Li Yijin is crazy.
In the face of thoughtful grandparents' second abuse and humiliation, she actually put on a look:The little daughter-in-law is in a flattering state of beating and scolding.
Really, Li Yijin, who was beaten by Meng Mingwei since he was a child, was completely broken from his pride and self-esteem. In the face of hurt, bullying, and disgust, she was so accustomed to it that she would only endure it.
Li Yijin and Zhou Zhi hugged each other in front of the grandparents of the Zhou family, I didn't feel moved at all, I only felt that Li Yijin was crazy.
The TV series erased the most real and realistic passage in the original book:
Thoughtfully returned to his hometown on a blind date, was blacked out by the blind date, scolded and shameless, it was terrible.
In the original book, Zhou Yu returned to his hometown, found a good job, and rented a good house. In the original book, it is written:
Relatives introduced him to a new job in his hometown, and although his salary was downgraded, his working hours and intensity were much less synchronized, and he could even leave work on time for a week. He rented a house near the company, which was cheap and bright, and he could walk ten minutes to work and stop by to see his grandmother after work.Thoughtful is not exclusive to returning to his hometown, and even in many ways, he enjoys it very much.
For his blind date, he feels that he has a good personality.
But why did he run back to Li Yijin again?
Because his blind date knew about Zhou's family and knew that he was the son of a murderer. Then he directly blocked him and said:He has such a family background, and he still hides from others to go on a blind date, which is simply terrifying.
I don't understand Li Yijin's thoughtful "all-encompassing" love, but I understand the choice of this blind date girl, because she opened the mechanism of "self-protection".
Thoughtful is not because he misses Li Yijin, not because he loves Li Yijin that he ran back to find her, the reason why he ran back to find Li Yijin is simply because this blind date made him completely understand one thing:
Only by staying away from his hometown can he escape the influence of his terrible family of origin. And only a cowardly woman like Li Yijin and a woman with a terrible original family can choose to be with someone like him.
Take a closer look at this drama and you will find:Li Yijin is almost blind to hurt, deception, hidden dangers and realities in marriage, and she is completely immersed in those small and slight kindnesses.
The TV series arranges the break between thoughtful and the Zhou family's grandparents, but in reality:
Zhou Dao was brought up by his grandparents since he was a child, and he will never be completely separated from his original family. His grandparents could find him at any time.
And he can't actually do it without recognizing his six relatives. The two realities you can foresee are:
As long as the grandparents of the Zhou family come to the door and face Li Yijin, they will be disgusted and abused, and even Li Yijin's children will be connected in the future.
And once Zhou's mother is released from prison and lives with Zhou, then the Zhou family, who regards Zhou's mother as an enemy, will come to the door, after all, they have instilled in Zhouzhi since childhood that Zhou's mother is his enemy and not his mother.
And the scariest thing is:Zhou Zhi was raised by the Zhou family, he was kind in front, and he was submissive, he had no momentum and ability to confront the Zhou family at all, he had no choice but to kneel and beg to escape.
Be sure to take a closer look at the two abuses of Li Yijin by the Zhou family:
The first time, Li Yijin went to Zhou's house, but she went in a hurry, not only brought gifts to everyone, but also tried her best to be humble, let cross the brazier and cross the brazier, let drink chicken blood and drink chicken blood, and finally was scolded and trembled all over and drove out of Zhou's house.
It can be seen that the Zhou family ignores the foreign daughter-in-law, whether it is for Zhou's mother or Li Yijin, what they hold is not an attitude of acceptance and joy, but pickiness and harshness.
This kind of original family, thinking about it, only has the word "horror".
The second time, the grandparents of the Zhou family directly found Li Yijin's unit. They are still disgusted and harsh on Li Yijin, and they don't even have the slightest respect for Li Yijin's mother and grandmother.
Unreasonable, no bottom line.
For such a family, why is Li Yijin not afraid at all?
