship.
I looked at Xiaoya, and a warm current surged in my heart. I understand that Mr. Wang is not Xiaoya's biological father, but he has proved with his actions that he can be a competent, responsible and loving father.
This misunderstanding made me see the diversity of family affection. We are not limited to blood relations, but through the connection of hearts and minds to build a deep family relationship.
In the months that followed, I found that Xiaoya became more and more dependent on Mr. Wang, and she spent almost all of her time with him. Every day when I get home from school, Xiaoya can't wait to ask me, "Dad, is Uncle Wang coming today?" I had to smile and reply, "Baby, you are really close to Uncle Wang!" ”
In Xiaoya's eyes, Mr. Wang has become her relative, and she often confides in Mr. Wang about her family affairs, and even brings Mr. Wang the homework she needs to do. She gradually regarded Mr. Wang as her father.
However, I don't know if this state of affairs is appropriate to continue. In the past, I welcomed Mr. Wang's appearance, and he brought us happiness and warmth. But now, I feel like I have become a stranger, Xiaoya has no resistance to me, and she is more willing to accompany Mr. Wang than me.
I started to feel uneasy and worried, and I didn't know what I was going to do. I tried to talk to Xiaoya, but every time I talked about it, she always flickered and refused to talk to me more. It made me even more anxious and helpless.
One night, Mr. Wang watched me sitting on the sofa in a daze, he came over and asked with concern, "What happened, you look troubled?" I smiled wryly and nodded: "Yes, Xiaoya is becoming more and more dependent on you, and I am beginning to worry that her parent-child relationship with me will be affected." Mr. Wang listened silently, his face full of understanding.
I understand your concerns, but you should know that I cherish every day with Xiaoya, and she makes me feel the warmth of family. Mr. Wang's words gave me some understanding, and he continued: "I will not take your place in Xiaoya's heart, I am just a friend in her life, if you want me to leave, I will respect your decision." ”
I stared into Mr. Wang's eyes, and the contradictions and disputes in my heart pained me. I know that I can't deprive Xiaoya and Mr. Wang of the tacit understanding and companionship between Xiaoya and Mr. Wang because of my selfishness. I also hope in my heart that Xiaoya can have a happy and warm growth environment.
Just as I was deep in thought, Xiaoya bit her lip, walked up to me in a low voice, and said, "Dad, I don't want Uncle Wang to leave, he is my best friend." Her words were like a sharp knife into my heart, and I felt a mixed feeling welling up in my heart.
Mr. Wang stepped forward, patted me on the shoulder, and whispered, "She just needs a little company, she is your baby, and she will never forget that." His words made me understand that my anxiety was superfluous and that I should not limit the relationship between Xiaoya and Mr. Wang.
Gradually, I came to terms with this fact, and I began to enjoy the time I spent with Mr. Wang. I understand that paternal love is not something that can be given only by blood, but needs to be constructed through care and companionship. The interaction between Xiaoya and Mr. Wang makes me feel reassured and satisfied, and I hope that they can maintain this relationship forever.
In the originally peaceful family, there was a small dispute.
One day, Mr. Wang came to my house again. Xiao Ya greeted him happily, only to find that Mr. Wang was holding a beautiful gift box in his hand. Xiaoya asked curiously, "Dad, what is this?" Mr. Wang smiled and said, "This is a birthday present for you, Xiaoya." Xiaoya's eyes lit up, and she reached out to take the gift box and opened it with anticipation.
The weird thing is that the gift box turned out to be a beautiful toy unicorn, and Xiaoya's favorite toy is a panda.
Xiaoya's brows furrowed, she looked up at Mr. Wang, and said puzzledly: "Dad, my favorite is the panda, why did you buy me a unicorn?" Mr. Wang was stunned, looked a little innocent and said, "I'm sorry, I thought you liked unicorns." Xiao Ya snorted dissatisfiedly, hugged the unicorn toy, turned around and ran into her room.
I watched this scene and was a little embarrassed. This was a small misunderstanding, but it caused Xiaoya's dissatisfaction and disappointment. I know that she doesn't really care about unicorns and pandas, but because of her desire for fatherly love.
I gently walked into Xiaoya's room and saw her sitting on the bed, and her sad appearance made me feel distressed. I sat down next to her and asked softly, "Xiaoya, why are you angry?" Is it because of unicorns? Xiaoya nodded, tears streaming down. I took her hand and comforted her gently, "Baby, maybe Dad wanted to surprise you and accidentally bought the wrong one." But Daddy still loves you, whether it's a unicorn or a panda, it doesn't matter. What matters is the love and companionship between us. ”
Xiaoya raised her head, tears flashed in her eyes, she hugged me tightly and cried loudly. I gently patted her on the back and silently cried with her. I know that this is the emotional release from her heart, and it is also an expectation of her family and affection.
