Visiting relatives and friends and shopping malls is the most common thing, but for children with autism (autism), being in an unfamiliar environment or coming into contact with unfamiliar people and voices may make them emotionally uncontrollable.
But this is not what they want, they sometimes have a hard time controlling their behavior and emotions, so how to help autistic children, so that they can quickly calm down when they are out of control, it is particularly important!
First of all, let's first understand why autistic children have emotional problems?
Unlike their peers, children with autism rarely lose their temper in order to get more attention or get the desired effect, such as wanting a new toy or eating a lollipop. Many times, children with autism seem to turn their faces when they say they turn their faces, and they start crying for no reason. But the reality is that children with autism do not control their emotions as well as their peers, so many times their emotions will explode.
1.Arouse concern (simple or purposeful).
This is a problem that many children will have, they attract the attention of others by crying and laughing or destroying, many parents can not accept such behavior, because under normal circumstances, children may not be able to get praise and attention if they do well, but once the child does something wrong, they will immediately get criticism and education, so when the child can not get praise or attention, it will be attracted by crying and laughing loudly. Therefore, parents should teach their children the correct way to seek the attention of others in this situation, and at the same time give their children positive intervention support. When the autistic child's mood is better or normal, he should be fully praised and encouraged to enhance his good behavior and normal emotion, form positive feedback, and make the child fully realize that only when the behavior is correct and the mood is normal, can he be praised and encouraged.
2.Sensory expression
Pain, hunger, thirst, exhaustion, and other physiological factors that we cannot see with the naked eye. At this time, what parents need to do is prevention. Parents and children should observe carefully when doing various activities at home, divert their children's attention before they break out, or find solutions to prevent emotional outbursts. When an autistic child cries because of physical discomfort, fear, etc., it is necessary to comfort the child by hugging and touching in time, and teach the child to express it in a more appropriate way after the emotion calms down.
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3.Expression of emotion
Just like ordinary people, every child has some emotional problems to a greater or lesser extent, because of sadness, anger, anxiety, nervousness, etc. Autistic children do not know much about emotions, so they can provide some vocabulary to describe emotions to help children transform intangible negative feelings into emotional categories that can be defined and bounded, so that children can describe their inner feelings. For example, "You feel sad, don't you?" ”。When the child can fully express it, his negative emotions will be alleviated to a certain extentThen guide him to the specific details of the matter, and at the same time can set up norms to set up a range of emotional venting for autistic children, which are acceptable and which are unacceptable.
4 Evading missions
When autistic children don't want to complete a certain task, they will also choose to cry and play tricks to escape the goal. Some parents will give up on letting their children complete their children's crying behavior because they can't stand it, thus reinforcing their child's behavior of crying to avoid tasks. At this time, parents come firstTo reassess the difficulty of the taskIf the task is too difficult, we need to reset it and guide the child to express the requirements in the right way.
5.The need is not being met
When the child has a certain need, such as wanting to eat snacks, if he does not know the correct way to make the request, he will use the way of crying and laughing instead, usually crying, such a situationWe must first teach autistic children to put forward their needs in the right way and meet them. However, if the child expresses his needs in the right way and we reject the child according to the actual situation, we cannot satisfy the child because he is crying and cheating at this time, and satisfying the child at this time will reinforce the child's cheating behavior.
6.Self-stimulation
If there are parents who still can't find the meaning behind certain behaviors of their children, then we will classify them as self-stimulation. For example, like our habits of shaking our legs, children may be engaged in some behaviors of crying and laughing. When we are faced with these self-stimuli of our children,First of all, we must distinguish whether the behavior of autistic children has an impact on their lives and whether they can be controlled by usIf you can stop shouting at any time and have no impact on your daily life, it does not necessarily have to be improved. But if it can't be stopped, more appropriate alternative behaviors need to be found to meet the child's needs.
1. Help your child make arrangements
Many times, children are at a loss because there are too many stimuli and they don't know how to choose.
For example, in an amusement park, when you see colorful items, the child doesn't know which one to play first, so he starts to circle in place. At this time, parents need to lead the child and tell the child: let's play the merry-go-round first.
Bring stress-relieving toys
Giving your child sensory toys can help reduce anxiety. Such as squeeze balls, buzzers, pacifiers, small dolls, etc. Familiar toys can help relieve stress by helping children divert their attention during times of tension and anxiety.
3. Wear a weighted vest
Weighted vests (slightly heavier clothing) can give some children a sense of squeezing and making them feel more secure, thus keeping them emotionally stable.
However, it should be noted that the weight of the weighted vest and the time of wearing it should be guided by a doctor or professional. Failure to do so may affect your child's growth and development.
4. Maintain physical exercise
Many children with autism will spend a lot of time on ** and intervention after school, thus ignoring normal "crazy play" and other exercises. Physical activity can help children release energy and relieve negative emotions. Therefore, in daily life, parents should also pay attention to ensuring the amount of exercise for their children.
5. Count
Counting can also help your child calm down. When the child is emotionally out of control, parents can take a deep breath with her and slowly count from 1 to wait. According to the child's abilities and conditions.
6. Raise animals and plants
In life, having a pet or a plant with your child can also nurture your child's body and mind. Perseverance day after day is more conducive to cultivating children's self-control.
7. Control training
It's important to develop control in your child's daily life, but you can't be 100% sure that your child won't show up. Parents can do this when a child has an emotional breakdown: many times, autistic children show signs of distress before they "break down" or become very depressed. If parents can recognize it, they can guide them to deal with their emotions correctly.
Finally, parents should pay attention to never humiliate and scold their children when they break downThis may bring them psychological shadows, soothe their emotions, choose the right time, and slowly guide them.