Aging is an inevitable process in human life. As people move into old age, many choose to live with their children to enjoy the love and warmth of family.
Older people are important members of the family and play different roles in the family.
As the saying goes, "three old families will always decline", but the appearance of some old people has made the family constantly worry and sad.
If there is such an old man in the family, the family will not be at peace.
01: Management of the elderly.
Older people are our elders, and we should listen to them. However, some elderly people may be too controlling and have conflicts with their family members.
This kind of old man likes to give advice to the whole family, no matter how big or small, always wants to intervene. They feel that they have experience, that they are the elders of the family, and that they can interfere in the affairs of the family at will.
But this kind of intervention often causes a lot of conflicts and quarrels, which makes the family feel depressed and inconvenient.
We should be filial to the elderly, but we should not obey them. Family members can appropriately express their views and opinions to these older people, letting them know that what they need is support and understanding, not interference and blame.
After all, it's our own life, and we have to make our own decisions.
02: Nagging old man.
Nagging is a kind of love, and the nagging of some elderly people is a manifestation of love for younger generations. But when the nagging gets out of hand, it becomes a problem for the whole family.
The nagging old man is always talking about everything in his house. They endlessly explain and criticize the little things, which can make the family bored and tired.
This kind of nagging often makes the family atmosphere dull and tense. Home is no longer a place of rest for them, but a place of stress.
However, we cannot put all the blame on the elderly. We also need to reflect on ourselves.
Is it because we don't care enough about them, don't communicate with them enough, and make them feel neglected?
They have no one to communicate with, so they just keep nagging to show their existence. A nagging old man is like a child who has lost his temper.
It helps older people understand what we've said they've heard it once, so there's no need to repeat it over and over again.
When you respond to their words, they stop nagging.
03: Over-dependent older people.
There are older people who leave everything to their children and expect the children to do everything for them, no matter how big or small, even though they are obviously able to take care of themselves. Masu.
On the other hand, such elderly people can increase the burden on their children and hinder their investment in work and career. On the other hand, for the elderly, too much dependence can reduce their ability and accelerate aging.
Filial piety to the elderly is not expressed by doing everything for the elderly. In some cases, it may be more advantageous for older adults to take care of themselves.
As the younger generation, we need to learn to let go and leave our daily affairs to the elderly as much as possible.
In this way, the mobility of the elderly is exercised, and we have more energy to cope with life.
The old man has worked hard all his life. The younger generation must be filial to their parents, so that the elderly can enjoy their old age in peace. However, filial piety is not an ignorant filial piety, and not everything can be done according to the old man's ideas.
If the elderly's behavior is causing discord among family members, you can't avoid or ignore the problem, but you can take proactive steps to alleviate it.
Only in this way can the elderly truly enjoy their old age with peace of mind.