In order to take care of her daughter, Lin Shuangshuang quit her job and returned to the family, achieving her husband's career. But after her husband's career was successful, his growing sense of superiority made him less and less interested in his wife, and took her for granted as an old mother who served him. bought a villa without telling his wife, cheated on him, and even divorced. Although this is just the plot of the TV series "Good Things Come in Pairs", I deeply resonated with it. 
Mr. Qu and I are college classmates, and we are the enviable couple who walked from campus to the red carpet in their eyes. Mr. Qu is handsome, very good to me, and always follows me first. He would say a lot of touching love words, and we talked about it for two years in college, and it was as sweet as honey all the way. Perhaps, I was captured by his sweet words, and I had a wedding with him directly after graduation. It is easy to ask for priceless treasures, and it is rare to have a lover. His family was not wealthy, and for the sake of frugality, we only invited a few close friends and immediate family members on both sides. With everyone's blessings, a simple and warm wedding was held. After we got married, we went back to the small county town of our hometown and made a down payment for a small two-room set, which can be regarded as having a home. Both of them found jobs they liked. After everything stabilized, I gradually found that Mr. Qu after marriage was different from before. He is not too busy with work, and he travels extensively. I work during the day, and I am busy traveling and socializing at night. Finally, one weekend, I either went back to my hometown to see my parents, or asked friends to play ball and drink. I don't seem to be self-motivated, so I'm at ease with my current state and enjoy life. 
And I, in addition to working during the day, have a bunch of chores to do when I come home at night, mopping the floor, doing laundry, and cooking. I'm so busy that my back hurts. Sometimes I complained to Mr. Qu, and Mr. Qu said, "Are you my daughter-in-law, the family is always a woman's world, the daughter-in-law does a good job, and the capable work hard, and this family is harmonious." "After having my daughter Qudoudou, I was so busy that I couldn't fly, so I rushed home as soon as I got off work. The child eats, drinks, sleeps, changes diapers and feeds in the middle of the night, everything can be so busy that I am tired and paralyzed, and occasionally the child is sick and Mr. Qu accuses me of not doing my job. People say that "one pregnancy is stupid for three years", and I really feel that in the past three years, I have not even had time to have a meal with my girlfriends except for my home and work. When other friends ask me out, I can push it. Qudoudou was a little bigger, and I was running around early education classes and various interest classes, and I was busier on weekends than during the week. After five years of marriage, I gained a thinning hair, two dark circles, three crow's feet and an increasingly weighed weight. In addition to being physically tired, I am also tired in my heart, and I feel that I am living on an island, and I can't even find someone to talk to. I found out that since I got married, I am not Mr. Qu's daughter-in-law, I am Qu Doudou's mother. I never had time to be myself. Yes, a married woman does not deserve her own time. 
And Mr. Qu is still chic like a single guy, eating, drinking, and playing cards. Part 2 After having a child, the cost of the family has skyrocketed instantly, milk powder, early education classes, interest classes, all of which are a lot of expenses. And Mr. Qu and I both relied on that dead salary, and our lives seemed to be stretched, and the increasingly tight economy made the mortgage even more stressful. This made me more and more agitated. I also tried to change him, and I asked him to either help with the children, do housework, or find a way to do a side hustle to earn more money, and stop wasting a lot of time on those meaningless and ineffective social interactions. Mr. Qu's reason is that he socializes with friends every day so that he can study how to find good business opportunities. It really made me laugh. I haven't made any achievements in five years, and no matter how good the business opportunities are, I can miss them 100 times by his plaything's discouraged temperament. After a big fight, Mr. Qu stubbornly slammed the door and left, leaving me alone at home to be angry. As a result, they came back in the middle of the night, and when they asked, they went to play cards with their friends. I don't want to bird you at all. Ignoring your feelings is the deepest hurt. It really will be different for men before marriage and after marriage. It turned out that he was really "blind", so he would marry him without hesitation. 
