My husband unfortunately passed away, and my in-laws gave me 400,000 yuan, and I turned around and cut off contact with my parents.
In marriage, a topic that is often discussed is the closeness of the in-laws and the mother's family. In reality, many women may be more inclined to their mother's family in their hearts, because their mother's family is the biological parents who are connected by blood, and this kind of family affection is difficult to part with at any time.
In contrast, in-law is just a title in a social relationship that may disappear after a divorce. However, life is always full of surprises. Some women have not received the warmth of their mother's family since they were young, so they are not nostalgic for their original family.
Someone married a good husband, met a good in-laws, and felt the warmth of home again. Just like 34-year-old Ms. Liu, who lost her husband after 5 years of marriage. I thought that my life would be in a slump and I raised my children alone.
However, Ms. Liu's in-laws did not dislike her, but gave her a subsidy of 400,000 yuan. This unexpected aid brought tears to Ms. Liu's eyes, and she resolutely severed contact with her mother's family, who had been asking her for money.
Ms. Liu's story is a vivid example of the complex and unpredictable relationship between her in-laws and her mother-in-law's family.
When I heard the news of my husband's death, it was as if the whole world was falling apart in an instant, and I was like I was hit by a thunderbolt and lost all consciousness.
I'm Ms. Liu, I'm over 34 years old, and not long ago, I cut off all contact with my mother's family.
It's not that I'm unfilial, but in the face of adversity, I really realized who is the one who really cares about you.
Let me tell you the story.
Ever since I was a child, my parents doted on my younger brother more, but for me, it was like I was being let go. In their eyes, it seems that my daughter is destined to marry and become someone else's family, so it is not worth spending too much thought on me.
My mother never treated me like a precious daughter, and she didn't even bother to make a little appearance in front of outsiders, as if I was just a superfluous existence.
If there was only one time for my mother to admit that I was her daughter and for my parents to truly call me a precious daughter, it was when Ah Feng's family came to propose.
I remember that at that time, Ah Feng's parents came to discuss the bride price, and his mother directly proposed a sky-high price of 250,000 yuan. This bride price surprised Ah Feng's family, and even I felt a little embarrassed.
My face flushed, not only because my mother offered such a high bride price, but also because of what my mother said next.
My mother hugged me in front of outsiders and said, "It's not easy to raise this baby daughter, I really can't bear her." What should I do when she marries into your family in the future? My mother wiped her tears as she spoke, and finally even said that in fact, such a high bride price was not what they wanted, and after they got married, they would return it to us and leave it for us to build a small family.
After his mother's emotional performance and some promises, Ah Feng's family reluctantly agreed to pay a bride price of 250,000 yuan.
However, when I really married Ah Feng, my mother had long since left her original promise behind. Regarding the return of the bride price, my mother always had an attitude: it is absolutely impossible to discuss without discussion, and we have a younger brother in our family.
I often feel ashamed of this, and even in the first few years of my in-laws' house, I often find it difficult to look up.
Fortunately, the in-laws are kind-hearted and say that it doesn't matter, forget it if you don't return it, and it is better for the family to live a good life than anything else.
Frankly speaking, after marrying Ah Feng for many years, I really feel that I have a warm home. Because Ah Feng regards me as a daughter-in-law, my in-laws have long regarded me as a relative, and the family has never disliked, only full of love.
After I got married, every time I went back to my parents' house, my parents always complained, saying that I had suffered a loss by marrying Ah Feng, and thought that I should marry someone better. Some people even offered to pay a bride price of 300,000 yuan, saying that it would be good if they married a better person a few years later.
If I went back to my parents' house without a gift, my mother always expressed her dissatisfaction, thinking that I was married but did not know etiquette.
However, every time I went back to my mother-in-law's house, my mother never gave me anything and always asked me to come back empty-handed. In the past few years of marriage, my mother always hinted that I gave her some money and asked me to give them red envelopes for the New Year.
What's more, my mother always borrowed money from me for various reasons, and each time she borrowed little by little, and never paid it back.
However, after marriage, my mother's family never gave me a trace of warmth. When I gave birth, I was in the hospital, and my parents-in-law were always by my side, while my parents chose to stay at home and never came to visit when they had time.
According to the traditional habits of the hometown, when a woman gives birth, it is best to have someone to take care of her relatives by her side, provide a sense of security, and guard against some risks that may be unfavorable to the woman. However, instead of staying with his parents and younger brother, his mother-in-law and his sister accompanied him throughout the process.
Since then, I have gradually realized that the relationship between my mother's family has faded, and only my in-laws' family remains. Still, I would go back to my parents' house to visit my parents during the holidays, and the connection seemed indissolvable.
However, Ah Feng's unexpected death completely broke my connection with my mother's family.
In March of this year, Ah Feng unfortunately encountered an accident at work, and the news of his death made me feel that the whole world had collapsed. I fell into deep grief, and my in-laws also cried tears, and my mother-in-law even lay on the ground and wept bitterly, as if she couldn't believe that all this was true.
During this half a year, our family has been immersed in grief. I thought about it a lot, but I was most worried about my son's future life.
Ah Feng also has a younger brother, and I am worried that my in-laws will care more about them, and our mother and son's life will become difficult. And my mother hurt me a lot.
I was devastated by Feng's passing, but my mother didn't seem to care about his passing or my future life. What she was most concerned about was Ah Feng's compensation, and first asked Ah Feng how much compensation he had.
Later, my mother repeatedly emphasized that I must personally keep Ah Feng's compensation and never let my in-laws interfere, otherwise I don't want to keep any of it for myself. She suggested that the compensation money should be entrusted to her in order to prevent unnecessary trouble. The mother even proposed that once she received the compensation, she would return to her parents' house immediately, without having to take her son with her, and leave it to her in-laws to take care of, because their family was the leader of the family anyway.
These words made me feel even more painful at the painful moment of Ah Feng's death, and my whole life seemed to become fragmented. However, fortunately, during this darkest time, my in-laws gave me a ray of light. The original beneficiary of Ah Feng's insurance was his in-laws, and he received the compensation half a year later. Due to some negligence on the part of Ah Feng at work, we only got 400,000 in the end.
Compensated King Kong to my father-in-law, and they immediately found me. The mother-in-law said: "Daughter-in-law, Ah Feng's insurance compensation has arrived, a total of 400,000 yuan, our two elders can't use it, give it all to your mother and son, you need this money more." Then, the father-in-law took over:
Daughter-in-law, we were all very sad during this time, and it took me more than half a year to recover. If you are gone, you can't come back, but we still have to continue to live. Don't worry too much about your future life, even if Ah Feng is gone, we still treat you as a daughter-in-law.
If you want to remarry, we don't have a problem, after all, you are still young. The 400,000 should be for you and Xuanxuan. But if you want to live with us, I, my mother-in-law and my brother-in-law's family will take good care of you, especially Xuanxuan will study and go to school in the future, we will fully support you. ”
I was moved to tears by my in-laws' words, and my son seemed to understand a little more, so he hurriedly ran over and hugged his grandfather.
At this moment, I deeply realized the difference between my mother's family and my mother-in-law's family. My mother's mother pressed me to pay the compensation as soon as I received it, and even suggested that I leave my son to them and marry someone who could bring the bride price.
My father-in-law and mother-in-law took the initiative to consider my plight and handed over the compensation to me without hesitation, and always treated me as a family member.
Afterwards, I told my in-laws that I did not plan to remarry, that I was determined to raise my son well, and promised that I would take care of them when they were old in the future. For the ** who frequently asked for money from my mother's family, I decisively cut off contact and no longer be their tool.