The significance of the bride price has always been of great concern in Chinese society. It is both a part of traditional customs and a point of contention in modern society. So, what exactly is a bride price? Is it to sell your daughter or to get respect?
First of all, we have to understand that the bride price is not the sale of daughters. In ancient times, the bride price was a kind of compensation from the man to the woman's family, because when the woman married into the man's family, she was equivalent to giving up her family's resources. But in modern society, women are no longer an accessory to men, they have their own work and life, so the bride price is no longer a compensation.
So, is the bride price in exchange for respect? Not exactly. Although in some places the bride price is seen as a symbol of respect and affection for the woman, more often than not, the bride price becomes a means of comparison and show-off. Some families, for the sake of face or comparison, blindly increase the amount of the bride price regardless of their own economic conditions, which undoubtedly increases the economic burden of the man's family and makes the marriage utilitarian and materialistic.
In fact, the meaning of the bride price should be to express the man's love and commitment to the woman, not to measure it in money. A man who truly loves you will care about your feelings and needs, not just your family background and the amount of the bride price. Therefore, we should abandon the concept of treating the bride price as a transaction and establish a correct view of marriage and love.
Of course, this does not mean that we should abolish the bride price altogether. In some places, bride price is still a traditional practice with a certain cultural and historical significance. Through reform and innovation, we can return the bride price to its essence as a way to express love and respect, rather than a heavy burden.
For example, we can set reasonable bride price standards to avoid excessively high or low bride price amounts. At the same time, we can also promote wedding simplicity and reduce unnecessary expenses and waste. In addition, we can also strengthen the supervision and management of the marriage market, and crack down on those who engage in fraud and speculation on the grounds of bride price. The bride price should be used as a start-up capital for a small family, not as a "compensation" from one family to another.
Of course, there are some problems in reality. For example, in some places, the bride price is huge, which brings a heavy burden to the man's family; In some places, the bride price is regarded as a bargaining chip, ignoring the essence of marriage. These are all things that we need to be vigilant and reflect.
So, in modern society, how should we view the bride price? I think the first thing to do is to get rid of the notion that women are "traded goods" and focus on the emotional foundation of marriage. Secondly, the amount of the bride price should be moderate, and it should not be overly luxurious and wasteful. Finally, both families should treat the bride price issue with equality and respect, and avoid conflicts and disputes arising from the bride price.
In short, the bride price is not a sale price, but an expression of emotion and a symbol of respect. In marriage, we should pay more attention to the emotional foundation and mutual support of both parties, rather than being overly entangled in the amount and form of the bride price. Only in this way can we establish a healthy and harmonious marital relationship.
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