I have written a lot of emotional articles, and I have also talked about "blind dates".
Among them, there is a problem that is often encountered.
There are quite a few men who are confusedIt's already a blind date, why do some women still look high?
I took the initiative to talk to her, but her response was all kinds of cold.
It's not that I don't reply at all, or it takes a long time to reply, and some of the replies are very short, and I feel like it's hard to type a few more words.
Similar situation, I think there should be many men who have encountered it on a blind date, so, what is going on?
Actually, this matter is not complicated, generally speaking, girls respond coldly on blind dates, and most of them hide 4 very realistic reasons.
1.Get used to being reserved.
Although the times are different, when girls meet someone they like, they can also take the initiative to pursue it.
However, in real life, most girls are still relatively shy.
Sometimes, even if they particularly like a boy, they won't take the initiative to show affection.
Moreover, when such a girl is faced with the pursuit of the opposite sex, even if she has a good feeling in her heart, she will behave relatively coldly.
This kind of coldness is not that they deliberately embarrass each other, but their subconscious self-protection.
For this situation, the boy needs to be patient and careful enough to feel what the other person really thinks, rather than rushing.
2.Didn't take a fancy to you.
Generally speaking, blind date girls respond coldly because they don't like you.
Although it is a bit cruel to say this, blind dates are so realistic.
It may be that the girl has no desire to fall in love at all, or it may be that she doesn't have a crush on youIn either case, if she responds coldly, it means that she has no feelings for you.
In the face of this situation, boys should know how to advance and retreat.
If you really like it, then you can try to pursue it and see if you can impress her.
If you don't like it too much, you can choose to just give up and not waste each other's time.
3.Sociable.
It is undeniable that some girls are particularly introverted, and they will feel at a loss when facing strangers.
Especially when this stranger is still a man, they don't know how to speak.
In this case, even if the man takes the initiative to chat with them, their reply will be relatively lackluster.
It's not that they don't want to talk well, it's not that they want to talk to death, it's that they don't know how to talk.
Unless it's a topic they're good at, they won't talk too much.
In this case, the boy should learn more about the girl's interests and hobbies and try to guide her as much as possible.
At the same time, be patient and don't give up just because it's cold.
4.It's really busy.
Times are different, and many girls also have their own careers and will be busy.
Therefore, if the blind date girl does not reply in time, or the reply is relatively brief, it is not necessarily that they are cold, but that they are too busy.
In this case, their "coldness" is not aimed at the boys alone, but because they are short of time, so they can't take care of more.
If the girl is really busy, the boy should be more understanding.
If conditions permit, take the initiative to help her share some pressure, and the relationship may be better.
Actually,Although the purpose of the blind date is relatively strong, it also needs to be discussed.
You must know that when two people get married, love is the foundation, and other conditions are just auxiliaries.
Therefore, a blind date is not an interview, but a relationship.
Regardless of men and women, if you understand this, you can avoid many detours when you go on a blind date.
Finally, I want to say that,Whether it's a blind date or a relationship, there is always one party who has to take the initiative.
But remember, this initiative cannot be overdone ......