After being deeply disappointed in Mr. Qu, I finally took the most helpless step of all women: if I can't change him, I can only change myself. So, I started to invest hard in myself and develop a side hustle. After a year and a half of continuous failure and restart, my current main business is 3,000 yuan, and the side business can be stable at 2,300 yuan a month, which is a bit of an achievement. Give it a go, and turn your bike into a motorcycle. After seeing the hope, I was more busy with my side hustle, and I didn't have time to pay attention to Mr. Qu's eating and drinking. On the contrary, I feel less tired. No two leaves are the same, and no two people are the same. It's normal that you can't think of anything with him. There are also many women who find out that they have married the wrong person, but they are still doing well, and that is because they know how to manage themselves. There are expectations for him, so I will be disappointed. You don't have any more expectations of him, you only treat him as a friend, you live yours, he lives his, you will find that he is very good, completely exceeds your expectations, and surprises you everywhere. part 3
Mu Zhuohua in the TV series "Scorching Romance" is a concubine woman whose mother died early and her father does not want to see, a girl who was allowed to be a concubine to the county princess, for her own future, she studied poetry and books since she was a child, escaped from marriage and fell into the capital, and through her own efforts, she participated in the scientific examination, and in one fell swoop, she became a female official of the dynasty who was highly valued by the emperor. In the end, she also gained a beautiful love, and finally became a family with a lover who had always been in love with her. Successful women are all unwilling to accept fate, do not yield, work hard, and finally counterattack and turn the tables and walk out of a new world. Mu Zhuohua once said to his maidservant, don't give up your career for love, think about it, how many of those women who give up their careers for love have a good ending? Mu Zhuohua has always kept a clear head, even if the prince is very good to her, she does not want to give up her workplace, so as to rely on men. 
Of course, this is not to say that love is undesirable, but to say that once love is disappointed, you still have a career to choose. It will not be doomed. Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life" is a typical representative of giving up his career for love. Chen Junsheng said, "You are responsible for being beautiful like a flower, and I am responsible for making money to support the family", which made her willing to take off her high heels, take off her red makeup, and wash her hands and make soup for him from now on. In addition to taking care of the children and housekeeping, she just went to the beauty salon all day long, worried that her husband would cheat, but her husband still cheated, and she was finally ruthlessly abandoned. For a middle-aged girl who became a housewife after graduation and was completely out of touch with society, it was a devastating blow. 
Luo Zijun's sky fell. She cried like crazy and sank for a while, and she figured it out. She began to enter the workplace, endured hardships, was looked down upon, and grew from a shoe seller in a shopping mall to a workplace elite who could take charge of herself in a large company. Keeping pace with those men in the workplace, women don't let their eyebrows go. The shining Luo Zijun made Chen Junsheng regret that he didn't cherish her at the beginning, and only then did he think about chasing her back in vain. The style of painting flips too fast, and it looks really funny. But Luo Zijun would never look at him again, because she lived well on her own, even better than before, and there was a more worthy man waiting for her. Why did she have to accept the man who hurt her so deeply? 
Yang Jiang said: A man's biggest failure is to force a woman who didn't want anything at the beginning, just to be good to her, into a woman, a madman, and finally left ruthlessly. Chen Junsheng was indeed a failure, but it was precisely because Chen Junsheng ruthlessly abandoned her that she had a chance to be reborn. Water to the end of the scenery is the scenery, people to the end of the place is rebirth. Human nature is inherently fickle, and there are many factors of emotional instability. There are many men outside, if you are counting on love to live and pin your happiness on a man's stormy feelings for yourself, sooner or later you will be hurt all over your body. Or is it more reliable to have a career, after all, only career and money will not let you down. If you have money in your hands, you won't panic. 
I like a sentence written by Woolf in "A Room of One's Own": "In order to escape from suffering, in order to protect ideals, in order not to be dragged forward by fate, work hard to make money, friend!" ”