This year, I have been in my thirties, and I have worked hard to create a small piece of my own world, and in this, I have gradually understood the true meaning of happiness
As long as the family affection is always there, it will be happiness to **.
And if you want family affection to always exist, it is inevitable that people big and small will be sophisticated, but my third uncle obviously didn't realize the importance of this matter, and was determined to be a "refined egoist", which also gave our family a headache.
However, it may also be because he thinks about himself first in everything, so that he is richer than us, or even the whole village, and he can make himself rich overnight just by doing business.
It stands to reason that a person who can become rich and noble should be admired by everyone in the village, but not only did the third uncle not do this, but the villagers still said that the third uncle was not good.
In fact, the third uncle was really not "wronged", he got rich overnight and became a millionaire for a while, and swaggered around the village to show off how rich he was.
People thought he wanted to do something to our poor village, but he didn't know that within two days he ran to the city, bought a new house, and didn't want to get involved in anything in the village, even some things in his own house.
Moreover, when the third uncle was not rich and wealthy, whatever happened to his family, the villagers would pay attention to it, and the rich contributed money, and the powerful ones all said that "the draught does not forget to dig the well", and the third uncle's completely selfish appearance at that time was really unacceptable to them.
My grandfather wanted the third uncle to pay attention to the situation in the village, even if he didn't want to, at least he should care about the situation in his own family.
But the third uncle completely cut off contact with our relatives in the village, and my grandfather also scolded him for how selfish he was because of this incident, and also said how unfilial he was.
However, although his grandfather did not have a good impression of him, his father was similar to his age after all, and he still had this trace of family affection for his father, but this was just a way for his father to contact him, and he didn't want him to tell others again, obviously wanting to completely cut off relations with us.
At first, my father wanted to persuade the third uncle to care more about the situation at home, but the third uncle's behavior became more and more excessive, which made the friendly father unbearable, and finally turned his face with the third uncle.
At that time, the red and white ceremonies of every family in the village were very important in almost the whole village, and the people of the village came to congratulate them when they got married or other happy events.
In order to maintain the "image" of the third uncle, the father took great pains to say good things for him, and when something happened in the village, he personally called ** to tell the third uncle what to do.
But the third uncle is a "strong seed", he refuses to return to the village if he says anything, maybe with his concept, he has long looked down on us "country villagers", and if he participates in our red and white ceremonies again, he will definitely lose some financial benefits.
For him, he is not willing to do his own thankless work.
After that, the third uncle didn't want to pick up his father's **, and said bluntly when they met:
Don't call me ** anymore, I don't want to participate in the affairs of the village, what kind of red and white ceremonies to participate in the tradition, it is pure pit money! ”
Although his father was a little angry at that time, but after all, the third uncle was his relative, and he didn't want to make the relationship too stiff, so he wanted to make the third uncle change his mind, but the third uncle was still unmoved.
You say, it's okay if the red thing doesn't come, and he doesn't want to go to see the white things in the village, and those who died may have helped the third uncle before his death!
Because of this, the third uncle has become a representative of the village people who do not understand human feelings, and he often talks about the three uncles' various badnesses.
As a relative, my father naturally refused to gossip about his family members by those villagers, but the wool grows on the sheep, and the bell must be tied to the bell, and only when the third uncle takes practical action, the villagers can forgive the third uncle's unreasonable behavior.
But after working hard to get in touch with the third uncle, his father became the object of preaching, not only saying that his father was talked about by the villagers because he had no money, but also said that he just didn't want to care about them, and it was better to have money than anything else.
This made his father angry, and he had a feeling of "children can't be taught", and what made him cry and laugh even more was that he also claimed that he would return to the village when his cousin got married, so that they could see the real scenery, and the villagers would definitely be envious of them at that time, and naturally there would be no doubts.
It may be that the emotions of both parties began to become extreme, anyway, my father didn't have a good face, and he didn't even eat lunch and went to work, and it was after this that I couldn't hear any news from the third uncle, or rather, we couldn't contact the third uncle anymore.
In fact, it didn't take long to realize that we couldn't get in touch with the third uncle, and less than two weeks after my father had a falling out with the third uncle, an old grandmother who had been kind to him passed away, and this old woman was also the closest neighbor to us.
This major event naturally made my father let go of the previous estrangement and continued to contact the third uncle to tell him the unfortunate news, but who knows, whether it is a ** or a letter, the third uncle cannot be contacted.
