Hello everyone, I'm Xiao Yu.
My daughter-in-law and I received our certificates on February 22, 2022, 22:22:22 p.m. on the 22nd day of the first lunar month. I was born in 93 and my daughter-in-law is 95; In the current environment, it is a marriage age that is neither early nor late. However, both parents and elders are traditional-oriented, and she and I happen to be the eldest in the family; As soon as he got married, he began to supervise the birth of a baby openly and secretly.
Throughout 2022, she and I have been very busy at work. I didn't have that idea at all. Besides, I just got married, and the psychological construction of having a baby has not been done yet, so I want to slow it down.
At the beginning of 2023, she and I began to consciously discuss this important matter, but while talking about putting pregnancy preparation on the agenda, we were obsessed with work and couldn't get rid of it. At that time, she and I often stayed up late, and I occasionally had a drinking party, always thinking about taking care of my body and then participating in the grand event. Anyway, throughout the year of 2023, she and I adjusted our state many times, but we didn't stick to it for various reasons, and so on several times, and in the last month of 2023, she and I finally made up our minds to adjust well.
In 2023, throughout December, she and I will consciously adjust our daily routines, and our diet will be light. Because I want to lose some weight first. But to be honest, I really didn't know about getting pregnant, and I didn't think about finding someone to consult. I just feel that if I adjust my physical condition, I will be considered pregnant.
In January 2024, she and I were still holding on, and since about mid-January, she has been retching a little, but the pregnancy test stick did not show pregnancy. I was half-jokingly saying that you wouldn't have it, and she just said no every time. In the next few days, she said that she felt like she was coming to her aunt, and her breasts were a little swollen, which I couldn't feel specifically, anyway, she meant that her aunt was coming. But I haven't waited for a few days, and I've been retching a little.
I listened to her feedback every day, and I didn't know what the problem was, so I thought I would go to the hospital for a check-up, because her aunt was very unpunctual, so I also had a conditioning mentality, just like that, I made an appointment with her for the outpatient clinic on January 23. Because I didn't expect to get pregnant at all, I made an appointment with her for the outpatient clinic of **, not the obstetrics.
We went to the hospital at half past 1 in the afternoon, and after chatting with the doctor carefully, the doctor asked her to take a blood draw (7 hormones, blood HCG, AMH), and then do an intraluminal B ultrasound.
Several items of blood testing are relatively slow, and it takes 10 minutes for the B ultrasound to come out after 4 o'clock. She was sitting there and constantly refreshing the status of the report on her phone.
Is the report out? I said.
It's out. She clicked on the report and looked.
What does the above say? I sat next to me and asked casually.
"Early pregnancy in utero, no germ seen. ”She said confusedly, and zoomed in on the screen to look more closely.
I was really confused, and there we are? Haven't been tested so many times before? I'm going to be a dad? What does it mean that the germ is not seen? How many weeks has this been? When was the last time? Happy, my daughter-in-law is pregnant? That's no problem, right? Now what.
At that time, I was thinking about a lot of things in my head, and she and I sat in the rest area and flipped through a brief report dozens of times. Then they sat there speechless, and their hearts were really mixed.
I took a break with her for a while, on the one hand, for the first time in my life, I had no experience. I really didn't have a clue all of a sudden. Secondly, she and I were worried about whether there was a problem with the baby, and what is the situation now? Of course, she and I are also happy, and we really want to share this news with people we know, but we are worried that it is the first trimester, which is unstable, and there is no need to make a big announcement. Anyway, there was a mix of ideas, and she and I sat there in silence, waiting for the rest of the report to come out.
At around 4 o'clock, she and I finally waited for other reports and found the doctor with them. As a result, the doctor's first sentence confused the two of us.
"You're pregnant, huh? ”
I reacted very synchronously with her, and the city was stunned, thinking to myself, what does this mean? Is there something wrong with this fetus??
My daughter-in-law reacted faster than I did, and she spoke firmlyYes。Subsequently, I discussed with the doctor about these test reports, and in summary, progesterone is OK, and then there is a hormone level that is a little low, let's test it again in a week. The others didn't say anything either. Our minds were still messed up at the time, and we didn't know anything too closely, so we went back.
The above is a brief process of my daughter-in-law and I from preparing for pregnancy to pregnancy, from which we reflect on it, there are a few questions to explain to you here.
Trying to get pregnant. Nowadays, young couples are basically dual-income workers, and the work pressure is also high, and the body will have some sub-health to a greater or lesser extent. It is necessary to take care of the body before pregnancy, diet, life and rest, and exercise are indispensable. There is also folic acid, which both men and women have to eat when they are preparing for pregnancy. And she and I really don't understand and don't do it. It is recommended that young couples who plan to have a baby can go to the hospital for consultation before preparing for pregnancy, which will help you better regulate yourself and welcome a new life.
Pregnancy test. My daughter-in-law has not been able to test the pregnancy test before, so she has been confused for a long time. Later, she and I found out that the pregnancy test she bought was not the kind of pregnancy test in the first trimester, so it was not measured, and the pregnancy test in the first trimester happened to be expired ......So I didn't measure it either. This can be regarded as a wake-up call for newcomers.
Either? To be honest, this doctor's question does feel abrupt to newcomers. But afterwards, I also went to the Internet to read it myself, and most people also encountered the same problem, which was asked by the doctor in a serious and responsible manner, and did not mix other ideas. So when you encounter this problem, don't think about it. Just answer carefully. After my daughter-in-law said yes, the doctor was also very enthusiastic and gave us a lot of advice.
Folic acid. This is actually to be eaten to prepare for pregnancy, but we were stunned at the time, and the doctor didn't take the initiative to say, so this is indeed an oversight. Please take precautions from the couple.
Mentality. To be honest, having and not having this mentality is really different. Before that, even if you do a good job of psychological construction, but after you really have it, your heart will still fluctuate a lot. I'm kind of a stable person. But this trip to the hospital gave me a lot of new feelings. There is the joy of being a father, the longing for a new stage, and the worry and fear. Of course, this is also human nature, and I hope everyone can adjust their mentality.
Well, basically that's all for the first time to share, and I will continue to share the follow-up pregnancy life in the future, and those who are inexperienced can understand and learn, and those who are experienced please don't hesitate to guide. Finally, I wish you all a good pregnancy.