Nobel laureate Mo Yan once said:"What group? Whose group is it for? Who do you fit in with? Swans are also guilty in the world of crows? ”These words are really thought-provoking.
People are always anxious and expecting the approval of others, but they neglect their own independence. But the truth is, a wolf would never ignore a sheep's point of view, so why give up on yourself in order to cater to others?
The reason why people feel tired is often because they crave the approval of others and live in the expectations of others. However, the source of trouble is the obsession with the outside world's gaze, and too much concern for other people's opinions.
What is true freedom? That is, not caring about the preferences of others, not seeking the approval of others, not being entangled in external judgments, and not losing oneself in order to adapt to others.
There is a cloud in "One Hundred Years of Solitude": "Where the crowd gathers, the discussion is nothing more than three topics: showing off oneself in a roundabout way, belittling others with salt and vinegar, and snooping on each other to tell right and wrong." Once people are aware of this phenomenon, they choose to remain silent, not because of their inability to get along with others, but because they are no longer interested in hypocritical communication.
If you are strong, silence is profound, and temper is also personality; On the other hand, if you appear weak and do not like to talk, you are seen as dull, and your bad temper is labeled as having low emotional intelligence. Human nature is such that the strong will always have someone to understand their weaknesses, and the weak will always be magnified for their flaws.
Ordinary people fill the emptiness in their hearts with hustle and bustle, while excellent people can stand alone. A true wise man spends time with himself, lives his true self, and achieves his inner pursuit. Like a flower blooming, butterflies fly naturally; If people are wonderful, destiny will come naturally. Try hard, and time will give you the best answer.
It is recommended to read Master Hongyi's book "There is nothing in life that you can't let go of", which teaches you how to put aside distractions and strive to live your true self.