You know, the most popular "exchange rule" in interpersonal communication is like buying and selling at a fruit stand: I'll give you an apple, you give you a peach in return, and if you meet a bold person, maybe someone will give you a big watermelon! This is definitely atmospheric and bright enough! However, we can't just open a warehouse and release grain, otherwise your backyard may be full of "emotional debts". Someone said: "The more generous the person, the less connected", is this reliable?
Let's listen to the wisdom of the ancients: "The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water". Thinking back to the early years of the Tang Dynasty, before the heroic and warlike Xue Rengui made his career, he was poor and lived in a broken cave. Later, Xue Rengui rose to prominence and became an important minister of the imperial court, and all kinds of flattery came one after another, but he left only the two jars of "fine wine" sent by Wang Maosheng. As everyone knows, when they are opened, they are actually two jars of clear springs! Xue Rengui was not only not annoyed, but was full of emotion, praising Wang Maosheng's sincere assistance in difficult times. This is the good story that has been passed down through the ages, "the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water".
But in real life, it is rare for Xue Rengui and Wang Maosheng to understand each other and repay each other. Some people, although generous, do not get the corresponding feedback, and are even pinched as "soft persimmons". For example, in the fable of "Shengmi En Fighting Rice Hatred", the rich merchants continue to give alms, but the poor complain that there is not enough rice. This shows that generosity is sometimes seen as a weakness by some people, taking advantage of your kindness rather than genuinely making friends.
When it comes to the "atmosphere group" at the dinner, many people are keen to eat and drink, even if they don't receive an invitation, they can take the initiative to be there, but when you need help or borrow, these people often run faster than rabbits. The money lent out has become a "uncle's debt" that can never be repaid, and it is easy to be labeled as a "stingy ghost".
Therefore, generosity must be moderate, and it is also necessary to know people and choose friends. Otherwise, your sincerity may nourish all some snobbish friends, and such connections may not come in handy at critical moments. A friend who is truly worthy of your full devotion has to go through a process of "treasure appreciation". Before being generous, please think about whether the person in front of you deserves to be so generous?
Dear friends, in the great drama of life, we must not only be generous heroes, but also be wise men with discerning eyes. Grasp the social distance, make every effort worthwhile, and at the next party, let's take a look at some wonderful interpersonal communication cases. Remember to pay attention to this account, continue to be wonderful, collect this article, ** to partners who are also interested in this, and learn the wisdom of being a man together in laughter! See you next time!