What is happiness? Everyone has their own answer to this question.
Some people will say that happiness is to have a warm home, some people will say that happiness is to have a successful career, and some people will say that happiness is to find true love. But happiness is much more than that.
Happiness is a person's attitude towards life. It requires us to take the initiative to learn, to experience, and to apply.
In fact, happiness is not only luck, but also an ability. What kind of love you want to get, you must first love yourself with the same standards. You have to be centered on your own life and revolve around yourself rather than around men.
It sounds simple, but to do it, we need to constantly improve ourselves. Here I would like to make three points with you:
First, develop a positive mindset.
Second, meet your own needs.
Third, establish boundaries for health.
I hope these suggestions can give you some inspiration on the road to happiness.
First, develop a positive mindset.
There is no absolute good or bad in this world, only how we look at it. Habitual pessimism or complaining will only make us more miserable. And being positive and optimistic can sometimes work miracles.
I have a friend Xiaofang, she and her boyfriend have been together for seven years, but the other party has never been willing to get married and have children. Xiaofang was very pessimistic and sad for a while. Later, she chose not to push her boyfriend and instead focused on building her own career.
Unexpectedly, when her career has made great progress, her boyfriend sees her changes and begins to face up to the relationship between the two. Just last year, Xiaofang successfully entered into marriage with her boyfriend.
She smiled and said to me, "I'm just now discovering that it's important to love someone, but it's even more important to love yourself." When you actively pursue your life, the people around you will change with you. ”
Everyone will encounter unsatisfactory things, but we can choose our own attitude. Staying optimistic and positive often leads to unexpected good luck.
Second, meet your own needs.
To be happy, we must first learn to value ourselves and meet our own needs. The love and care you want starts with giving to yourself.
I know a girl, Xiaohong, who has been longing for a boyfriend who cares about her. But she doesn't care about herself very much, often stays up late to work, has irregular meals, and doesn't like to dress up.
One day, I talked to her about it. I said, "Actually, if you want others to care about you, you must first learn to care for yourself and love yourself." ”
These words touched Xiaohong. Since then, she has begun to adjust her routine and get enough sleep; She also began to learn to cook nutritious and delicious food; She also goes for hair and beauty on a regular basis.
It didn't take long for her to meet a boyfriend who was a perfect fit for her. I believe this is not only a coincidence, but also because she began to learn to love herself, she became more capable of loving and receiving love from others.
Finally, establish healthy boundaries.
Loving someone is not the same as giving everything for them. It's just as important to establish healthy boundaries and keep to yourself.
My friend Xiaogang once gave up his favorite job and moved to another city in order to pursue a relationship. As a result, the relationship ended in a breakup.
I'm too blind to change my life for the sake of one person. Xiao Gang told me. This lesson taught her that in any relationship, it is important to keep yourself and draw clear boundaries.
Later, Xiaogang returned to his original city and found a job he liked. I saw her regain her spirit and vitality and was hopeful for the future.
"I've now learned to balance relationships and ego," she says. Won't lose yourself for anyone again. ”
Happiness requires us to grow ourselves. To learn, to reflect, to practice. Develop a positive mindset, meet your own needs, and establish healthy boundaries. It takes time and effort.
But it is only when we become positive, confident, self-contained that we can build true and lasting happiness.
This may be the true meaning of happiness. It requires not only luck, but also the ability to be strong enough to be happy.
There are no perfect people and things in this world. But as long as we know how to be tolerant and appreciate the little things in life, we can live a richer and more fulfilling life.
Cherish the moment, love yourself, and love the people around you. Be grateful for what we have. Treat the world with a positive heart, and the world will give back to you in a positive way.
Happiness has always been in our own hearts.