A few years ago in Zhejiang, across the street from my cousin's rented house, there lived a thin aunt (in her 60s), who lived with her son's family.
On weekdays, my aunt does handicrafts at home and stays at home. When I went to my aunt's house to watch her do handicrafts, she smiled when she saw me and pointed to the stool next to me for me to sit down. Aunt is silent, and we chatted with each other. It can be seen that the aunt is a very kind old man.
Gradually, I found that my aunt often ate alone, and I was very puzzled, and asked my cousin, "Why does my aunt always eat alone?" The cousin smiled and said, "Her daughter-in-law thinks she is dirty, and every time she waits for their family to eat, she then asks her to come over to eat, and all the meals after eating are thrown away." ”
When I heard this, my heart was shocked, and my heart ached. In my eyes, my aunt is a clean person, dressed cleanly, and doesn't cough, **dirty?
Later, when I looked at my aunt again, my eyes were full of pity.
I noticed that my aunt's son and daughter-in-law seemed to be very kind, and the family chatted while eating, which was very lively.
Looking at the aunt in the room next to her, she was lonely, and suddenly felt sour in her heart, and felt sorry for the aunt: Isn't the saliva of your family of three not as much as mine? When you finish eating, the dishes are cold, can my old man's body withstand it? When your son sees you like this, will he not imitate you?
It didn't take long for me to leave Zhejiang.
One day half a year later, my cousin called ** and told me, "My aunt is dead." When I listened, my ears were like spring thunder, and my heart seemed to be boiling with a pot of duck blood soup, and my eyes were moist.
For a long time after that, I thought that my aunt was an extremely unfortunate person, and I sympathized with her and missed her.
It wasn't until today that I didn't know that my aunt was eating alone, and she was also maintaining her last dignity.
Before this year, the parents agreed not to eat with their sister (staying at home) and the family, and the sister agreed, but asked them to eat together except for the Chinese New Year's Eve and when her children came home to eat, and the second elder could cook by himself the rest of the time. The parents agreed.
I felt very uncomfortable when I knew it, and I felt very distressed when I remembered my father's way of bending his waist and cooking hard every day.
Later, I thought about it, my parents may not be willing to eat with my sister's family, my father has a bad tooth, he can't eat hard vegetables, even if there are dishes he likes to eat, he tries to free up for the children to eat, unless they don't eat it, he will take the bottom of the bowl. Mother can't eat spicy, but today's young people are not spicy or happy, every time they eat, their mother basically eats boiled water and soaked rice, which is not nutritious.
Besides, every time I eat, my parents have specific dishes and chopsticks, and I dislike them; If you don't clip it, you don't have to eat it, it's a problem to clip it or not. If they cough a few times, or spit on it, they will be like they have seen an atomic bomb, and they are far away from ......It's better to cook by yourself, eat as much as you want, and don't worry about what you eat, and be free.
Someone is going to say, there will always be a day when people can't burn food, don't they have to eat together?
In fact, if you really wait until the day when you can't cook the rice, you will not be far from the end of the day, at least you will not be disliked for a long time, which is cost-effective.
It can be seen that when you are old, you still have to cook your own food and retain your last dignity.