I saw a problem, and I would encounter it from time to time, and it seemed that many boys were quite confused.
Boys and girls chat, how do you find a topic?
The chatting thing seems ordinary, but it does stump a lot of people.
Sometimes, being able to talk is not the same as being able to chat, especially when chatting with the opposite sex, and the situation is more complicated.
Some boys may be head-to-head when dealing with others, but they will become speechless in front of the girl they like.
Sometimes, in a hurry, you may say the wrong thing.
Therefore, when getting along with the opposite sex, when boys and girls chat, the most important thing is to have a good mentality, you know, it is better not to say the wrong thing.
In addition, the topic of the chat should also be chosen, boys and girls chat, three stages correspond to three topics, don't understand, don't get confused!
1.Initial acquaintance stage.
At this stage, the two have only known each other for a long time, so the choice of topic is particularly important.
When looking for topics, try to be as precise as possible.
For example, if two people are classmates, then they can talk about something professional.
If two people are colleagues, then you can start from work, including some business content, industry information, etc.
If two people have mutual friends, then it can also be used as an entry point.
In addition, before chatting with a girl, you can learn about her interests and hobbies in advance, and take interests as the topic, girls usually have more words, and the communication between the two will be much smoother.
Of course, around this point of interest, boys have to do their homework beforehand, so that the conversation will be more natural.
2.Familiarization phase.
At this stage, two people have a certain understanding of each other, and the topic of chat can gradually expand to the field of life, such as eating, drinking, and having fun, clothing, food, housing and transportation.
There are many such topics, which can be selected according to the actual situation.
The point is, while talking about these topics, you can start looking for opportunities to date her.
For example, if you talk about food, you can talk about each other's tastes and ask her to visit the store by the way.
If you are talking about movies, you can also see if there are any new films that interest each other, and then make an appointment to watch them together.
In addition, things like running, hiking, and even fishing are actually possibleTalking about all aspects of life can not only get to know each other better, but also create more opportunities for solitude.
3.In-depth stages.
In the third stage, the two people already have a certain emotional foundation, and at this time they can talk about some more in-depth topics, such as life trivialities and emotional experiences.
The trivial things of life seem ordinary, but they actually contain deep meanings.
You must know that the communication between ordinary friends will not involve too much detail.
On the contrary, only when you care about the other person will you want to share the bits and pieces of your life with her.
Sometimes, even if you just look up at the sky, you will want to take a picture to share with each other, and take the initiative to talk to girls about trivial things in life, so the connection between the two people will be closer.
As for emotional experiences, they are the most intimate things for most people, and if a girl is willing to talk to a guy about this, it means that she also has a good impression of him.
The conversation topic at this stage focuses on exploring each other's inner worlds.
Actually,Chatting with the opposite sex may seem complicated, but it's not that difficult.
There are some pits not to step on, then it is half the battle.
Choose a good topic, express it well, and be good at listening, then the other half of success will be there.
Finally, I want to say that,Boys can be nervous but don't be timid when talking to girls
If you are afraid of saying the wrong thing, you will definitely say the wrong thing......