From that day on, Mr. Wang and I paid more attention to the small details and tried our best to meet Xiaoya's needs. We went to the zoo to play together on weekend afternoons, and Mr. Wang patiently accompanied Xiaoya to feed the pandas. Xiaoya's smile returned to her face, and she felt our sincerity and love for her.
Disputes and conflicts in the family are often not because of small things, but because of emotional problems buried deep in our hearts. Everyone expects to be loved and understood, and even more so among loved ones. And this misunderstanding made us more aware of the importance and tacit understanding between family members.
Xiaoya's eyes were full of warmth and happiness again. She no longer dwells on the types of gifts, but begins to enjoy the joy of fatherly love. Mr. Wang and I also understand our responsibility as parents to always listen to our children's voices, understand their needs, and give them the warmest companionship.
I watched the interaction between Xiaoya and Mr. Wang, and my heart was full of emotion and relief. However, in the midst of such a harmonious atmosphere, a small dispute suddenly appeared.
One day, Xiaoya brought her favorite teddy bear to the living room, hoping to share her favorite toy with Mr. Wang. However, just when she reached out and handed the toy to Mr. Wang, I suddenly said, "Xiaoya, your bear is brand new, don't make it dirty for others." ”
Xiaoya was stunned when she heard my words. She looked at me puzzled, then at the bear in her hand, overwhelmed. And Mr. Wang sighed deeply and touched Xiaoya's head. "Xiaoya, you have to understand that your toys are your personal belongings, not everyone can touch them casually. He explained gently.
Xiaoya's tears fell suddenly, and she said in a trembling voice, "But, I thought it was ......."Thought you were my dad and I could share ...... with you”
Hearing Xiaoya's words, my heart tingled. I didn't expect that she would treat Mr. Wang as her father, and such a misunderstanding would last for so long.
I leaned down and hugged Xiaoya. Tears flowed uncontrollably. "Baby, I'm sorry Mom didn't tell you in time, Mr. Wang is not your father. I said to her distressedly.
Xiaoya looked at me with moist eyes, looking a little confused. "And who is he? She asked softly.
I wiped the tears from my face and explained softly, "Mr. Wang is just our friend, and he likes you very much just like you. Although he is not your father, he cares about you, loves you, and grows up with you. ”
Xiaoya listened to my explanation, and a smile appeared on her face. Holding the teddy bear, she turned around and walked towards Mr. Wang. "Uncle Wang, you can still play with my bear, we're still good friends, right? She said softly.
Mr. Wang looked at Xiaoya, his eyes flashing with a soft and warm light. "Of course, we will always be good friends. He replied with a smile.
For a moment, there was a warm and harmonious atmosphere in the room. Accompanied by Mr. Wang, Xiaoya slowly understood the family relationship between her family and the special relationship between herself and Mr. Wang. Even though he wasn't her father, his presence gave her extra care and companionship.
I am deeply grateful to Mr. Wang, who has given Xiaoya more love and understanding in his own unique way. Although this family is not related by blood, we have established an inseparable bond through mutual care and tolerance.
The relationship between Xiaoya and Mr. Wang gradually attracted the attention of the family. Especially my mother, she was very dissatisfied with Xiaoya's admission of her father. After all, as an elderly person, she attaches great importance to the inheritance of the family's bloodline, and she can't accept Xiaoya's behavior of treating a father who is not her biological father as a father.
One night, I invited my mom to my house for dinner. At the dinner table, my mother suddenly asked, "Xiaoya, why do you treat Mr. Wang as your father?" Do you know that's not right? Xiaoya lowered her head, and her hand holding the chopsticks was a little trembling. After I was silent for a moment, I said, "Mom, this matter is related to Xiaoya's feelings, and we should respect her choice." ”
Mom looked at me dissatisfied, and then said to Xiaoya: "Baby, you have to remember that Dad is your biological father, and you can't easily recognize the wrong person." ”
Xiaoya raised her head, and tears couldn't help but flow. She cried and said, "However, my father is gone, Uncle Wang is good to me, and I like him." ”
Mom looked at Xiaoya's tears, and the expression on her face gradually softened. She walked up to Xiaoya, hugged her, and comforted her softly: "Baby, I know you miss your father, but we have to understand that he has left us." Uncle Wang is a good man, he can accompany you and take care of you, but he is not your biological father. ”
Xiaoya nodded and wiped away her tears. When I saw this, my heart was in harmony. Just then, the doorbell rang suddenly. I went to open the door, only to find a strange man standing outside the door.
He looked quite old, and there was a sense of exhaustion in his body. He smiled at me and said, "Hello, I'm Xiaoya's father, and I just came back from abroad. ”
Hearing this, I was stunned. As soon as Xiaoya heard someone's voice, she ran out curiously and saw the man standing outside the door. She exclaimed in surprise, "Daddy! You're back! ”
My mood instantly fell into chaos, of course I hoped that Xiaoya could find her biological father, but the current situation was very embarrassing. Two "fathers" appear in Xiaoya's life at the same time, what kind of disputes and contradictions will this cause?