My father once thought that something had happened to the third uncle and wanted to call the police, but other acquaintances of the third uncle said that he was living comfortably in the city and nothing happened, if he didn't want to respond to his father's contact, he probably didn't want to.
This made my father extremely sad and indignant, and even his third uncle, his life-saving benefactor, didn't want to see him for the last time, which was simply an unfilial descendant!
It is not an exaggeration to say that this deceased grandmother is the life-saving benefactor of the third uncle, at that time our village was very poor, and our family was even more surrounded by walls, and food and clothing have always been a problem.
It was the neighbor's grandmother who saw us pitiful and kept giving us food that allowed us to grow up smoothly.
In addition, at that time, we were sick and afraid of spending money and wanted to recuperate, but the third uncle was too sick once, and we happened to go out at that time, or the neighbor's grandmother found out and sent him to the hospital in time, at his own expense, my third uncle was able to survive and not fall into any disease.
Now that the villagers in the street have participated in the neighbors' white affairs, the third uncle, who has been given life, still refuses to come, which is simply against human morality.
But the one that impressed me the most was the death of my grandfather, when my family cried, and I was surprised to find that the third uncle still didn't come.
It wasn't until the time of the grandfather's burial that the third uncle finally dedicated himself, but after watching the grandfather's burial, he left without looking back, as if this matter was very time-consuming.
Others are immersed in the grief of my grandfather's death, but I am only angry with my third uncle, and I don't even participate in the white affairs of my relatives, isn't this a sign of unfilial piety?
However, the more angry I was with the third uncle, the more I could think of his ugly face, especially when it came to the grand scene of my cousin's wedding.
Although my cousin was older than me at that time, after I got married, he still couldn't find the other half of his heart.
I still see that my cousin is not a small man, and he is a little pitiful to be helpless, so I suggest that he develop in other places, maybe he can find his love at work.
My cousin also knew each other, and it didn't take long for him to find a beautiful girlfriend.
The third uncle was very excited, and began to show off again, and he also contacted us for the first time, after all, he wanted to have a grand wedding at that time, so that as many people as possible could see his wealth.
However, what I didn't expect was that he chose to let his cousin's wedding take place in the village.
Maybe in his opinion, this is a mockery of the people in the village who looked down on him before, or he wants his father to see that he is supported because he is rich.
The father was helpless, but after all, it was the happy event of the third uncle, and he still sent sincere blessings and wanted to organize his marriage.
Unexpectedly, the third uncle waved his hand and said that we didn't need to worry about my cousin's marriage, and he spent a lot of money to get a complete set of wedding procedures, which were fully managed by the wedding company.
In order to show his strength, the third uncle also distributed his wedding cards to every household in the village, set up tables in and out of the courtyard, and still fantasized about the crowded scene at the wedding.
With the third uncle's plan, he planned to hold a banquet for two days, one the day before the wedding and the other on the wedding day.
However, when the banquet arrived on the first day, except for our relatives, only those cooks and master of ceremonies came to see the third uncle's wedding banquet, and not a single villager saw it.
The third uncle was a little panicked, and his cousin's girlfriend was also unknown, so in order not to lose face, the third uncle explained that there might be no time to tell the villagers about the invitation.
However, what he actually thought was that the villagers felt that they had to spend money to come to his wedding banquet, and they were selfish "villains", so he found his father and pulled the villagers he knew into a group, claiming:
This banquet will invite the whole village without spending a penny, and the time will be at ten o'clock tomorrow morning. ”
However, when it was four or five o'clock in the afternoon of the next day, there was no one at the banquet, leaving the master of ceremonies embarrassed on the stage, the chef giving priority to the backstage, and the third uncle who had lost face.
Having said that, my cousin's girlfriend's aunt also felt very embarrassed at the time, after all, no one came to bless her daughter's lifelong event, and she felt that she would lose face if she came.
And she felt that it was the bad character of the third uncle or cousin that caused this situation, so she persuaded her daughter to find a new love and not to carry out this marriage with her cousin.
Maybe at this time, the third uncle felt sincerely regretful, he lost face, not to mention, and his son's lifelong events were also ruined because of what he had done.
It was at this time that I realized that if you want to live a happy life, you can't just make your material life rich, handle the world's affairs well, and take care of the relationship between relatives and friends, so that your family can be lively and lively, and you can achieve true happiness.