My name is Li Wei, I am 42 years old, and I am a sales manager in a medium-sized company.
After the divorce, I lived with my 8-year-old son Xiaojie, and in order to give my children a complete home, I chose to remarry.
The current wife's name is Wang Fang, 38 years old, is a primary school teacher, with a gentle appearance but a strong personality.
Not long after I met Wang Fang, I was very touched by the great enthusiasm she showed for my son Xiaojie.
I thought I had found a woman who could accept Xiaojie and give him motherly love.
So, after we met for half a year, we entered the palace of marriage.
In the early days of marriage, Wang Fang was really good to Xiaojie, preparing three nutritious meals for him every day, tutoring him in his homework, and even taking him out to play on weekends.
But as time went on, Wang Fang's attitude began to change.
She began to complain that Xiaojie did not do well in school, was naughty, and always compared him with other children.
Every time Xiaojie did something wrong, Wang Fang would reprimand him loudly and even beat him.
I tried to stop it many times, but Wang Fang always said: "I'm educating him, don't interfere!" ”
I know that Wang Fang's actions have caused a lot of harm to Xiaojie, but he is just a child and cannot express the pain in his heart.
Every time I see Xiaojie's injured eyes, my heart is like a knife.
One night, I came home from work and found Xiaojie hiding in his room crying.
I walked into the room and saw that his face had obvious red marks and his clothes were torn.
I angrily rushed out of the room and asked Wang Fang, "What's wrong with you?" Why do you treat Xiaojie like this? ”
Wang Fang said coldly: "I'm just educating him, he's too naughty and needs to be disciplined well." ”
I couldn't hold back any longer, so I rushed over and slapped Wang Fang twice.
She froze and looked at me in disbelief.
I yelled, "How can you do this to a child?" He's still a kid, not your punching bag! ”
Wang Fang covered her face and cried, "You beat me for a child? How can you do this to me? ”
I took a deep breath, tried to calm my emotions, and said:
Wang Fang, I married you in the hope that you can give Xiaojie a warm home, not let you abuse him. If you can't accept him, then we'll divorce! ”
Wang Fang looked at me in shock, probably not expecting me to say such a thing.
She was silent for a moment, then cried and said:
I know I was wrong, I shouldn't have done this to Jay. I'll fix it, please forgive me. ”
I looked at her with mixed feelings.
I know that this conflict is not only because Wang Fang bullied Xiaojie, but also because of the lack of communication and understanding between us.
I decided to give Wang Fang a chance, and also give myself a chance.
From that day on, I began to pay more attention to the relationship between Xiaojie and Wang Fang.
I try to do chores with them, play games, and bond with them.
I also had a frank conversation with Wang Fang about my thoughts and concerns, hoping that she would truly understand my position and feelings.
Gradually, Wang Fang's attitude began to change.
She no longer beats and scolds Xiaojie at will, but tries to educate him in a gentler way.
Xiaojie also slowly accepted Wang Fang and began to call her "Mom".
I know this is just the beginning and there is still a long way to go.
But I believe that as long as we understand each other and support each other, we will be able to give Xiaojie a happy home.
This story made me deeply realize that marriage is not just a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families.
In a remarried family, how to deal with the relationship with the ex-wife and children is a great test for marriage.
I believe that as long as there is love and responsibility in our hearts, we can overcome all difficulties and create a happy family.