"Evil comes out of the mouth, and sickness enters through the mouth. "As a woman, you must also understand this truth, some words are actually said, and there is no advantage than not saying them, because after you say something, you will find that this sentence can no longer be taken back, but you have already said it, so it will also have a certain impact on you.
But there are many people who don't understand this truth, so after opening their mouths, they can't stop, especially many women, who often have such a phenomenon.
Middle-aged women after the age of 40 should remember some of the disadvantages that speaking brings to themselves, if you shut up on the following three things, in fact, it also shows that such a woman is not simple.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradicto
Someone is dealing with the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you don't think that if you have it, you will suffer if you let your mother-in-law, in fact, sometimes you will not only not suffer if you do this, but also make your family better and better.
Because of this, your mother-in-law is already old, and one day your mother-in-law may leave this world, then everything in this family is yours.
Therefore, if a woman shuts up everywhere in the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it will bring benefits to your family, so after bringing benefits to your family, in fact, in the end, this benefit is also left to you.
Some people quarrel with their mother-in-law all day long because they don't handle the conflict between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well. In the end, the family was shattered, and the mother-in-law may be satisfied.
You have to know that many mothers-in-law just can't see the good of their daughter-in-law, so they will find some reason to scold you, or find a reason to make you miserable.
How do you not be fooled when you meet this kind of mother-in-law, you must know that this mother-in-law is going to disturb your family, and if you shut up more in the future life, the other party will have nothing to do, and then you will show other horses.
Conflict between husband and wife
There is an old saying in the Chinese that it is very good:
Forgive and forgive."
Many people have memorized this sentence, so many people will let others when they have conflicts with others. But when you have a conflict with someone in your own family, especially with your lover, you forget the existence of this sentence.
There is a saying on the Internet that is also very good:
We always give tolerance to outsiders, but we always give meanness to the people around us, once the people around us make a mistake, we will immediately blame, affirm the people outside we are always so tolerant, always say something indifferent. ”
Women are often the same, when they are with their sisters, they like to treat their sisters to treats, or share some good things about themselves with their sisters.
But when you are with your husband or your boyfriend, if your husband or boyfriend doesn't pay for it, you will feel that the other person is a very picky person, and you will say bad things about each other in front of your sisters, and then try to separate from each other.
People are selfish, and so is the person who is with you. So sometimes you don't think so much about others, don't think that people should pay for you.
People are mutual, love is the same, and marriage is the same. If you don't give to this person, and you still ask for the other party, the other party will have some complaints in their hearts after a long time.
When dealing with the conflict between husband and wife, you must understand a truth: the two of you live together because of love, so the two of you should also tolerate each other.
Irrelevant people and things
Women must not spend themselves on irrelevant people. When you spend yourself, you will find that you are tired, but the other person may still be smiling across from you.
A wise woman will remember to say a sentence with an irrelevant person that will never be seen, because when you break off with an irrelevant person and thing, you will find that your life will be smooth.
For example, sometimes, the other party is talking about the rights and wrongs of some people, then at this time, if they say something not very good, you should not interject, because the other party may play you again.
There is a saying: You can't have the heart to harm others, and you can't have the heart to prevent people. ”
So don't say something you shouldn't say at this time, because when you say it, the other party may record it. Because many people let themselves be wronged because of these words, and they may be framed by others in the end.
When I was in college, there was a principal, and when the principal went to dinner with his colleagues, his colleagues kept saying some bad things, and then the president couldn't help but interject, and as a result, this sentence was recorded, and then ** in the school. Later, the principal was also forced to resign, in fact, he was also dismissed.
Therefore, when you are born as a human being, you must not think that people are so simple, there are many people in this world who are particularly bad.
Middle-aged women after the age of 40 must learn to shut up, which is a measure of self-protection for their own good.