Middle school students are a transitional stage that is gradually completing the transition from children to teenagers. At this stage, students not only have to face academic pressure, but also have to deal with interpersonal relationships and shape their character. Parents' expectations for junior high school students are twofold, on the one hand, they are concerned about academic performance, and on the other hand, they are concerned about the behavior habits and outlook on life values of teenagers. However, in addition to problems such as puppy love, the "toxic friendship" formed between junior high school students is also a challenge that cannot be ignored. This article will discuss the impact of "toxic friendship" on students' growth in junior high school students, and how parents should guide students correctly. Let's take a look.
When I was a student, I was surrounded by classmates the most, and a good friend was very important for the growth of students. However, if you become friends with a classmate who misbehaves, it may affect the student's learning attitude and behavioural habits. If you don't put your mind on studying, your classmates who play crazy all day long will lead students down the wrong path and form bad habits.
Expansion: These students often do not pay attention in class and do not do homework after class, instead choosing to indulge in games, social**, or other negative activities. Their negative attitude can affect the classmates around them and confuse the learning atmosphere of the entire class. If there are such classmates around students, parents should intervene in time to help students recognize the harm of such bad behavior and guide them away from this bad influence.
Some students seem to be amiable on the surface, but behind the scenes, they often speak ill of others, and this behavior is called "ghost friends" by the Internet. This betrayal of friendship can cause harm to students' mental health and relationships, affecting the formation and development of their personality.
Expanding: This kind of student often shows an insincere attitude, they are amiable in school, but behind the back they talk about the rights and wrongs of others, creating tension and distress in interpersonal relationships. The hurt behind this hypocrisy can leave students feeling confused and disappointed, or even losing confidence in their peers' trust and friendships. Parents should teach students how to distinguish between true and false friendships, adhere to the principles of sincerity and integrity, stay away from false interpersonal relationships, and maintain inner purity and clarity.
Another type of "toxic friendship" manifests itself as "scholarly" friends, who always try to imitate others, seeking comparison and showing off. This kind of relationship can easily make students fall into a comparison mentality, lose themselves, and affect the cultivation of personality and independent thinking ability.
Expansion: This kind of friend always tries to imitate everything about others, including dressing, consumption of supplies, etc., so that students fall into the whirlpool of comparison invisibly. The comparison mentality will make students become impetuous, lose the opportunity to establish independent personality and values, be easily influenced by external pop culture, and it is difficult to stick to their inner independence and self-confidence. Parents should guide students to distinguish between right and wrong, establish a correct outlook on consumption and life, stay away from the "toxic friendship" of comparison mentality, and shape healthy personality quality and self-esteem.
When parents find that there is a "toxic friendship" around their children, they should first guide their children in time, tell them the harm of wrong behavior, and insist on protecting their children from this negative influence. Parents should always pay attention to their children's circle of friends, and establish an open and trusting communication channel with their children, so that children can confide in their parents in a timely manner and ask for help when they encounter problems.
In the process of guiding and educating students, parents should respect their children's inner world, affirm their children first, and then discuss issues with their children on an equal footing. Excessive authority and accusations can make children rebellious and difficult to accept the education of their parents. Therefore, parents should pay attention to the scale, communicate with their children with an equal attitude, guide them to think independently, and cultivate their correct outlook on life and code of conduct.
In middle school, children face academic pressure, physical and mental changes, and interpersonal challenges. During this critical period, the guidance and companionship of parents is crucial. In the face of the problem of "toxic friendship", parents should guide their children to correctly distinguish the difference between friendship and passers-by, educate them to stay away from negative influences, and establish a correct outlook on life and code of conduct. Parents should pay attention to communication methods, treat children equally, and cultivate their ability to think independently and make independent choices. Only through the intimate care and patient guidance of parents can junior high school students grow up healthily and meet the challenges of life.