Emotional value is often associated with an individual's behavior, language, and attitudes, and is reflected in the emotional impact of interpersonal interactions, including giving others an emotional experience of pleasure, comfort, and stability, or causing others to feel unpleasant, angry, and embarrassed.
1. Emotional stability.
I used to believe that emotional stability was something everyone should strive for, and I've always prided myself on that. However, as the years went by, I came to realize that emotional stability is not an easy task. Especially in the world of women, it seems that mood swings are more normal. Of course, I don't have exhaustive data to support this idea, just a gut feeling. But if you really want to analyze it carefully, I am afraid that in most cases of breakups due to quarrels, the proportion of women who are broken up due to emotional instability is not small. Every time a girl complains: "It's all because he makes me angry!" I couldn't help but think, if you can get angry easily without a cause, isn't that no different from "neurosis"? There seems to be a world of difference in the definition of emotional stability between men and women. In the exchange of emotions, the real masters often know how to control their emotions. It's not that they're emotionless, but they know how to control it and don't let it out. It's not easy, but it's the key to delivering emotional value. You might say that such a view is bound to cause displeasure among many girls. Indeed, such statements may be hindered in their dissemination. But what I would say is that true emotional stability is not about suppressing yourself, but about learning to live in harmony with your emotions. Those who always make excuses for their emotional out-of-control may still have a child living in their hearts who does not want to grow up. Emotional stability is actually the greatest kindness to oneself. When you are truly emotionally stable, you already have the most valuable emotional value. And this is not achieved overnight. You can try to record your emotions, daily, weekly, monthly, up to three months. When you look back at these records, you may have a deeper understanding of your emotions. That's when you can really tell if you're really emotionally stable. And this is the first step on your way to becoming an emotional master.
2. Be obedient. This advice does not imply blind obedience, nor does it require obedience. Rather, it encourages us to listen to others and consider what makes sense, what is beneficial, and whether it is worth adopting. If you can humbly accept the views of others on the premise of maintaining your sanity and emotional stability, this is in itself a manifestation of emotional value. Emotional value is not out of reach, it's all about whether we're aware of it, but unfortunately, most women are in their infancy, convinced that their mood swings have a legitimate reason. Once this perception is formed, it is often difficult for other people's opinions to touch them. Most people only see the superficial results and ignore the reasons behind them. The reason why "Dream of Red Mansions" is praised as a great work is that it depicts the character traits of each character in detail, and these character details have already predestined their future fate. The same is true for us, but we often ignore the impact of our past actions on today's outcomes, and only complain about the predicament in front of us.