The topic of teacher-student love has been on the hot search many times recently.
Last year, a female student and a male teacher in Chongqing opened a room for the night, and as a result, committed suicide, causing widespread discussion in society.
Not long after the New Year, a female teacher in Shanghai High School and her 16-year-old male student were confused, causing a stir and controversy.
As the situation unfolded, the teacher was not surprisingly suspended, and the students were ready to transfer to avoid the limelight, after all, if this happened, the original school would inevitably not be able to stay.
When I saw this news, although I felt a wave in my heart, I also felt that history is always strikingly similar.
Because on the other side of the ocean, the United States also had the same magical event.
34-year-old female teacher pregnant,
His father was a 13-year-old male student
The story begins in Seattle, USA, in 1996.
That summer, police patrolling the streets noticed strange movements in a pickup van.
As soon as I walked up, the two people in the car immediately separated. The police ordered them to roll down the windows of the car, and when they looked at it, they saw the shocking news.
That's right, the two people in the car are the heroes and heroines of the story, the female teacher Mary and her male student Verry.
Despite Viri's insistence that he was an adult, he did not escape the officer's keen eyes, and the two were taken back to the police station for questioning and called for Verry's mother.
When Verry's mother came to the police station and saw her son with the teacher, she didn't think much about it, explaining to the police that it should be a misunderstanding.
Mary, who narrowly escaped interrogation, found out she was pregnant in September.
At that time, Mary was 34 years old, and Verry was 13 years old, a stinking boy.
Even more absurd, Mary is married and has four children.
It would be unreasonable to say that Mary's husband did not notice anything unusual about his wife. As a man, he can still feel that his wife is always too close to a male student in her class, and it is not like an ordinary teacher-student friendship.
But he still didn't think it was a big possibility, until 1997, when he found out about his wife's love letters to Verry, and he realized that his head was green.
In a fit of rage, the husband found him"Third Parties"Verry, asking him to break off this ridiculous relationship with Mary.
Viri, though afraid, did not budge. Annoyed, the husband chooses to report the crime to the police station and accuse Mary of her crimes. In the United States, the penalties for juvenile offenses are very severe, with up to 20 years in prison.
Soon, the headlines in the American newspapers were full of scandals about Mary and Verry, setting off a huge ** storm.
And Mary, in the midst of the public's abuse and accusations, gave birth to Viri's child.
For the sake of the child, Mary frankly confessed her crime, expressed remorse, and promised not to do it again, and Verry's mother also testified on Mary's behalf. Eventually, she was treated leniently, and after half a year, she was released from prison.
If the story ends here, this case will not be enough to overturn the three views.
After the filter is broken,
Life is a chicken feather
After being released from prison, Mary suffered from bipolar disorder, and a month after her release, she reneged on her promise and was caught again with Verry: this time, there were more than $6,000 in the car, a passport and baby products.
It could be seen that they wanted to elope.
Enraged, the judge takes Mary back to prison again, but this time, Mary is pregnant again. And in prison, he wrote his love story with Verry "The Only Sin, Love", which was a bestseller in France.
This time, Mary honestly served 7 years in prison before she was released from prison, and Verry was still infatuated with Mary after growing up, and the next year, the two entered the palace of marriage. At that time, Mary was 43 years old and Viri was 22 years old.
But the days after marriage are not as sweet as **. Mary later got a job at a law firm, while Verry worked in a renovation shop, incidentally as a DJ. Mary was in charge of the main finances of her life and the heavy responsibility of taking care of her children, which made her very tired.
And Verry is still very naïve in his mind, without the appearance of a father, and after a period of passionate love, the two began to quarrel, resulting in more and more disagreements.
In 2017, Verry and Mary separated, this year Verry was 35 years old, but Mary was 56 years old.
In the end, this deformed teacher-student love that should not have happened came to an end in 2019, and the two officially divorced.
A year later, Mary died of rectal cancer, leaving the estate to Verry and her two daughters. Loved ones discover in her letters that her love for Verri has never changed.
The United States has also continued to improve juvenile bail for this case, and the crackdown on ** offenders has been taken to a higher level, starting with 25 years in prison, with a maximum sentence of death and no parole.
In a way, Mary and Verry have some positive contributions, although the way is not worth emulating.
Why does the teacher-student love continue to be banned?
Why is teacher-student love so unpopular?
Because this involves a lot of moral issues, taking a step back, most teacher-student relationships are a deformed relationship between adults and minors.
The reason why some children like teachers is actually just a misunderstanding of the maturity of the elderly, thinking that care and greetings are a preference for themselves.
And when the teacher has feelings for the student, the factors are even more complicated, and the person with a real conscience will never have thoughts about the adolescent child.
At present, our country is also right"Teacher-student love"A clear prohibition requirement was made, and if there was a romance, the teacher would take full responsibility, be suspended and expelled, or even banned for life.
Some netizens who have been teaching half-jokingly stated:
If my students say they like me, I'll be dressed up unkempt the next day. "
The student likes it, I can't protect my job, don't gamble on my future. "
It sounds funny, but it's also a responsible attitude, and prevention is better than prevention.
The same is true in foreign countries where the atmosphere is relatively open.
The University of Oxford in the United Kingdom has issued new rules prohibiting intimate relationships between faculty and students. Prior to this, there were also well-known institutions of higher learning such as Princeton and Nottingham that issued the same ban.
Banning teacher-student love is not a deterrent"Lovers eventually become married"Rather, it is to guard against abuse of rights and protect vulnerable groups.
Write at the end
In the field of artistic creation, teacher-student love is indeed an eye-catching subject, and it is not denied that there are many classic works quoted. But reality isn't a two-hour movie, and it's not a retractable option.
If you are a student, please remind yourself before you have budding feelings, don't trade your future for a fruitless relationship.
If you are a teacher, please always remember"Learn from high school as a teacher, and be a model"Don't miss a good life.
I hope that the relationship between teachers and students on campus will always be innocent.
Author Caviar Bai Zhou.