Meng Mingwei is wrong in a thousand ways, but in the matter of Li Yijin and Zhoudao, she is normal:No mother wants her daughter to marry into such a family. The father abused his wife and children, the mother killed the father, and the grandparents are still like this.
However, Li Yijin has to be thoughtful, is she really crazy?
She's really crazy. When I read the original book, I studied it repeatedly, trying to find out the so-called fiery love for Li Yijin.
But it didn't. Even in the TV series, a lot of thoughtful and warm moments of Li Yijin have been addedI still feel that Zhou Dao's love for Li Yijin is too thin: so thin that it is not enough to fight against Zhou Zhi's terrible original family.
Zhou Zhi has lived with Li Yijin for 8 years, and never thought of marrying Li Yijin. Regarding his original family, he even hid Li Yijin for 8 years.
For 8 years, he shared the same bed with Li Yijin, but he never thought about the future.
I've always felt that this alone, thoughtful, is extremely selfish and irresponsible:Between men and women, the so-called sincerity of feelings, the most basic thing is to be honest with each other, they have been living together for 8 years, at least they should think of being responsible for the other party. But thoughtfulness didn't.
I don't want to be responsible, I don't want to keep after breaking up, after returning to my hometown, after facing the reality, I ran back to find Li Yijin.
And Li Yijin actually accepted all the orders.
One of the most touching moments for Li Yijin was: when eating, don't quarrel.
How humble is Li Yijin?
is so humble that as long as the man doesn't dislike her, gives her a little good face, and gives her a soda bottle, she can completely ignore all the deception and hurt she has suffered.
One point I must say here is:When a person ignores the harm she has suffered, it is a tear for herself. Only those who lack love to the extreme will ignore the damage they have suffered, desperately trying to grasp the glimmer of light that is not practical at all.
Li Yijin's attitude towards love and marriage is like this:
She hardly thinks about the other party's family, and doesn't even test the other party's character and ability, as long as the man doesn't dislike her and gives her a little warmth, she will sink to a state where she doesn't think about reality at all.
Crazy, in fact, Li Yijin has long become a sick and crazy existence in the beating and abuse of his mother Meng Mingwei for 30 years.
I don't deserve a better person, I don't deserve a better life.
was burned on Li Yijin's body.
Li Yijin, she is not ugly, and she can even be called gentle and beautiful. She also has a good job ability and a very good personality.
Her original family is actually not very bad in terms of economic conditions. The two aunts are both strong women, the family has a house and savings, and her parents are the only child.
However, Li Yijin is humble enough to go to marriage to find redemption, humble enough to be insensitive to deception and hurt, why?
Because, her father's 30-year indifference, and her mother's Meng Mingwei's 30-year beating and abuse, made her feel completely indifferent to hurt and even bullying.
She's used to it.
Li Yijin desperately rebelled against her mother, and even she lived with Zhou Yi to rebel against her mother. But in fact, the imprint given to her by her original family is subtle and deep-rooted. Such as,Very aggrieved, very tolerant, very compromised. It's hard to resist at first, but in the end, if you accumulate too much, you will resist too much.
The final landing point, I want to fall on the spiritual and emotional enrichment of children:
Li Yijin is a child who is mentally and emotionally poor, she is full of yearning and attachment to spiritual freedom and emotional stability, and once others give her a little bit of this kind of thing, she is easy to sink and ignore many realistic and objective things.
Therefore, we must raise children with pride, I deserve good things, and I will deserve good things through hard work.
When you grow up, you will find that many of the opportunities we miss in life are because of low self-esteem.
Come to this experience, be brave, be emotionally stable, look at the mountains and rivers, try to get in touch with beautiful things, don't put yourself in danger all the time, especially when you are incapable and cowardly, for the choice of marriage, you must choose a clearer and more gentle family, because once the situation is bad, you will be difficult to parry.
You have to always believe that a good family will avoid most of the hardships in marriage. This is the reality.